Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[Sinnerman]

If I could give one piece of advice to anyone, It's that no one is above doing bad things to you. keep things close to your chest, trust none. No one should even know about what you're planning unless they can help you. I remember one time I got in a jam(I was accused of stealing something, which I didn't, it turns out that friends of mine took it and blamed me) and all my supposed "best friends" ditched me, and the only people who vouched for me were two of my homegirls
gave all of them the after that, now I roll solo

 

[Malta]

If I could give one piece of advice to anyone, It's that no one is above doing bad things to you. keep things close to your chest, trust none. No one should even know about what you're planning unless they can help you. I remember one time I got in a jam(I was accused of stealing something, which I didn't, it turns out that friends of mine took it and blamed me) and all my supposed "best friends" ditched me, and the only people who vouched for me were two of my homegirls
gave all of them the after that, now I roll solo

I also learned not to count on "friends" you found out how selfish people are when you actually need them.

 

[kevm3]

Nice subject we got going on here.

Yeah, that's what's crazy about it. We be going hard on women, but sometimes it be the women that end up holding you down... but usually it's the ones you don't get in a relationship with with. I don't know what it is, but I got the best loyalty out of women I never took to that relationship level.

What I'm going to tell these young bucks is to live a balanced life. Don't base your life on competing and trying to surpass others. Don't make your metric for 'success' and satisfaction external. Find that internally and work towards self-contentment. You will waste a LOT of time and resources meaninglessly trying to compete with others.

 

[Liquid]

To the 18-21 year olds, if I could go back to that age, this is what I would have done knowing what I know now.


- Save every last disposable dollar I had, splurge only when needed (clothes).
- Never bought the nice car with the depreciating value, took forever to sell and it didn't really bring any added joy to my life.
- Would have learned a second language in college, several at that, it expands your horizons and opens up new opportunities.
- Never would have had a girlfriend beyond a 1 year relationship from the ages of 21-25.
- Would've gotten the absolute cheapest apartment I could find, maybe even rented a damn single room in someones house.

Why would I have done all of this? Because by the time I reach 35-40, I would have been able to retire in another country with all the money I've saved. I would have been able to work a part time job in any number of "paradise" beach locations and simply live out the rest of my life however I wanted to. Whether that is Southeast Asia somewhere, or South America, I could have bought a condo or house outright.

Do you want to live to work, or do you want to simply live? Don't get caught up in the bullshyt material things, save your money, invest and stack as much money as you can so you don't have to work until you're 75 years old.

So much truth here I don't even know where to begin.

I think its also important to add to know when and where to put people in their place. Too many people at from the age of 18-25 put too much stock in what their friends say. You guys need to be prepared to dump all your friends at the drop of a hat because when it all comes down to it...you will be lucky to even meet 5 of them who would really help you out if needed.

To spin it around a bit and focus on the females...you guys have to learn at a really young age to be ready to walk out on a female at a moments notice. You can only care about her so much, listen to her problems for so long, deal with her ups and downs on a monthly basis before you realize that either: A - things are never going anywhere. B - she might be using you. C - she thinks you are a potential mate in the future...after she has all her fun first. You don't EVER...EVER limit your options and focus in on one female especially at that young age. These are the important years of your life...build as many positive relationships you can with females during this time and a couple will come crawling back. Trust us...every guy who was not some crazy introvert and actually socialized a bit has stories about females. Read some of my posts in other pages...its a numbers game and you are better served to keep those numbers high so that when you are in your late 20's you are not some of those sad dudes who latch on to whoever gives them attention on match.com or eharmony.

I have been on my own since I was 19 with not much help because I decided it was best for me to move far away from NY. Was it the best move? Probably not at the time, but I didn't have the upbringing some of you are lucky enough to have...soak in that knowledge from pops if he is still around and you will have a leg up on the competition...have a leg up on guys like me when I was in my late teens and early 20's.

I also strongly recommend dorming for at least 1 year in college...I don't care if you don't even graduate. The time on campus will teach you things you don't even realize while you are in there....plus the numbers argument I keep bringing up to you guys.

I wish I can get more personal on here, but I think most will catch on to what I am saying. Focus on YOURSELF, all that other nonsense that is being fed to you that you NEED to be doing doesn't hold true. A woman is interested in wealth, your appearance, and your inner circle once they get to know you. You can have a degree, but have no financial stability and she wont see herself with you because she feels you are so tied up in your obligations that she wont give you the time or day. Its cold, but its real...I have seen it. Many of my fellow peers have their degrees...one of my best friends has an IQ of 160...smart ass dude, in shape, got his degrees and everything, but his money is not right. What is he up to these days? He fishes on POF and throws his degrees on the description like trophies...yet still cant bring in AAA women because once they know his financial situation...its a wrap. Me? Well I can't get too personal in here, but rest assured that I don't have to go to POF to start seeing what is out there.

