Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Undead Ban said:
I've never had success with online dating.

Ever.

Women don't match and don't respond to my messages.

I'm a regular dude too I'm not asking "what that mouth do" or just saying "hey" either.

I usually try to read their profile and say something that is in reference to what she had on her profile.
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Online dating is for a select few, and depending on your location you could be shyt out of luck
 
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Undead Ban said:
I've never had success with online dating.

Ever.

Women don't match and don't respond to my messages.

I'm a regular dude too I'm not asking "what that mouth do" or just saying "hey" either.

I usually try to read their profile and say something that is in reference to what she had on her profile.
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Why not just keep the dating profile open for a while? There's no harm in having it. And what city are you in?
 
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Is it a red flag for a woman to be in her mid 30s (34 & up) to not have kids?

There’s this older female I know who is in her 30s. She live by herself no kids and 2 small dogs. I was taken by that shyt when she told me :ohhh:
 
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Sonny Bonds said:
Why not just keep the dating profile open for a while? There's no harm in having it. And what city are you in?
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I just downloaded them again.

But that embarrassment of sending multiple messages and no replies makes me feel like it's pointless and I go thru a cycle of deleting and redownloading the app even tho the results never change :lupe:
 
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A breh I know, 18, been knocking down these fiyah ass milfs lately. I mean dude is PALGing PAWGIN PAAGIN. Dude been doing that since he was 16, real good looking grown women too.

Breh never gave a shyt, he always been the time of kid to shoot his shot. He was clowning my ass for being on these apps all the time, said he could just walk outside and pull the baddest one out that day.
 
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KingZimbabwe said:
A breh I know, 18, been knocking down these fiyah ass milfs lately. I mean dude is PALGing PAWGIN PAAGIN. Dude been doing that since he was 16, real good looking grown women too.

Breh never gave a shyt, he always been the time of kid to shoot his shot. He was clowning my ass for being on these apps all the time, said he could just walk outside and pull the baddest one out that day.
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Every one has been so reliant on these dating apps they forgot about the lost art of just approaching a woman
 
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Undead Ban said:
I've never had success with online dating.

Ever.

Women don't match and don't respond to my messages.

I'm a regular dude too I'm not asking "what that mouth do" or just saying "hey" either.

I usually try to read their profile and say something that is in reference to what she had on her profile.
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Online dating is not my forte but I've gotten laid through it once or twice over the last few months. Having little actual matches is not a huge deal so I wouldn't take it personally. For every match I have, there are at least 10-20 women I wanted that swiped left on me. Even the people doing OK with the app can get disheartened so don't sweat it.

Note that a lot of people have generic/similar profiles. Lots of girls taking photos at the same pop-up IG venues and I'm sure there are a lot of fellas with basic-ass selfies in their bathroom mirror, etc. In my limited experience, the average profile for an attractive woman is different than the average profile for a woman that is less attractive or more desperate. I would venture to say that the same thing applies for men as well.

Some ideas that come to mind is to look online at some guy profiles on social media (no homo) that are doing well with women and see what are they doing with their photos? I would stay away from national celebrities because their social media is not something the average dude can model their social media off of easily, but local dudes that have the juice are a good example. Personally, I would look for dudes that are creatives that are winning like videographers, barbers, local lawyers, local success stories, etc. Dudes that aren't flashing money but are showing their worth through their passions.

Looking at their profiles... Are they surrounded by friends? Are they doing hobbies that are cool? Are they smiling? Are they witty in their profile caption? Do they have four paragraphs explaining exactly what they want in their profile or are they playing it cool with just one or two sentences?

Everybody is figuring out how to do online dating at the same time so there is no shame in googling around for non-douchebag tips. I wouldn't pay for any dating coaches or anything... the goal is to learn new things and to break things down to have 'SMART goals' (google it) that you are working towards. It is unlikely that you are going to go from little/no matches -> getting laid overnight, but if you are like me, you will grind and slowly get better and eventually work your way up to getting more dates.

