This post right here isn't even about relationships. It's about your growth as a man. When you turn 18, you think you're an adult. You want to party, have fun, and experience adulthood. You want to chase women and get as much sex as possible. You want to dress fly, you want to be popular, you want to live the life. But you ever wondered why you see so many men in their 30s, 40s, and 50s washed up and struggling? It's because they didn't set up the groundwork for their future. Your 20s are for that. No matter how much of an adult you think you are at that age, you're still a child and your folks are likely to treat you as such. Your people stop giving a fukk about you around the age of 25-26. And what I mean by that is people will stop helping you if you aren't helping yourself. Use your 20s to better yourself and set yourself up for success. Go to school, get a trade, start a business, be an entrepreneur. Whatever. Just set yourself up so you won't be struggling in your 30s and 40s. Stop wasting your time chasing after women, trying to be the flyest dude out there. Design a plan for yourself and stick with it. You can't live with your mother forever. Women are not your priority. Women will come if you get your shyt together. Any successful man will tell you getting women in their 30s and 40s was 10x easier than in your 20s. A bum dude will tell you that the best times of his life was in his 20s because he spent the rest of his life struggling. Don't be that dude. Secure your future so you won't be a bum. Secure your future so you won't have to beg women for a place to sleep at every night. Secure your future so you won't have to borrow money from people just to get by. Being a man means taking control of your life and future. And that comes with discipline and making the rights decisions as a young adult.
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Jhoon
Spontaneous Mishaps and Hijinks
I spent my 20s working my butt off. It has paid off in some respects but in my early 30s I started getting antsy. I got a divorce and it the single life at 30 is pretty much how I expected dating in the 20s to be.
G, do you run that 'Sophisticated Arrogance' iG page in your sig?
Jhoon
Spontaneous Mishaps and Hijinks
Yep, I'm in my 30s so I feel like it's not too late right
Right. ?
There are some guys getting lucky. I think the guys who are getting “lucky” are morally bankrupt but that’s my opinion.
Dating today is like watching a virus infect a healthy cell. I was telling someone recently we are witnessing herstory as it’s happening. I can not imagine the stories that will be told about the women today.
Straw Hat Luffy
Veteran
Let's promote having confidence with good self-esteem. I feel like it's not promoted enough among men. There seems to be only competition among us, worrying about our worth and if it's valuable enough to earn a women's affection, and determining our statues by going out and coming home with something. This leaves us with nothing but anxiety, self-hate, lack of social skills, negative mindset towards women, and many other issues that come from within. No matter who you are, it doesn't have to be that way brothers.
I know the tinder/social media shyt can be a low blow to the ego. Women flaking out on you can hurt emotionally, especially if you put yourself out there. I know you probably don't think you can't get a girl because of your looks, economic or social status, and anything else you believe holding you back. But let me tell you brothers, it's all a facade that's coming from the inside. Like nothing from the outside should reflect how you feel on the inside. Self-Esteem starts with SELF. People can smell low confidence by the way you carry yourself and that's probably the real reason why you can't attract someone.
Females have liked you. You have hooked up with women. You have had girlfriends before, even if it's just one, that still matters. If this has all happened before, then it can happen again, again, and then again. Remember that when one girl leaves you on read or ditches you in a world with 4 billion women.
Also, promote kindness. It's disheartening to see threads like, "she expects me to do something like this, and not get p*ssy in return?" And then it's even worse to see a bunch of replies agreeing with that statement. That mindset keeps a lot of people back. Yes, sometimes in the real world you will only do something in return for something else. But there is also room to do something, to communicate with someone, or perform any activity that doesn't revolve around you for the sheer act of wanting to be kind and spread positivity. And that comes towards women too. You can be friends with them and expect nothing in return.
Love yourself dawgs.
I know the tinder/social media shyt can be a low blow to the ego. Women flaking out on you can hurt emotionally, especially if you put yourself out there. I know you probably don't think you can't get a girl because of your looks, economic or social status, and anything else you believe holding you back. But let me tell you brothers, it's all a facade that's coming from the inside. Like nothing from the outside should reflect how you feel on the inside. Self-Esteem starts with SELF. People can smell low confidence by the way you carry yourself and that's probably the real reason why you can't attract someone.
Females have liked you. You have hooked up with women. You have had girlfriends before, even if it's just one, that still matters. If this has all happened before, then it can happen again, again, and then again. Remember that when one girl leaves you on read or ditches you in a world with 4 billion women.
Also, promote kindness. It's disheartening to see threads like, "she expects me to do something like this, and not get p*ssy in return?" And then it's even worse to see a bunch of replies agreeing with that statement. That mindset keeps a lot of people back. Yes, sometimes in the real world you will only do something in return for something else. But there is also room to do something, to communicate with someone, or perform any activity that doesn't revolve around you for the sheer act of wanting to be kind and spread positivity. And that comes towards women too. You can be friends with them and expect nothing in return.
