Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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To hammer in the point everyone who replied to you already has. The average person checks their phone every 12 minutes. This includes people with jobs, at school, etc. So unless she's the fukking president there's no way she's that busy. You have an entire 24 hrs to send a simple text back. If she can't do this, then move on. Yes she's seen your text, and yes she's not replying on purpose.

If a chick ain't even hitting you back now with everywhere being closed and on lockdown then she definitely ain't interested lol.

Dudes care way too much than they should anyway. shyt like this doesn't even faze me anymore.
 

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Boutta break quarantine for ole girl I met at a fetlife munch. Ole girl looked like her and the head was .
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This whole month alot of bytches just chattn for attention


Unless shes coming over now just dead it till may

yeah my mindset changed, i aint hitting up chicks and if this is just going back and forth i just don't reply

we aint meeting up so whats the point, if i want to chat ill just log on to the coli
 

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If a chick ain't even hitting you back now with everywhere being closed and on lockdown then she definitely ain't interested lol.

Dudes care way too much than they should anyway. shyt like this doesn't even faze me anymore.

exactly
I had a chick text me the other day cuz she knows i work at a hospital. Checking in on me etc. I replied back NO Message

i just deleted, 90% of the world is locked down on doing nothing if they ain't giving you a sliver of their time and taking ages to message you back adios
 

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To hammer in the point everyone who replied to you already has. The average person checks their phone every 12 minutes. This includes people with jobs, at school, etc. So unless she's the fukking president there's no way she's that busy. You have an entire 24 hrs to send a simple text back. If she can't do this, then move on. Yes she's seen your text, and yes she's not replying on purpose.

I remember when Kobe died hearing all these stories it seemed everyone was texting kobe and he'd reply back etc.

IF KOBE FRIGGIN BRYANT was out there with his busy life married with kids, stardom all of that and replying to text messages there is no reason at all none of these chicks are that "busy"

Donald Trump is on twitter all the time and hes the gawt damn president in a pandemic

If anything what covid/pandemic is showing me and hopefully others is get rid of most of these chicks. The power is back in your hands because everywhere is closed and no one is dating etc., and this ish could go on for 2-3 months even longer so adios
 

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Let's get back on the 'man mentality' lessons

Hunter Mentality part 2

In the olden days before these ultra efficient systems where essentially everything is provided for us, we had to hunt for our food or gather it somehow, someway. If we didn't find food, we perished. What this environment created was a type of person that had to be truly accountable. If you didn't go out and handle your business, you wouldn't survive. Another key characteristic of the hunter was that the hunter knew that he had to pursue. He had to make a conscious effort to go out and look for his sustenance.

One thing I notice about a lot of today's generation is the passivity. A lot of this was drilled into you from your schooling. Do what the authority's tell you and you will be provided for. Get 'the grades' and you'll get a nice, little comfortable job. However, we see that all of that is an illusion. The reality is that nothing is guaranteed, as your job will fire you in the drop of a dime. However, this passive attitude still remains. What do most people do if they get fired and can't find another job? A lot of them go into depression and allow themselves to sulk. We've removed the hunter's mentality from today's man and he no longer has any entrepreneurial ability to go out and seek his own sustenance when some company isn't providing for him.

We've also lost out on the wisdom that it is a great thing to have a stockpile of reserves. When most people get some cash, such as a cash return, what do they do with it? Most likely they will go and spend it all. Then they wonder why they are so stressed out and constantly under pressure at their job. They build no reserves, so if they in a jam where no income is coming in, they are stuck. Think about the story in the Bible where there were 7 years of abundance and 7 years of famine. If Pharoah didn't listen to Joseph when God warned him about this and decide to stock up during those 7 years of abundance, those 7 years of famine would have destroyed the populace. We live in such a time where there is enough prosperity that we don't believe we ever have to store up reserves. If you went to someone's house and you seen he had a couple of years worth of water and canned food stored up, you would probably think he was some 'conspiracy theorist' or some kind of nut because you've never lived in a time where you couldn't just up and go to a stocked grocery store. However, if it has happened in the past, it can happen again. This applies to money as well. If you have a large sum coming in, you simply have to stash some of it away as a fall-back fund because you never know when you will be let go from your job. Also, a large fall-back fund allows you much more independence, since you aren't forced to be at a job you detest.

One thing I learned in life is that things simply don't 'come to you.' If you wait for it to just come to you, you'll be waiting forever. You have to go up and get it. What does this really mean? It means you need to start training yourself to develop a stockpile of reserves, and you also need to develop a hunter's mentality to where you have some entrepreneurial talent. The reality is that we are living in a time where corporations exert a huge amount of leverage on any nation and their goal is profit, first and foremost. Labor cost is a profit, and they want you, a human resource, as cheaply as possible. If you simply leave your income up to some company paying you, you will be making less and less as time goes on, to the point where you can't even survive.

You ever wonder why they don't teach you entrepreneurship or personal finance in school? The reason is because school isn't intended for learning. It's intended to make you an obedient employee and a consumer. This will lead to someone who is perpetually in debt and a wage slave. It's up to you to choose to break that cycle or not.


I was looking for this post for awhile.

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I’ve had time to assess some things about our current predicament with the self-quarantine situation: a lot of us men aren’t willing to engage with conversations with women through text because there is no opportunity to link up. I realized that now imo is the best time to communicate with them to improve your verbal skills. To really see what they’re about and how they’re holding up. The reality is that things are tough out here so it doesn’t hurt to put the sexual aspect aside for a minute and just really have that good communication.
 
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Fellas, we're approaching the 8 year anniversary of this thread in June :salute:

Regardless of whether you discovered this thread in 2012 (coli edition)... 2005 (Sohh edition)... or 2 months ago, i got a questions for you:

What have you done differently in dealing with women since discovering this thread?


What gems do you actively apply that you weren't before? How's it working for you compared to before?
 

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For me,
I hardly compliment women anymore. I'm not an a$$hole but i'm judicial in giving praise. (i.e. if she sends a titty pic, i may be like "attah girl.. you did good"). Positive reinforcement for when she does something good for me, as opposed to hoping she'll give you something for praising/validating her all the damn time.

I'll contact a woman no more than 1-2 times a week (if any of em contact me more, i keep it short & sweet) no pen pal shyt. I used to text too damn much with all of them, thinking all the damn yapping was beneficial. Really, it was just draining and unproductive.

I'll "screen" her (via phone call, face time, etc) before the first date to gauge/confirm initial interest before i go.. I say this because it ties to my next point, which is:

I'll cancel the date and cut her off if during the screening I feel she's not showing strong interest (i.e. not flirtatious, not complimentary, acting like she's the prize). I'm not wasting my time or money.

I'll also pick/confirm the venue, usually a lowkey drink spot/sports bar. If they want something fancy for the first date/meetup, obviously she already bushed.. and that type of energy would've been reflected in the initial screening, which is why i have it.

I'm very quick to check her and cut her off if she gives any masculine energy towards me (i.e. passive aggressive bullshyt, tryna take shots/clown/test me). No disrespect tolerated.
 
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