For me, it took lots of clubbing/bar-hopping (and alcohol) but eventually I got better and each step I conquered became ingrained in me. Prior to leveling up, I always hit a wall and thought that there is no way that I could ever get to the next level, but I stuck to it, learned from my mistakes, and overcame each step. This is just how it goes. Off the top of my head, here are some smaller tasks that I worked on (slightly modified for you).
  1. Figure out what type of women I like
    1. Are they black? White? Artsy? Gamers?
  2. Am I the kind of guy that these girls will be interested in?
    1. Take 10-15 minutes and write down what type of guy you think they are looking for and/or what type of guys they are used to dealing with. Don't write generic shyt like "Guy with money" or "basketball player". Focus on the root cause of why she seeks those things out. For example, if I'm into a woman who is in the black professional scene, instead of assuming she wants to date a lawyer, I can ask myself what is it about her upbringing that made her so driven? Did she come from poverty and is overcompensating? Did her mom juggle three jobs and so she is just as motivated? Does she need to work to avoid thinking about how lonely she is? Understanding your "type's" perspective goes a long way.
    2. If you aren't gifted with naturally great looks, then focus on what you can control (body weight, hygiene, clothing, etc).
  3. Get better at figuring out where I can find these type of women
    1. What clubs/party scenes apps cater to these types of women? Depending on where you live, you might need to edit the minimum/maximum distance to limit or include people. I know that my neighborhood has the women I like, but if I put my Tinder to like 4 miles or greater, I get shown a lot of white women that aren't checking for me. Something that small can make a big difference. If I am getting shown a bunch of white women that aren't checking for me, I can maybe get 2 match for every 50 likes, but if I limit my location settings, I might get 6 matches for every 50 likes which actually makes a big difference over the long term
  4. Working up the courage to talk to these women Update your profile to get more matches.
    1. If you have any sisters, female cousins or female friends, ask them for feedback on your profile.
  5. Get better at holding conversations.
  6. Get better at holding conversations that aren't boring as shyt
    1. There is a difference between talking to women, and talking to women in a way that gets them interested. There are books and articles but trial and error is the way to go imo.
  7. Get better at getting a phone number to talk to her again separate yourself from the 5-10 other guys in her DMs
  8. Get better at figuring out how to text women so that they stay interested If you are meeting women online, step 5 covers this
  9. Get better at setting up dates
  10. Get better at not being awkward when you do get dates
  11. Get better at working up the courage to invite women back to your place and not fumbling
 
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KingZimbabwe said:
A breh I know, 18, been knocking down these fiyah ass milfs lately. I mean dude is PALGing PAWGIN PAAGIN. Dude been doing that since he was 16, real good looking grown women too.

Breh never gave a shyt, he always been the time of kid to shoot his shot. He was clowning my ass for being on these apps all the time, said he could just walk outside and pull the baddest one out that day.
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Because women are not getting approached like that for real. This chick I walked up on the other day, told me she had a boyfriend, but didn't look like she wanted the conversation to end.

If I was that type of nikka :mjlit:......


Seems like younger women like when older guys approach and older women love when younger guys approach....
 
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Macallik86 said:
Online dating is not my forte but I've gotten laid through it once or twice over the last few months. Having little actual matches is not a huge deal so I wouldn't take it personally. For every match I have, there are at least 10-20 women I wanted that swiped left on me. Even the people doing OK with the app can get disheartened so don't sweat it.

Note that a lot of people have generic/similar profiles. Lots of girls taking photos at the same pop-up IG venues and I'm sure there are a lot of fellas with basic-ass selfies in their bathroom mirror, etc. In my limited experience, the average profile for an attractive woman is different than the average profile for a woman that is less attractive or more desperate. I would venture to say that the same thing applies for men as well.