Love yourself dawgs.
Yep, I'm in my 30s so I feel like it's not too late right
Right. ?
It's never too late get your shyt together breh
Most people only start getting themselves together in their thirties besides
The most important thing is to have a solid plan and to follow through on it
So like I said I was at the bar last night and some asian dude in his fifties walked in with a blonde dime(know that I don't normally find blondes attractive at all) and all that cacs in the bar turned to them like 
He just had the :
face all night, aha
He just had the :
face all night, aha
Man what is it with younger women and asking hella questions?
Is it just not knowing how to hold a conversation?
Recently met 2 chicks on on the train other at work..and they both get to asking too many damn questions rather than taking the conversation slow.
I keep it calm and try to ask them something or get them to talk about anything else before they start to asking too much shyt.
"You in school?"
"Why you move here?"
"You were navy?"
'How many years you serve?"
I had to tell shorty on the train that she asks too many questions.
The jawn at work I played it off and asked
"Are you running a background check?"
@HarlemHottie
@CarmelBarbie
Is this just youth inexperience? shyt be feeling so damn procedural it turns me off.
I'm over here tryna get them to talk about themselves which I thought all women loved..yet they'd rather ask me a bunch of shyt.
In the past I've told women too much shyt and it backfired.
Is it just not knowing how to hold a conversation?
Recently met 2 chicks on on the train other at work..and they both get to asking too many damn questions rather than taking the conversation slow.
I keep it calm and try to ask them something or get them to talk about anything else before they start to asking too much shyt.
"You in school?"
"Why you move here?"
"You were navy?"
'How many years you serve?"
I had to tell shorty on the train that she asks too many questions.
The jawn at work I played it off and asked
"Are you running a background check?"
@HarlemHottie
@CarmelBarbie
Is this just youth inexperience? shyt be feeling so damn procedural it turns me off.
I'm over here tryna get them to talk about themselves which I thought all women loved..yet they'd rather ask me a bunch of shyt.
In the past I've told women too much shyt and it backfired.
LeVraiPapi
Redemption is Coming
So I went to this local restaurant and the server was cute. Loooking like a thick Nia Long. About 6 simps sitting at the bar kicking game. I picked up my food and I asked her if she could help me carry them to my car. She was like "Me?" I was like its just hot food and I wanna get burned so I woukd take your help if you would be kind enough to help a difficult customer with a strange request. She made eye contact and she said "okay. You better park close by" I stayed quiet. So she picked up 1 bag. Following me. I thanked her again for helping me out. Now, the thing with women is you have to show dominance from the start. Show you are in control by not actually caring or choosing words carefully. So I was talking to her like she was a guy. I was just asking her how busy it is today and I picked them because of their reviews. Then she said the guys leave them 5* because of her. I was like so they dont even order food. I said my cousin told me the foood was good. By that I already shut her up about flattering her. She put the food in the trunk and I thanked her. I told her I would write a honest review about the food. I also said I never give 5*. Then she was like "wow you realy won't?" I was like yeah if the food trash or even if its bomb theres always room for improvement. Then she was like "okay im looking forward to it" I then told her I can let you see it before I post it but I promise you I wont change it to your liking. She said "sure. Here is my number" I was like "let me be clear. I knpw you on your phone constantly. We all use our phone all day now. So if you take a day to reply. Consider my number deleted" She froze for a second and said "well what if I'm shy?" I said "Nah. I already told you how I am so I'll shoot you the review" Then I was thinking shoukd I ask her for her name. I was like nah she never asked for mine. Then, I dipped.
Last night we texted and she is asking me why did I do this? She said you have a lotta confidence and all but you seem fulfilled and accomplished. You like a politician type. Last tbing she said was " I will need to figure out where I went wrong cuz you put my guard all the way down. I been okay for the past year. "
My reply was like "you still doing okay"
Lesson of the story: never sweat them. If you want them, be aggressive but in a neutral manner so you dont appear thirsty. Never put them on a pedestal. Also I dont believe shyt she said.
Last night we texted and she is asking me why did I do this? She said you have a lotta confidence and all but you seem fulfilled and accomplished. You like a politician type. Last tbing she said was " I will need to figure out where I went wrong cuz you put my guard all the way down. I been okay for the past year. "
My reply was like "you still doing okay"
Lesson of the story: never sweat them. If you want them, be aggressive but in a neutral manner so you dont appear thirsty. Never put them on a pedestal. Also I dont believe shyt she said.
LeVraiPapi
Redemption is Coming
Man what is it with younger women and asking hella questions?
Is it just not knowing how to hold a conversation?
