I used to say that hey maybe if my ex fiance came back and wanted to give it a go i'd think about it, actually its what I wanted for a long time, but now? NOPE. I will never ever EVER give someone who left me another chance.
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I used to say that hey maybe if my ex fiance came back and wanted to give it a go i'd think about it, actually its what I wanted for a long time, but now? NOPE. I will never ever EVER give someone who left me another chance.
let me tell you why, mainly because your ex will always have that power over you. I could just envision in my mind if I take back an ex the first fight or disagreement and her uttering this is why I should have never come back or wasting more of my time.
What clicked for me was thinking of my ex fiance, I could never envision in my mind seeing myself spending that much on a ring again and asking her to marry me again on some groundhog day ish, i'd never be at peace until the wedding day up until then wondering if ima have the carpet pulled out from under me in the same fashion.
As I always say there is a woman praying somewhere for a first chance with a man like you right NOW, let's make her prayers come true brehs
What clicked for me was thinking of my ex fiance, I could never envision in my mind seeing myself spending that much on a ring again and asking her to marry me again on some groundhog day ish, i'd never be at peace until the wedding day up until then wondering if ima have the carpet pulled out from under me in the same fashion.
As I always say there is a woman praying somewhere for a first chance with a man like you right NOW, let's make her prayers come true brehs
Simple
Do the opposite of whatever your head is telling you.
I should help out this chick and pay her bills
Do the opposite
Man I really feel like I should send her a long message pouring out my heart
Do the opposite.
Do the opposite of whatever your head is telling you.
I should help out this chick and pay her bills
Do the opposite
Man I really feel like I should send her a long message pouring out my heart
Do the opposite.
Any tips to stop simping?
I don't wanna be on team #leftonread anymore
How is this your concern though?
And I doubt she is going to kill herself and all that. I knw women like this, always im going to kill myself, ill die with you blah blah, all them ho's still alive to this day.
Chick had you out there pawning ish and getting loans like a crackhead and you still want to go back for more? Gotta kill that emotional connection man and as time goes on you'll look back and laugh as you become a oldhead and mentor the young ins down the road.
At the end of the day what she does and all that is no longer your concern. You have to swim against the current and fight that natural simp nature. It's hard I know but you gotta do it.
And I doubt she is going to kill herself and all that. I knw women like this, always im going to kill myself, ill die with you blah blah, all them ho's still alive to this day.
Chick had you out there pawning ish and getting loans like a crackhead and you still want to go back for more? Gotta kill that emotional connection man and as time goes on you'll look back and laugh as you become a oldhead and mentor the young ins down the road.
At the end of the day what she does and all that is no longer your concern. You have to swim against the current and fight that natural simp nature. It's hard I know but you gotta do it.
Breh doing it ain't a thought lol it's more about a mix of guilt and "Damn you romance gods!" cause (if I'm not jumping to conclusions) it would be another case non-mutual interest. She's an attractive girl and all but like I said it feels like extended family. I hope I'm jumping to conclusions and she sees me the same.Nooooo, don't do it! Please don't do it! cause one of us goes in
And we all go through it!
How do you know she likes you tho?
Middle of December: I post a pic on Instagram alluding to the fact that I had been in the gym for a year up to that point, not of myself but of weights with a caption on how much better I've felt. She one of the few people who likes it but DM'ed me like I'm mediately, she was typing kind of incoherently so I thought she was drunk but she said it was autocorrect. She said she wanted to talk to me but didn't have my number so I gave it to her. Like I've said I see her as extended family but I don't associate women with coincidence; we've had each other's IG for like 3-4 years but a pic referencing improvement on my physique is what pushed you to attain/reattain my math?
So she calls me minutes after I gave her my number (it's late, like after 11) and she's in ATL with her friends loud as fukk in the whip (she lives in the DC area) and she's saying how she misses me and it's been so long (a year and change) since we've seen each other. There was auxillary conversation about how we've been doing but that was the meat of it. She tells me that she'd be in Jersey (where I'm at) around New Year's so I'm like cool we can link up then. I'm a work-gym/studio-home cat so I'm not even sure where I would've taken her but I would've figured out something.
