Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

DaRealness

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Have you guys dealt with dating women in their 30s from these dating sites?

The dates with these women were more like they were interviewing me. I had one tonight who told me about how she lived with a guy for 8 years. He left her and then came back. And then left again. So, she dated around after that and met a foreign dude. The foreign guy left her and also came back later. But then left her again. She also talked about how men in NYC suffer from Peter Pan syndrome. And she complained about guys in their 30s and 40s dating 20-something women.

Why is it when a dude can't get girls, they tell him to work on himself (workout, get your money up, style, lower your standards), but that same expectation isn't there for women?

We talked about that stuff and our jobs mainly, so the conversation topics weren't really all that fun. And I think her pictures were a couple of years old.

That shyt is jealousy. :camby:And so what if a guy is dating an ADULT woman who happens to be several years younger? All it is is that these old broads always feel some type of way about men who have done the self work and are able to bag chicks who are younger, prettier, have less baggage. I see them try and shame dudes like that all the time. So what if a 40 year old man dates a 27 year old? Half the time it's the same broads who weren't checking for those guys earlier in life and now want to hate because he has more options.

Let a dude who is 10 years younger show an interest and we'll see if she feels the same way.

That chick sounds like a real depressing drag anyway.
 

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fukk it imma just become a cop and work myself to death I’m 5’4 and these chicks ain’t giving me any shot so I guess imma grow hold and be lonely as fukk
 

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fukk it imma just become a cop and work myself to death I’m 5’4 and these chicks ain’t giving me any shot so I guess imma grow hold and be lonely as fukk

I know a guy who’s about your height and I shyt you not he’s probably the biggest hoe I know. One thing I noticed with him is he does a lot to compensate for his height. Dude is a thug but he’s smart as hell, tatted, sells drugs, and is swimming in p*ssy.

Am I saying you have to do all those things? No. But what you need to do is show alpha traits (hate using this word because the concept is kinda corny, but the basic stuff works). Work out and train hard to build muscle. You’re probably reasonably fit since you casually suggested becoming a cop. Learn how to command a room, learn how to be funny, learn how to always remain calm. And learn how to project positive vibes by being a positive person. It’s gonna take self-improvement on your part before you can worry about anyone else. These things are gonna help you in life overall and the women will be a byproduct of that.
 
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Let me get the brehs input on this, I feel confident on how I handled it but I’d like to hear some feedback.

Matched with a girl on Tinder, nice convo for a couple of days, build a good connection. Asked her out for a wednesday, she said she couldnt cuz she was going horseback riding and wouldnt make it home to shower. She could come see me but she said if Inwouldnt mind a little ”horse smell”.

This was a blatant shyt test and I roasted her ass for it and told her hell nah.

Sh came back with thursday, I said cool. Got her number. This was sunday evening.

I was gonna hit her up on wednesday to set up time and place, just a quick coffee nothing fancy. (maybe I fukked up here, too long of a break in contact?)

Im lining my beard up and she hits me up asking what the details are for tomorrow, which I took as a good sign, first time she initiated. We confirm and I keep it brief.

Next day, 3 hours before we’re supposed to meet up she cancels, emergency at work, she works with teens who come from messed up backgrounds. She apologizes and asks me what Im doing next week and can we re-schedule. No concrete proposal of a day, just ”next week”.

Ofcourse Im a little pissed but I respond telling her that its cool, no worries, hope everything works out. I tell her I start working next week but we can get in touch and make it happen. I leave it open, dont plan or commit to anything.

She responds 2 hours later, she’s still with the kid at the police station. She tells me to get back to her with how next week looks.

Maybe I shouldnt have responded but Im out getting lit so I respond back, basically putting the ball in her court, ”Ur cute, u let me know which days work for you, I think that will be easier”

No response

Im thinking Ive done all the initiating and suggesting, the horse shyt (no pun) and her half flaking on me... atleast she should give a concrete date for the run back? I get the feeling this is another test to see If I’ll rattle off all the days Im free next week in hopes of making plans with her way in advance... looking extra bad after she cancels and me complying with making plans right away.

I put the pressure back on her and its a win-win; if here interest is high enough she’ll get back to me and she invests... if not, I dont take a second L and waste time and energy and risk a second flake.

Am I wrong?

:ehh:

She actually hit me back up and proposed we link...that day I already have plans so Im gonna counter.

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