Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

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Asantehene said:
If youre approaching them on a humble in public?

Man: Excuse me
Woman: *Turns around*
Man: Hey, sorry to bother you but ______

The blank could be filled in with a lot of things.

1. If you dont have much time and want to get to the point: "...but I walked past you earlier, just thought you were pretty/beautiful/cute/etc. and was wondering if I could introduce myself" (Try to say it with a slight smile so you look less creepy/animalistic). She'll probably say thank you and then sure but if she doesnt explicitly ask your name or give allow an intro she either didnt hear that part, is not interested, is already gassed or has a boyfriend. At that point its up to you to steer the convo. You dont have to get too creative, just be a human being. This is where your own personal convo skills come into play, Ask what shes up to at that time. Is it an activity you know about? If so share what you no. If not, inquire about it. Ask if she works/lives in the area. If so, how long? Where is she originally from? shyt like that. One or two questions/answers is typically enough. If she is answering your questions and asking them back thats usually a very good sign. If not, refer to what i said above. To end it off, mention that you gotta meet someone, or head somewhere (like work or a meeting) but would like to go out with her. Ask if shes down to have lunch or a coffee sometime. If she declines or said she has a bf, bow out gracefully. If she is down, grab the number.


If you got all day, try small talking using something about her or the situation surrounding you to get a convo going:
"but I really like your shoes. My sisters birthday is coming up and I was wondering where i could find something like that."
"that book in your hand, it looks interesting. How is it? Whats it about?"
"I noticed you were listening to ______, are you a big fan?"

or you can get creative and really say some off the wall shyt to make her laugh/get her attn.

Club / party game is a bit different. For the most part its less polite...none of that excuse me or sorry to bother you type shyt.


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If you do the above and bag 3 outta 10 girls, to me you're doing a good job...depending on how selective you are. Outta those three you could prolly pineat least one. If youre a very selective guy you should be bagging 5/10 though. In good city you can easily get a roster of 3,5 girls doing this a few times a day over the course of a week. You just have to be aggressive with it.

Also, a key pointer...the element of surprise is very important. You dont want a girl to see you looking at them , scheming, following them etc. before you approach. Once that happens the creep meter slowly rises and they quickly tell themselves they will diss you. It becomes an uphill battle the longer you wait after they initially catch you. The more casual/coincidental and less premeditated you can make it seem the better. Why? It feeds into the narcissism and insecurity of women. Women dont want to say some guy saw them, followed them, houdned them and spit game. Nah. They wanna be able to tell their girls that you randomly swept them off their feet, how meant to be it seemed and feel like a princess. You can stumble over your words and everything and still succeed, a real woman is gonna still value/respect the fact that you're polite and had the gall to approach.

None of this is theoretical; all of it is spoken from experience
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Okay. I will try to implement these, but the hard thing is a lot of girls on my campus seem unsocial. Like they walk with their earbuds in, looking at their phone, just walking up to them and getting their attention in the first place is hard as fukk.
Do you have some tips on that?

It seems like if they don’t notice you first and basically give choosing signals there’s no point in approaching.

The one girls number and socials I got in my class yesterday I approached after I caught her watching me several times, looking away, etc.

Ima keep it at though cause I’m new to this
 
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Iceson Beckford said:
@Colgatebrah I used that 90s RnB answer and that shyt boosted me a lil :wow:


Nun but respect for my pawging brother
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breh it’s crazy how much girls swipe on that

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These are all from today/yesterday lol.

Low key breh we gotta get off these apps anyways. nikka we are on campuses with at least 5,000 bad bytches. Gotta try to bag them in person.
 
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Colgatebrah said:
breh it’s crazy how much girls swipe on that

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These are all from today/yesterday lol.

Low key breh we gotta get off these apps anyways. nikka we are on campuses with at least 5,000 bad bytches. Gotta try to bag them in person.
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I always die of laughter with your gorilla :heh:
 
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Colgatebrah said:
Okay. I will try to implement these, but the hard thing is a lot of girls on my campus seem unsocial. Like they walk with their earbuds in, looking at their phone, just walking up to them and getting their attention in the first place is hard as fukk.
Do you have some tips on that?

It seems like if they don’t notice you first and basically give choosing signals there’s no point in approaching.

The one girls number and socials I got in my class yesterday I approached after I caught her watching me several times, looking away, etc.

Ima keep it at though cause I’m new to this
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If they can't hear you go up in their side and wave to get their attention
 
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Colgatebrah said:
What is y’alls cold approach method? This hi, what’s your name shyt ain’t working to well

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Eye contact first for me. I can chat to a chick on anything. Even women I don't want to actually pick up. Just have a quick chat. I think I said before if you're comfortable talking to everyone, a chick will feel non creepy energy from you as you're just engaging her in friendly chat just like everyone else you can talk to. Or so she thinks.

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I've often noticed a womans feet when I've approached and whether she is slightly turning them ready to go or whether she turns to you fully and is engaged.

Not gonna lie my accent disarms a lot of these chicks from the jump as they arent expecting it.

I treat cold approaches like I would my first message on an app. What is going to get a womans full attention. And not just be another guy hollering with no real plan of attack?

What I've found works for me is engage in chat take it to a crescendo then leave at the high point but exchange numbers and names so that shes left with a great first impression and wants to talk some more.

A lot of guys dont ring chicks or cold approach so if you're mildly charming and can hold a simple convo you're already doing better than a bag of other guys.
 
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