Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

Mandarin Duck

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Think you have to submit to your girl Brehs
Again, I'm completely ignorant of relationships and how they work but that's what I see.

I mean the saying "happy wife, happy life" is a saying for a reason.

What are the benefits you receive from being in a relationship?
 

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No.

You've never been in a relationship and it shows.

In a real relationship, neither partner has to pretend they care. They both will genuinely care about each other enough to be honest with each other
They've been married for over a decade with 2 children.

Is that not a real relationship?
 

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The worst is when a chick is feeling you big time then you meet up and then after the energy isn’t the same. You know something is off and she probably ain’t feeling you but you want to know what happened. Like a post game analysis.lol

skip bay less and Shannon sharp debating on how you screwed the date up. Lol!
 

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Yes he does.
In order to submit.

He knew the shyt storm that would be waiting for him when he got home had he hung up on her, or told her "I don't care".

Maybe he does care. Maybe in the moment u saw him he was stressed at work and responded in that way

Or maybe he has an annoying wife like you said who will nag him for being uncaring when he gets home

In any event, you never say "i don't care" or just hang up. That's being an a$$hole over nothing huge. Be different if she asked him to leave work immediately and help her look for them
 

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The worst is when a chick is feeling you big time then you meet up and then after the energy isn’t the same. You know something is off and she probably ain’t feeling you but you want to know what happened. Like a post game analysis.lol

skip bay less and Shannon sharp debating on how you screwed the date up. Lol!

Could be. Or it could be that you could never live up to her fantasy/fairy-tale expectations to begin with.

Maybe you did something "wrong" , maybe you didn't. Most women are being fake at first. So you treat her according to the fake persona she's portraying, but the real her gets bored bc you didn't engage her properly.

You upset bc she didnt wanna hang out after the first date, when in reality you were never dealing with the real her.
 

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I've never been in a relationship before and when I look at what some people have to deal with I don't think I want to.

My boss got a phone call from his wife because she lost her glasses at the gym.

She calls him back 45 minutes later to say she found them.

His expression while talking back to her was "That's great. I'm so glad you found them:unimpressed:"

In my head I'm thinking he has to respond that way, or else his wife would be legitimately angry with him when he gets home that he was not upset about the fact that she lost her glasses at the gym:mjtf:

Is that what a relationship is like?

Having to pretend you care about bullshyt when you actually don't just to spare your spouse's feelings?

Not all relationships are the same breh. Maybe he genuinely cared.

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Maybe he does care. Maybe in the moment u saw him he was stressed at work and responded in that way
Not all relationships are the same breh. Maybe he genuinely cared.

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We actually work with his wife too.

She's not bytchy or anything but I've been around the both of them enough to know he didn't give a shyt about her glasses being lost and there were 1000 things more important he could and would rather be doing.
In any event, you never say "i don't care" or just hang up. That's being an a$$hole over nothing huge. Be different if she asked him to leave work immediately and help her look for them
Isn't that being less than honest?
 

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Could be. Or it could be that you could never live up to her fantasy/fairy-tale expectations to begin with.

Maybe you did something "wrong" , maybe you didn't. Most women are being fake at first. So you treat her according to the fake persona she's portraying, but the real her gets bored bc you didn't engage her properly.

You upset bc she didnt wanna hang out after the first date, when in reality you were never dealing with the real her.

true but I’m saying that as dudes you want to fix a problem. With dating you don’t know what went wrong sometimes. If could be something you did or something she did but you don’t know and that’s what strange about it. Not even about catching feelings just legit want to not make the same mistake twice. That’s why I used the sports analogy.
 

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They've been married for over a decade with 2 children.

Is that not a real relationship?
Those things alone don't define what makes a relationship real.

Plenty of couples ended up getting pregnant and said "fukk it, let's get married" and when it wasn't working, just said "fukk it, let's stay together for the kids' sake"
 

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Those things alone don't define what makes a relationship real.

Plenty of couples ended up getting pregnant and said "fukk it, let's get married" and when it wasn't working, just said "fukk it, let's stay together for the kids' sake"
So what makes a relationship real?
i have no problem admitting all of this is going over my head.

Nothing about love or relationships make sense to me.

I'm not even trying to sound like one of those MGTOW cats, I just don't see the benefits of being in a relationship outside of sexual gratification and that could solely be based on my inexperience.
 

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So what makes a relationship real?
i have no problem admitting all of this is going over my head.

Nothing about love or relationships make sense to me.

I'm not even trying to sound like one of those MGTOW cats, I just don't see the benefits of being in a relationship outside of sexual gratification and that could solely be based on my inexperience.

A relationship is defined by what both people want it to be.

There aren't any real benefits to being in a relationship.
 

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Yeah, this is my logic.

It doesn't even take a minute actually. It takes seconds to fiddle your thumbs and text someone.

I just told a chick this last week, and of course they deny it and are like "sorry, I've just been stressed out, and this person this, that problem that, blah blah"

But on an even deeper level remember this, it shows whether or not you cross their mind. If you cross somebody's mind, they will text you, especially a woman. If she's not replying in a timely fashion, it should be crossing her mind to be curious/check her phone to see if you have texted her, whether you did or didn't. So no reason your texts should sit for hours unanswered.

Some women are like, "I'm not really on my phone like that", that's a lie. If you texted anybody all day, you could say something to someone you claim to be interested in.

It may take you a min to see that and learn her behavioral patterns, and in that time you may be overextending yourself, double texting etc. I never like to accuse ppl right from jump so I give them rope. BUT once you see that behavior, either slowly abort mission or give that same behavior back to them.

Believe me, they notice when your behavior/texts go from being interested on level 10, down to a level 2.

I'm preachin to myself here if nobody else.

Real talk.

Always watch their energy. If their eyes wander in convo or she’s not reciprocating much abort mission / fall back.

Word to that Griselda album. Watch / guard your motherfukking energy.
 

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true but I’m saying that as dudes you want to fix a problem. With dating you don’t know what went wrong sometimes. If could be something you did or something she did but you don’t know and that’s what strange about it. Not even about catching feelings just legit want to not make the same mistake twice. That’s why I used the sports analogy.

You’ll never know the problem. Every woman is wired differently. In any case, if she felt like that so quickly, she never really liked you that much.

I’d say you dodged a bullet.
 
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