Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Sonny Bonds

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What are you guys doing for dates? There’s walking in the park with drinks and restaurants with outdoor seating. That’s all I’ve got, but it’s gonna be hot out.
 

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Okay, I’ve figured out why I don’t like the “not looking for a hookup” thing on a girl’s profile.

If they were just going on a string of first and second dates, are you telling me they wouldn’t have sex with anybody if the streak lasted for 6 months? A year?

If they matched with a somewhat flabby looking dude, but they gave him a chance because he was really funny (and the picture angles were good), but then Morris Chestnut showed up; are telling me that none of those chicks would be practically stroking him off in the corner booth of the lounge?

I guess I’m of the mind that whatever happens happens.
 

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Im not even gon @ anyone, theres no need to kick a brother when hes down.

Fellas gotta stop using this thread to just vent about they bytches. The "Gems" in the title is for advice. This aint a diary. This keeps happening and dudes dont apply what others tell them. Knowing how to handle women is not just a joke

Main reason i stopped coming in here most nikkas stopped talkin game and now sprint to post cuz they talked to a girl today :gladbron:
 

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Okay, I’ve figured out why I don’t like the “not looking for a hookup” thing on a girl’s profile.

If they were just going on a string of first and second dates, are you telling me they wouldn’t have sex with anybody if the streak lasted for 6 months? A year?

If they matched with a somewhat flabby looking dude, but they gave him a chance because he was really funny (and the picture angles were good), but then Morris Chestnut showed up; are telling me that none of those chicks would be practically stroking him off in the corner booth of the lounge?

I guess I’m of the mind that whatever happens happens.

I don't even take these chicks serious.
I passed up a few of those profiles and these chicks will say "dont hmu about sex" yet they 1st or second picture got them tooting they ass up or got they mouth open with they tongue out
:martin:
 

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Yall brehs remember the girl I been talking about who had housing and we was supposed to move in together?...this hoe done played me!
:damn:

So the other day we on the phone and she finally about to get her key and she gon tell me that I can't stay there
:dahell:
Im the one who paid the hundreds of dollars before the paperwork and took her to do all the paperwork.
Got people that was waiting on us to move to give us stuff, held her down when she was homeless, took her to the hospital when she started having breath problems, etc.
Now a few days after my grandma pass she wanna hit me with this dumb shyt.

She wanna bring up some old shyt on how this not gon work all of a sudden and she don't be with me.
Talking about "you never wanted to watch the shows I wanted to watch", "you don't act like you wanna be with me" ,etc

These hoes full of shyt brehs
:pacspit:

Told me "you can come over sometimes, spend the night....but then you gotta go"
fukk kinda shyt is this? like we ain't been planning to get this crib for months. smh

You sound young. You don't move in with a women unless your name is on the lease. She would have 110% kicked you out anyways.
 

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Off-topic but relating to women

How do you build self-confidence and high self- esteem?

I was a bit depressive and bullied growing up so I never really got to cultivate that. I’m okay now, but my lack of self esteem has def been hurting me with women. No real strong male figures to guide me.

Wondering if anyone has been though and overcame this - any tips for a breh?
 

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Off-topic but relating to women

How do you build self-confidence and high self- esteem?

I was a bit depressive and bullied growing up so I never really got to cultivate that. I’m okay now, but my lack of self esteem has def been hurting me with women. No real strong male figures to guide me.

Wondering if anyone has been though and overcame this - any tips for a breh?
Yea breh. This is surprisingly common for men nowadays. The best way to deal with it is to take time to work on yourself and accomplish small but significant things that will lead to you seeing yourself in a better light. Get in better shape, make a lil extra paper, acquire more knowledge and skills. Monk Mode
 

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Off-topic but relating to women

How do you build self-confidence and high self- esteem?

I was a bit depressive and bullied growing up so I never really got to cultivate that. I’m okay now, but my lack of self esteem has def been hurting me with women. No real strong male figures to guide me.

Wondering if anyone has been though and overcame this - any tips for a breh?

Getting your shyt together.

I've used the last few months to complete several courses on everything from IT to self development, got a couple of certs, read quite a few books (I've listed some of them in this thread) and lost a lot of weight despite gyms being closed.

Building up your knowledge and health is the best thing you can do for yourself. This year's been challenging with family bullshyt and all the other stuff going on, but I've learned to focus on stuff that matters. Naturally your self esteem grows and you find that dealing with chicks or anybody else for that matter is a walk in the park, cos you no longer care what other people think and you know what your capabilities are. Once you keep the momentum going, it's like the Incredible Hulk - you just become more unstoppable despite the obstacles thrown in your path.
 
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You sound young. You don't move in with a women unless your name is on the lease. She would have 110% kicked you out anyways.

I woulda been in there with cheap rent.
Otherwise I'll have to find a different crib and have even less money. (And that still woulda took awhile to get to that point)
 

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I woulda been in there with cheap rent.
Otherwise I'll have to find a different crib and have even less money. (And that still woulda took awhile to get to that point)

Bruh..

She can easily outsource her vagina and get govt help to replace whatever you were doing for her...

You not seeing the bigger picture of what's being said..
Get your own or put something in writing...
 
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Why do some of these women think that a bike ride would make a good date?

You're tripping, mane. That's one of the best ways to engage with the opposite sex. Y'all get cardio and can actually explore scenery, therefore you could have a-lot to talk about with a date like that.

But everybody is different, so.... :yeshrug:
 
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