 

[Mr210]

by far the greatest thread on the IC......loads of knowledge, ive thought about hitting you guys up with mine, but it would blow your tops off, and I dont think you are at the point yet

 

[Ohene]

Brehs, I have a couple of questions. Only a few areas where I have to break the ice to speak on a chick. I know how to approach chicks in most areas, just places like the train or a bus stop is what I usually don't do. Anyone got advice how to make effective ice-breakers that don't sound like pick up lines?

train/bus is my specialty and how i met my current chick. like kevm said use regular convo. if they have a magazine...tallk bout something u see on the cover of it to break ice. if theyre scrolling through ipod\, look at what music is there to break the ice. theyre using a new gadget, ask how it is....practical stuff like that

"So i see youre listening to Lady Gaga , you know when shes droppin a new album?"
*Brangelina on cover* "People magazine? You like reading that stuff?" "Word? Speaking of Brad Pitt did you see his new Chanel commercial? "
if she did, you can discuss it a little and even transition to the pointlessness of endorsenents or talk bout tv, movies, commercials etc. if not u can explain it humorously

even something as simple as, "So whats up, I'm guessing you just finished school/work?"

Slipping a small, honest sincere compliment works too. Be sure to ask the name within the first couple exchanges and the breaker turns from a simple inquiry to convo starter. Note: i typed this with one hand so it isnt the most intricate.

This is also when being cultured, diverse and knowledgeable has its benefits.

 

[Malta]

So much truth here I don't even know where to begin.

I think its also important to add to know when and where to put people in their place. Too many people at from the age of 18-25 put too much stock in what their friends say. You guys need to be prepared to dump all your friends at the drop of a hat because when it all comes down to it...you will be lucky to even meet 5 of them who would really help you out if needed.

To spin it around a bit and focus on the females...you guys have to learn at a really young age to be ready to walk out on a female at a moments notice. You can only care about her so much, listen to her problems for so long, deal with her ups and downs on a monthly basis before you realize that either: A - things are never going anywhere. B - she might be using you. C - she thinks you are a potential mate in the future...after she has all her fun first. You don't EVER...EVER limit your options and focus in on one female especially at that young age. These are the important years of your life...build as many positive relationships you can with females during this time and a couple will come crawling back. Trust us...every guy who was not some crazy introvert and actually socialized a bit has stories about females. Read some of my posts in other pages...its a numbers game and you are better served to keep those numbers high so that when you are in your late 20's you are not some of those sad dudes who latch on to whoever gives them attention on match.com or eharmony.

I have been on my own since I was 19 with not much help because I decided it was best for me to move far away from NY. Was it the best move? Probably not at the time, but I didn't have the upbringing some of you are lucky enough to have...soak in that knowledge from pops if he is still around and you will have a leg up on the competition...have a leg up on guys like me when I was in my late teens and early 20's.

I also strongly recommend dorming for at least 1 year in college...I don't care if you don't even graduate. The time on campus will teach you things you don't even realize while you are in there....plus the numbers argument I keep bringing up to you guys.

I wish I can get more personal on here, but I think most will catch on to what I am saying. Focus on YOURSELF, all that other nonsense that is being fed to you that you NEED to be doing doesn't hold true. A woman is interested in wealth, your appearance, and your inner circle once they get to know you. You can have a degree, but have no financial stability and she wont see herself with you because she feels you are so tied up in your obligations that she wont give you the time or day. Its cold, but its real...I have seen it. Many of my fellow peers have their degrees...one of my best friends has an IQ of 160...smart ass dude, in shape, got his degrees and everything, but his money is not right. What is he up to these days? He fishes on POF and throws his degrees on the description like trophies...yet still cant bring in AAA women because once they know his financial situation...its a wrap. Me? Well I can't get too personal in here, but rest assured that I don't have to go to POF to start seeing what is out there.

I feel every 21-25 year old male should be out in the world exploring it, locking yourself into a relationship at those ages is crazy unless you found a truly great woman that will travel with you. Even if it's just leaving for a week once a year, you become more worldly and experienced.

The greatest thing I ever spent money on was a passport, nothing even comes close to it.

 

[philmonroe]

Why are Americans in such a hurry to get married? At 24 years old people are already thinking of marriage, it's ridiculous to me. Take your time, build you career, travel the world, really figure out who you are before you even think of marriage. I'm not even saying one has to sleep around and all of that, but I just don't think people truly realize what marriage is. That's why divorce rates are so high.

Sorry for that rant y'all but I needed to get that off my chest

I mean goddamn I had 3 middle aged married white women hit on me this week, I feel bad for their husbands really




I love getting advice like this

Man divorce rates are this high cause cats on both sides treat it like its a drug and when they can't get high off that shyt no more they looking for the next newest most powerful fix. I seriously think even though you don't say sleep around thats kinda what you mean cause if you found a "good" girl for you what are you really missing out on? The cats I know that are young and in relatively good relationships aren't missing out on nothing so I guess that has me bias right there. I also feel that guys as much as we blame women have to look at ourselves cause we the ones picking these chicks that don't fit the scheme we running then end up complaining like a bunch of chicks at times. I'm not saying we do that last sentence is for the ones that don't look at themselves.