Some ideas that come to mind is to look online at some guy profiles on social media (no homo) that are doing well with women and see what are they doing with their photos? I would stay away from national celebrities because their social media is not something the average dude can model their social media off of easily, but local dudes that have the juice are a good example. Personally, I would look for dudes that are creatives that are winning like videographers, barbers, local lawyers, local success stories, etc. Dudes that aren't flashing money but are showing their worth through their passions.

Looking at their profiles... Are they surrounded by friends? Are they doing hobbies that are cool? Are they smiling? Are they witty in their profile caption? Do they have four paragraphs explaining exactly what they want in their profile or are they playing it cool with just one or two sentences?

Everybody is figuring out how to do online dating at the same time so there is no shame in googling around for non-douchebag tips. I wouldn't pay for any dating coaches or anything... the goal is to learn new things and to break things down to have 'SMART goals' (google it) that you are working towards. It is unlikely that you are going to go from little/no matches -> getting laid overnight, but if you are like me, you will grind and slowly get better and eventually work your way up to getting more dates.

For me, it took lots of clubbing/bar-hopping (and alcohol) but eventually I got better and each step I conquered became ingrained in me. Prior to leveling up, I always hit a wall and thought that there is no way that I could ever get to the next level, but I stuck to it, learned from my mistakes, and overcame each step. This is just how it goes. Off the top of my head, here are some smaller tasks that I worked on (slightly modified for you).
  1. Figure out what type of women I like
    1. Are they black? White? Artsy? Gamers?
  2. Am I the kind of guy that these girls will be interested in?
    1. Take 10-15 minutes and write down what type of guy you think they are looking for and/or what type of guys they are used to dealing with. Don't write generic shyt like "Guy with money" or "basketball player". Focus on the root cause of why she seeks those things out. For example, if I'm into a woman who is in the black professional scene, instead of assuming she wants to date a lawyer, I can ask myself what is it about her upbringing that made her so driven? Did she come from poverty and is overcompensating? Did her mom juggle three jobs and so she is just as motivated? Does she need to work to avoid thinking about how lonely she is? Understanding your "type's" perspective goes a long way.
    2. If you aren't gifted with naturally great looks, then focus on what you can control (body weight, hygiene, clothing, etc).
  3. Get better at figuring out where I can find these type of women
    1. What clubs/party scenes apps cater to these types of women? Depending on where you live, you might need to edit the minimum/maximum distance to limit or include people. I know that my neighborhood has the women I like, but if I put my Tinder to like 4 miles or greater, I get shown a lot of white women that aren't checking for me. Something that small can make a big difference. If I am getting shown a bunch of white women that aren't checking for me, I can maybe get 2 match for every 50 likes, but if I limit my location settings, I might get 6 matches for every 50 likes which actually makes a big difference over the long term
  4. Working up the courage to talk to these women Update your profile to get more matches.
    1. If you have any sisters, female cousins or female friends, ask them for feedback on your profile.
  5. Get better at holding conversations.
  6. Get better at holding conversations that aren't boring as shyt
    1. There is a difference between talking to women, and talking to women in a way that gets them interested. There are books and articles but trial and error is the way to go imo.
  7. Get better at getting a phone number to talk to her again separate yourself from the 5-10 other guys in her DMs
  8. Get better at figuring out how to text women so that they stay interested If you are meeting women online, step 5 covers this
  9. Get better at setting up dates
  10. Get better at not being awkward when you do get dates
  11. Get better at working up the courage to invite women back to your place and not fumbling
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At 30, I can't see myself looking up other men's pages for tips on how to get women.

I'm definitely not paying for no dating coaches either.

I do think the type of woman I like isn't around me, but my inexperience makes me feel like I may not even be ready for that right now.

I don't want to be that guy making demands for a specific type of woman knowing damn well if I met her I wouldn't even know what to do with her.

I don't even mean sexually, I mean what do I really have to offer her?

Im too boring for the dating world.
 
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