Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[semicko82]

I just want a girlfriend fam


Why’s it gotta be so hard?

 

[John Reena]

Cuz most of these chicks dont know what they even want anyway.

A girl I went out with 3 times blew me off a few weeks ago.

So 3rd date were at my crib and making out Im squeezing her titties ass etc and shes like not tonight. Cool W/E. I know some professional massage things from the therapists at the spa I worked at. So give her a decent massage, said aight you ready and drop her off. We make out more in my whip and shes like this is all so lovely. Okay, we gucci right?

I hit her up 3 days late like when you want to link up again. She responds shes not feeling a deep connection and Im cool as hell so we can be friends so I ask her when she realized that cuz Im curious. Said second date. So you felt this and went out with me again lol. Anyway I told her Im good love, and if you change your mind hit me up.

She was giving every sign I was doing errthing right and still formulated a reason I wasnt, it was it is

Ain’t no point in figuring females out. Plus it ain’t even about u. She prolly got a boyfriend or nikka she like that she on da outs with n using YOU to make him jealous.....she might be BURNING......her p*ssy might stink......ain’t no point in tryna figure females out. Always have a roster, look at chicks as silly creatures, don’t chase em and have sum dignity n respect for ya self.

 

[MikelArteta]

99.999999% of the time there is always another dude in the background that she just cant let go of. She did you a favour if anything. Imagine if she let yall do ya thing for months and then say that shyt later. Bush her and never say a work to her again

yep i presume every single girl im talking to has like 5-10 other guys marinating around

 

[Deathstroke]

You guys are completely right about women not knowing what they want. Sometimes I envy people who do find a real connection with someone. I have a roster with some of the finest girls, I make sure I’m never attached to them so I do believe in a sense that it’s karma when I end up being played.

I started dm’ing this girl on ig, started out innocent, but then we ended up talking everyday, day and night, sending each other videos. We then decided to meet up. I’m a fly brother so I knew that was going to go smooth and it did .We immediately bonded and spent the entire day together. Made out, did romantic shyt. Now my mistake was letting my guard down. She told her friends how amazing our date was and how we easily got along. For a sec I allowed myself to think you know what maybe I should be focused on her, stop texting other girls. Lol.. Not even a day later she starts acting weird when we talk, being distant, the second day after she hits me up with the “I just got out a relationship and I’m not ready for another one right now. Our date reminded me of that. i just wanted to be honest”.

We had so many plans together already so i wont lie, it caught me by surprise and I caught feelings. I kept my cool though. We texted back and forth and at the end she said she liked me but didn’t want to bring her old relationship baggage. And then lastly she said she just doesn’t want us to move too fast and she’s worried about that. We decided to chill for now and resume that talk another day. We havent talked since.

I could sit here and think something is wrong with me “ aww maybe it’s because i have so many girls on social media” , “she thinks i’mma play her” or find reasons why she feels this way “maybe she was in an abusive relationship” but I realized at the end of the day, there’s no point. I’ve decided not to care and put myself first.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

To be real, sounds like shorty kept it a buck with you. That’s way more than most get.

 

[Abraxus]

So this chick that wrote the blog about me sent me all her blogs now via text and said "yes I wrote about you because you rocked me and I didnt wanna feel trapped so I tried to make you feel like nothing to me"

Nah. We good over here, love


She can be naked in front of me but I wont smash. I warned her how I was. Once I move on, I'm out and I want nothing from you.

From the dust she came and to the dust she shall return!

 

[Bless't]

To be real, sounds like shorty kept it a buck with you. That’s way more than most get.

 

[Deathstroke]

To be real, sounds like shorty kept it a buck with you. That’s way more than most get.

Yea that’s the only reason I did not cut her off or hit her with a “hit me up when you change your mind”. Cause she’s actually able to communicate things with me.

 

[JOHN.KOOL]

I just want a girlfriend fam


Why’s it gotta be so hard?

Be careful what you wish for, it's been almost 4 years since my last relationship and still the thought of one is stressful.

 

[Youseenmywork]

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Met a nice petite thang last night.

Short natural hair..
Brown skin
Body made just right for handling

Said hello and then she spoke and came over to me.

We chatted and I made sure to not ask questions or answer her questions too fast.

TIP.

SILENCE IS KEY KNOW WHEN TO ADD SILENCE.

Once in awhile to avoid asking too many questions I would just stop and observe the night,trees,scenery...don't be afraid to look away...

It gave her a chance to fill in space in the convo which I liked. Showed she was interested in our convo.

Also she asked my age and I hit her back with...how old are you?

Her:you're not supposed to ask that

Me: I'll ask again..how old are you?

Her:

She in her 30s I believe...

Anyway I got her number, I know to call first but I want to set something up for saturday so figure I call tonight to see when she free.

Thing is I told her I'm an out of towner and she said she'll show me some stuff when I said she should exchange numbers.

She told me the neighborhood she lives in.

Question is how do I go about getting her to show me around but not letting her take the lead 100%


I planned on looking at spots around her neighborhood and suggest something.

 

[Youseenmywork]

 

[Abraxus]

 

[George Gooney]

So I get a text notification at 6:50 this morning and...

Spoiler

And before anyone comes at her. I can verify that she ain’t bullshyttin. She legit has problems with depression.


Any experience with this situation, brehs? She’s still in the bushes but I feel bad and have feelings for her. Do I try to be supportive as a friend?
@Lord Scarf @VertigoKnight @Silkk @Balla

Hmm it's hard as a ton of chicks, have low key depression and won't admit it to themselves. Heck a lot of guys have it as well. Admittance is the first road to understanding and recovery. One chick I used to see regularly is going through the same thing. But she's been doing therapy to talk through her issues.

This woman is at least able to be open with you regarding her behavior.

With the woman I know, we talk sporadically but she feels she needs to sort herself out properly. I love this woman. Probably the only one I do out of all the women I see/seen. So if she initiates contact we'll talk.

If you feel for her, then be there for some support if she reaches out.

I'm in a similar situation now. Dont throw her completely to the bushes. Just say a prayer for her and pray for blessings to come her way, let her come back to you when she's ready and focus on some other chicks in the meantime. It's okay to be a good friend sometimes to a woman, this is one of those scenarios.

Update on this. So I was talking to my girl's(ex-girl?) best friend a little bit. I think y'all might be right about this situation. This ain't a HOH situation. This girl really going through some shyt. Caught Shorty looking at my IG stories the other day after I basically bushed her and felt bad. Did she not really wanna break up and Was she coming to me for help to deal with her depression?

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

this girl i met a few weeks ago agreed to go for drinks with me today. She falked on me and didnt answer her phone and texts when I wanted to confirm if we're still on. Even went to get a baldie so she wont have to stare at my fukked up hairline

this bytches is fickle as fukk for no reason. Now I gotta figure out a way to entertain myself since the homie is out of town for the weekend, and i dont feel like going out clubbin or bar hoppin solo



EDIT: she just texted me asking to pull through to the bar we met at


EDIT2: Told me she'll let me know when she gets to the spot so I can pull through. its been 2 hours now

EDIT3: I texted her, now she's telling me she's there, just forgot to text me . Yeah, its clear as day homegirl aint feelin ya boy. its all good, bushes she goes