Recently met 2 chicks on on the train other at work..and they both get to asking too many damn questions rather than taking the conversation slow.
I keep it calm and try to ask them something or get them to talk about anything else before they start to asking too much shyt.
"You in school?"
"Why you move here?"
"You were navy?"
'How many years you serve?"
I had to tell shorty on the train that she asks too many questions.
The jawn at work I played it off and asked
"Are you running a background check?"
@HarlemHottie
@CarmelBarbie
Is this just youth inexperience? shyt be feeling so damn procedural it turns me off.
I'm over here tryna get them to talk about themselves which I thought all women loved..yet they'd rather ask me a bunch of shyt.
In the past I've told women too much shyt and it backfired.
Social media and their quotes about knowing a man so they all trying their best.
HarlemHottie
Uptown Thoroughbred
Probably both. I know what you mean too, like an interrogation.
It's the anxiety of potentially choosing wrong. I know y'all don't see it like that, like hey, at least you get to choose, but a womans entire life can depend on the man she links up with. It's a big decision, even just fukking can lead to lifetime entanglements.
It probably worked better when parents helped with the choosing. Then they could ask the tough questions and let the girls just be cute or cook good or whatever.
Nowadays, women are on their own in that regard.Edit: But if a girl passes your loyalty test, you should tell her what you working with, just to allay her fears. If she's legit in love with you, ease her fears that you a bum nikka. Give her that, and i don't mean simping. Just like, 'Hey, I'm good.
' Oftentimes, the most compelling nikkas be broke. If she loves you, she thinks you're compelling. Thus, she may assume, based on her reaction to you, that you must be a bum nikka too. See, it's like a (mathematical) proof that you have to un prove. 
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This some boss shytSo I went to this local restaurant and the server was cute. Loooking like a thick Nia Long. About 6 simps sitting at the bar kicking game. I picked up my food and I asked her if she could help me carry them to my car. She was like "Me?" I was like its just hot food and I wanna get burned so I woukd take your help if you would be kind enough to help a difficult customer with a strange request. She made eye contact and she said "okay. You better park close by" I stayed quiet. So she picked up 1 bag. Following me. I thanked her again for helping me out. Now, the thing with women is you have to show dominance from the start. Show you are in control by not actually caring or choosing words carefully. So I was talking to her like she was a guy. I was just asking her how busy it is today and I picked them because of their reviews. Then she said the guys leave them 5* because of her. I was like so they dont even order food. I said my cousin told me the foood was good. By that I already shut her up about flattering her. She put the food in the trunk and I thanked her. I told her I would write a honest review about the food. I also said I never give 5*. Then she was like "wow you realy won't?" I was like yeah if the food trash or even if its bomb theres always room for improvement. Then she was like "okay im looking forward to it" I then told her I can let you see it before I post it but I promise you I wont change it to your liking. She said "sure. Here is my number" I was like "let me be clear. I knpw you on your phone constantly. We all use our phone all day now. So if you take a day to reply. Consider my number deleted" She froze for a second and said "well what if I'm shy?" I said "Nah. I already told you how I am so I'll shoot you the review" Then I was thinking shoukd I ask her for her name. I was like nah she never asked for mine. Then, I dipped.
Last night we texted and she is asking me why did I do this? She said you have a lotta confidence and all but you seem fulfilled and accomplished. You like a politician type. Last tbing she said was " I will need to figure out where I went wrong cuz you put my guard all the way down. I been okay for the past year. "
My reply was like "you still doing okay"
Lesson of the story: never sweat them. If you want them, be aggressive but in a neutral manner so you dont appear thirsty. Never put them on a pedestal. Also I dont believe shyt she said.
This chicks aren't used to this type talk so they will test the shyt out of you
I know you know this cause you said you don't believe shyt she said
That's the right mentality
Data-Hawk
I have no strings on me.
Got damn y'all, I thought my L couldn't get any worse, but it did. I haven't learned shyt lol
She texted me and said she fell asleep, and asked me if I could still come over. I was at a store nearby so I said yeah. We were gonna chill at her place and then go out to dance later.
So we make out for a little bit, and then she gets a call from some dude. She starts making plans to see him tonight, that she'll pay for his uber to meet at the movies, then she'll give him a ride home.
Then she said her plans changed, "I have to see my friend, he's like a brother to me. I haven't seen him in 2 months." And she kicked me out
I'm gonna fukk some bytch tonight, I gotta recuperate somehow. Be on my A-game tonight. I got a date tomorrow with my first ever white girl
damn. Right in front of you . But on the flip side , the other dude lost also because she just finish making out with you and about to go see him. That’s not a win for him.
honestly I know it’s fukked up, but it’s not that much of an L. You didn’t spend any money on her , she wasn’t at your place and you didn’t give her money to go see the guy.
way worse L’s out here.. lol