 

[Malta]

Man divorce rates are this high cause cats on both sides treat it like its a drug and when they can't get high off that shyt no more they looking for the next newest most powerful fix. I seriously think even though you don't say sleep around thats kinda what you mean cause if you found a "good" girl for you what are you really missing out on? The cats I know that are young and in relatively good relationships aren't missing out on nothing so I guess that has me bias right there. I also feel that guys as much as we blame women have to look at ourselves cause we the ones picking these chicks that don't fit the scheme we running then end up complaining like a bunch of chicks at times. I'm not saying we don't thats for the ones that don't.

It's actually women that file for divorce the vast majority of time my dude, they can "detach" from you while you think everything is good. It's why guys kill themselves at a much higher rate than women do after the divorce, they didn't see it coming in a lot of cases.

 

[Mr210]

man my girl is playing the guilt trip real hard, if ya'll remember my previous post. She says ive disappeared, yet i text her throughout the day, but she has no desire to see or talk to me right now after what I did. I guess we wont be spending thanksgiving together. When she messed up early in our relationship we still kicked it, but when the roles are reversed she doesnt want to see me

 

[philmonroe]

It's actually women that file for divorce the vast majority of time my dude, they can "detach" from you while you think everything is good. It's why guys kill themselves at a much higher rate than women do after the divorce, they didn't see it coming in a lot of cases.

I know that but I live life too and the dudes (not always) just don't want to do it and/or just move on without getting divorced. Numbers don't lie but they don't always tell the truth. I know many of dudes that want to break up with their girls but because they don't want her to be mad or act crazy they do dumb shyt to get her to break up with them. When guys have this mentality which sad to say quite a few do it doesn't change in marriage. Plus we know guys usually get taken in divorces so of course they not going to be the ones filling divorce as often. Numbers are what they are but at the same time as we know when the numbers don't benefit what position we on its always more than just the numbers ALWAYS(not yelling just emphasizing)

 

[CrossBones]

Also something else about cheating that I wanted to discuss. This goes for all of you guys. The NEXT TIME a woman you know whether through family, friends or a peer of yours spouts nonsense about men cheating more than woman......

Ask them something like ......."And who the fukk are men cheating with.....goats"?

And then follow up with asking them whether he planet has more men or women on it......


Now they are gonna get scared with the follow up



And finish by telling them by basic math that would tell you that its women who are cheating ALOT MORE than men

thats why, when a woman says something, plenty of times its because theyre saying it on some follower shyt, theyre trying to paint themselves as more cleaner than they are, or they just arent using logic. in other words, 85% of the time its some half truth or some bullshyt.

when a woman says something bold like that, you have to challenge it.

dont fuss and bicker, but just present the facts and stand by it.

she'll either a)act emotional and argue til shes blue in the face or b)act emotional but then recognize her bullshyt, and then willingly bow to you. this is how you get the good ones and separate the fake ones. test out her logic and how willing she is to see the other side of things.

 

[sixsixtwo]

 

[CrossBones]

124 Shaming Language... Do I Give A fukk (by RexxSeven) - YouTube

Yo! the first part, where he goes in on thirsty men was 100. we all know guys like this. always talking about getting some p*ssy, he need to get some p*ssy, he aint had p*ssy in awhile, he is talking to a sidepiece to get more p*ssy - always revolving his life around some p*ssy. doing nothing but trying to get a bytch ... for some p*ssy. thats cool if thats all you want to do, but fukk, shut up every now and then and be about something else. it comes off as insecure and theyre trying to prove something. "oh stop hatin! you sound like a hater! you need to get some p*ssy!" just simple simon motherfukkers, mayne

its that thirst. men get ahold of that. thats how you turn yourselves out and go crazy over a bytch. find out your whole life been based around some random ass p*ssy

that is some junior high assed shyt. men stop it with the shaming language over other men not being as thirst as you. steady trying to compete with another. either make a point or learn to keep quiet with your basic ass.


the second part about women giving birth was good too. he killt that

 

[Liquid]

I feel every 21-25 year old male should be out in the world exploring it, locking yourself into a relationship at those ages is crazy unless you found a truly great woman that will travel with you. Even if it's just leaving for a week once a year, you become more worldly and experienced.

The greatest thing I ever spent money on was a passport, nothing even comes close to it.

With so much family still out in DR I have had a passport forever, I think thats why at 19 I was like...yooo I could leave to live on my own

I think it is important and a whole lot of these guys are about to get tested hard in multiple areas of their life soon. It really started happening to me when I was 23, but luckily I already lived on my own for years, learned the ropes, and have learned to deal with women who decided to try to come in or come back into my life.

Everyone has a story, but you decide how it plays out. I see dude talking about the guilt trip...PEOPLE do that often, women more often than we do. I have had a few girls try to spin THEIR mistakes on me...and in turn some of the guys in my inner circle hit me on some you not taking THAT back? Well let me get her number then...I'm like

YOUR mistakes? There is really not much you can do...I suggest just letting it go. If it was a long and meaningful relationship to you just try to remember the good times and maybe have one final meeting together so both understand that this is the end. It's going to sound corny, but sometimes that is the only true way to kill things...don't be a lame who tells someone you were in a really serious relationship that is over via text