Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[CrossBones]

do some soul searching and figure out your own code.

this is a very personal process. this gives you a lot of control over your destiny because you decide of your own personal goals, not your family, not girl, not social pressure. this feeling of controlling your destiny is where confidence comes from and where you get your energy to deal with people (including women)

Im with you on that 100.

to go and chase a woman, and seeking their approval by revolving your life around that, is backwards. with anything in life, really. you have to keep it honest about your responsiblities, value, and honor to reflect on what works best for you in life and where you want to be.


in the words of philosopher Howard Thurman: "There are two questions that a self aware man must ask himself: the first is 'Where am I going?' and second, 'Who will go with me?' if you ever get these questions in the wrong order you are in trouble."

 

[Yuzo Lightheart]

lol im about to start finding some bg's online and posting their profiles etc in here

it seem like they would completely submit to 90% of posters in this thread

 

[Jason B]

this is about to trip everybody out it messed me up when i found out about this just recently...

apparently, there is a whole fetish sub culture of women called "babygirls" or "bg's" who look for a "daddy" to be dominated by, and more importantly, to "serve" a daddy figure

here is a blog of a "babygirl" i found

Diary of Daddy's Girl



reading some of this content is staggering, as in im kind of shocked to hear a woman speak in this way

what is everybodys thoughts on this

This shyt is weird as fukk.

 

[Yuzo Lightheart]

i know but who are you telling i wouldnt have imagined this even existed in a thousand years until a found out about it like a hour ago

we've been in this thread for 400 pages talking about how women like that do not actually exist

i wonder what reincar and the mgtow people and them would say

 

[Yuzo Lightheart]

I try each morning, when I first wake up to remember how it felt to be in his bed when I stayed with him, to slip out of it quietly and softly step across his floor so as not to wake him, to get to the shower before him so that when he woke I was already showered, dressed and looking presentable.
When I smell coffee I remind myself how he likes his coffee beans ground for 1 and 2 and 3 and 4 and 5 and 6 seconds, how he likes it made with heaped spoonfuls of ground Italian Roast in his coffee maker, how I would present his cup on a table with the handle facing him so that he didn't have to turn the cup at all before he could drink.
As I paint my nails I do so while setting the specific purpose in my mind that every time I look down and see the colour that they are I will think of how beautiful it is to have the chance to be pleasing for him.
I set my watch 14 minutes fast to remind myself that he is in a timezone 14 hours behind where I am, and that even though I am geographically separated from him, my mind can still be aligned to his will.
I use a soap that reminds me a little of his aftershave and when I smell it on my skin I remember how blessed I truly am to have met him in person that first night, and for the time we have so far shared together, in person, on the phone and over the internet.
When I wear a belt (which isn't often, because I usually wear skirts and not pants) I pull it on really really tight and every time I feel conscious of it during the day I remember how amazing it is to have been held by him, wrapped in his arms and that I am loved.

But most helpful of all for me is that when I feel my mind slipping from being fixed on his pleasure and his will I find a quiet place, I get on my knees and press my face to the floor. I breath slowly and deeply and tell myself out loud that I am a worthless babyc*nt, that I was born to serve my Daddy and that I am nothing without him to serve. I am lower than the very ground and exist only to be pleasure and service for him. And I thank him for that.

that last part was creepy af tho

 

[Turbulent]

that last part was creepy af tho

they're happy with it because in a weird way it provides safety. they feel like by giving the man complete control they have no worry. all they have to do is follow orders and please. it's easy for them and worry free. in a weird way i understand it. it's what a lot of women want at the core. they just happen to choose men who we'd consider "abusive" and creepy. And they submit to it. Creepy and firm structure is better than no structure to them. but they don't realize that these aren't the only options (or maybe they do and they're just into it). they could also choose men who offer firm structure without being "creepy"


as odd as this will sound, simps could actually learn from these "daddies"...

 

[Turbulent]

Im with you on that 100.

to go and chase a woman, and seeking their approval by revolving your life around that, is backwards. with anything in life, really. you have to keep it honest about your responsiblities, value, and honor to reflect on what works best for you in life and where you want to be.


in the words of philosopher Howard Thurman: "There are two questions that a self aware man must ask himself: the first is 'Where am I going?' and second, 'Who will go with me?' if you ever get these questions in the wrong order you are in trouble."

 

[Yuzo Lightheart]

yeah i looked at some other parts of it that took it wayy too far but a lot of it does make sense or seem in many ways an ideal situation. to an extent, it kind of even makes me not want to be in a relationship now at all because it makes it more clear just how dependent a woman has to be to make a real relationship work but on the other hand it force me as a person into a role where i have to make a whole lot of decisions for people and i dont even know if im cool with all that. maybe thats why a lot of women are messed up because it takes for a man to behave like a daddy in a lot of ways to lock her down and yet that seems like it would be a hard role to preform without losing your sanity. on the other end of that spectrum are women who are too masculine, and that in itself would never work either. shyt is just... i dont know it seems almost too complicated to even want to do on any level at times

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[Turbulent]

yeah i looked at some other parts of it that took it wayy too far but a lot of it does make sense or seem in many ways an ideal situation. to an extent, it kind of even makes me not want to be in a relationship now at all because it makes it more clear just how dependent a woman has to be to make a real relationship work but on the other hand it force me as a person into a role where i have to make a whole lot of decisions for people and i dont even know if im cool with all that. maybe thats why a lot of women are messed up because it takes for a man to behave like a daddy in a lot of ways to lock her down and yet that seems like it would be a hard role to preform without losing your sanity. on the other end of that spectrum are women who are too masculine, and that in itself would never work either. shyt is just... i dont know it seems almost too complicated to even want to do on any level at times

it's about finding balance between the two extremes. a woman should always be free to leave you. YOU provide the options (props to Patrice Oneal). Your goal is to be happy. you give your terms and she either accepts them or walks and then you find another girl who will accept these terms.

if this whole lifestyle seems like too much for you then you just calibrate the same principles to your lifestyle and let her decide what she wants to do (as long as it never interferes with your happiness). The "daddies" are doing the same thing. the difference is that their happiness requires such extreme conditions that it leaves very little freedom to the girl. Since your happiness won't require the same type of behavior from the girl everything will fall into place.

 

[kevm3]

Men aren't looking for 'babygirls' that they have to treat as small children and to order around constantly and who degrade themselves in order to fulfill this weird slave/master fantasy. Having a woman with no kind of personality who does nothing other than take orders is just as bad as those fiery, 'independent', wanna-be-a-man women. They are just on the opposite ends of the spectrum.

It is perfectly possible to have a woman who has her own well-developed personality who is submissive to a man, but not to the extent that she degrades herself or allows him to degrade her. As a man, you have to be the shot-caller, but that doesn't mean you have to be this super-domineering, micromanaging dictator who is telling your fembot every little thing to do.

 

[Yuzo Lightheart]

i think the thing thats scary is how crazy women can be. on the one hand she could be loyal and obedient to you and everything would be going cool but now i see even that seems to come with an element of craziness to it on her part. the act of dependency is weird to me because as a man i dont want to depend on anybody, but for a woman in a relationship she must be dependent for it to even work at all. i never put myself in that mindframe of dependency before, and i realize now that its honestly kind of a fukked up experience. i can see why it can mess with a lot of women psychologically and why they would either want to 1. rebel against her man or 2. become way too clingy

therefore in a relationship, as a man, you are always struggling against your woman from descending into both states all the time. its a constant battle that you have to fight all of the time you never get to have a day off...

im saying its overwhleming when you think about how much work you have to put in to be with a woman just so that psychologically she doesnt self destruct in some way

 

[Turbulent]

i think the thing thats scary is how crazy women can be. on the one hand she could be loyal and obedient to you and everything would be going cool but now i see even that seems to come with an element of craziness to it on her part. the act of dependency is weird to me because as a man i dont want to depend on anybody, but for a woman in a relationship she must be dependent for it to even work at all. i never put myself in that mindframe of dependency before, and i realize now that its honestly kind of a fukked up experience. i can see why it can mess with a lot of women psychologically and why they would either want to 1. rebel against her man or 2. become way too clingy

therefore in a relationship, as a man, you are always struggling against your woman from descending into both states all the time. its a constant battle that you have to fight all of the time you never get to have a day off...

im saying its overwhleming when you think about how much work you have to put in to be with a woman just so that psychologically she doesnt self destruct in some way

if you want some gems on this subject, i suggest a show called "The Black Phillip Show" hosted by Patrice Oneal. it's a radio show and it has 13 episodes. he talks about all these issues, why women feel the way they feel and how to deal with it.

EDIT: by the way, the key to your issue with relationships is that you have to focus on your happiness. Don't focus on keeping a girl. focus on what you need to be happy. once you do that and and once you stop compromising on it, you will attract the women who will accept these terms and then you choose. If you choose and years down the line she changes her mind and decides that your guidance and structure doesn't satisfy her, you let her go and choose another one that is attracted to what you want. Don't worry about her leaving. Follow this path and you won't have to worry about a woman's craziness because you will regulate early before it even gets there. Everything will fall into place and they'll just either get right or get left. Once your happiness becomes conditional on whether or not a girl is part of your life, you're fukked.

 

[Wild self]

Well yea if you're 40+, poppin bottles and trying to act like a young wild dude then thats pathetic. Here in Atlanta I see 40+ yr old dudes rocking nice suits and women are choosing up on their mature swagger. My man Max is 53 yrs old, no kids, owns a business and drives an S-class Benz. He is up in the clubs on the regular baggin fine ass 25-29 yr old females. He isnt lying to women. He doesn't trick off his money. Women just feel his style and his swagger. He lets women know from the start he isnt looking for anything serious. He just likes to have fun and enjoy whatever time he has left on this earth. Dude is living up.

ATL is another animal altogether. There are a lot of women that look good and are desperate for dikk

Them old players are no joke when it comes to handling that p*ssy.

 

[Yuzo Lightheart]

if you want some gems on this subject, i suggest a show called "The Black Phillip Show" hosted by Patrice Oneal. it's a radio show and it has 13 episodes. he talks about all these issues, why women feel the way they feel and how to deal with it.

EDIT: by the way, the key to your issue with relationships is that you have to focus on your happiness. Don't focus on keeping a girl. focus on what you need to be happy. once you do that and and once you stop compromising on it, you will attract the women who will accept these terms and then you choose. If you choose and years down the line she changes her mind and decides that your guidance and structure doesn't satisfy her, you let her go and choose another one that is attracted to what you want. Don't worry about her leaving. Follow this path and you won't have to worry about a woman's craziness because you will regulate early before it even gets there. Everything will fall into place and they'll just either get right or get left. Once your happiness becomes conditional on whether or not a girl is part of your life, you're fukked.

i agree. only thing i can add is sometimes it doesnt even seem like its worth the trouble at all to begin with