A couple weeks go by and she is in fact here but I had fallen into one of my down moods and this was when the Northeast was Sub-Zero temperature so I didn't make it out.
March: A couple of weeks ago I text her letting her know how I was feeling around the time we was supposed to link up and that if my work schedule changes (my days off are split by an odd work day) I'd try to go down there. I'm a night owl, so this is about midnight. The next afternoon she texts back like "You know who this is?"
I'm like, "Yes, A____...do you know who this is?"
she of course still has my number so it's joke and we were small chatting and she asks my days off. I tell her Mondays, Tuesdays, and Saturdays (odd shyt right?) She's like oh ok I'm usually free on weekends (the female move of offering availability). I'm like I wish I we're too and she tells me she's having a get together and that I could come if I'd like. I said I'd see but I knew I wouldn't be coming at that time cause like I said she's in the DMV and I was thinking when I do go down there it's when I have consecutive days off. She's like okay I understand if you can't come though since I live in Maryland it would be a stretch. I wasn't sure what else to say plus I was on the move so I left it at that.Another week goes by and she hits me up randomly like "how are you"? So I respond and o eventually ask if she's up here cause I figure if she is we could do something light like lunch or something and just chill. She says she will be the next weekend (this weekend). I'm like okay cool we can get up then. That was on a Tuesday, on that Friday she hits me up again asking if I meant to text her initially. She's referencing the out of the blue text on the 20th apologizing about flaking.
I'm like "what you mean?"
She says "like did you mean to text me...was that meant for me?"
I say "who else would it be for?"
She goes "Just checking since it was random"
I tease her a little about being silly for thinking anything else but I let the convo die.
This weekend: Saturday night she calls me at 3:15 while I'm in the shower. I was gonna either text back on my big break at work (Sunday is a double shift day for me) or call her back after I got off at 9 or 10. I decided I'd take option 2 and get on the phone but she beats me to it, just while I'm working my second shift so I can't answer. She texts saying call her back when I can. I figure she's possibly up here but I find it unlikely since she would've let me know on Thursday or Friday.
So after work (9:30 tonight) I call back and she asks what I'm doing, I tell her I'm leaving work. hat tells me she's looking for advice.
Me: Advice on what?
Her: Well my cousin came up to see me and we went out and she was turnt.
Me: Turnt how?
Her: She was lit!
Me: Drunk?
Her: Yes, I felt like I was her mom.
So she wanted advice on how to let her cousin know that having to control her while she was inebriated was a problem. So I did the best I could and said let her know you like hanging with her but it stops becoming one when only one of you is cognizant, just come with the truth, etc. And she's like "Ah, so wise".
To myself I'm like
but she transitions to small talk asking how my day at work was, asking if it was hard, etc. I assume she knows I'm driving as she says to get home safe and let's me go.So;
Exhibit A: Reconnection based on prospect of (my) improved aesthetics
Exhibit B: Volunteering free time
Exhibit C: Uncertainty over my text message (comes across like she thinks I was hitting up some other female I'm dating and trying to reconcile), almost a less secure way of saying "I know you be talking to other girls"
Exhibit D: Finding excuses to talk to me (I don't REALLY think she needed MY advice on her cousin lol)
I hope I'm overthinking but like I said, I don't assign the idea of coincidence to women, creatures who live in subtlety. I feel like if I'm right I've left hints I didn't mean to leave.
Dreamzeedream
Banned
When you ask a chick what she on and she say "shyt tryna get this money"already know what time it is, idk who told these hoes out here they p*ssy is worth something but that shyt need to stop
how is that a bad thing
YaFingerDealMe
All Star
Lhh Of course it’s all in context nothing wrong with a chick getting money but a lot of hoes I meet be using it as code, I’m not paying for no p*ssy
There is this chick I wanna chill out with and get to know but I don't even know how to swing that.
Should I just invite her to chill and stop overthinkin it? We got hella shyt in common
I'm legit just interested in being her friend at this current time cause I don't know her that well.
Also she might be a come up for me when it comes to career connections. I've never really made friends with a woman so I don't even know where to start.
Should I just invite her to chill and stop overthinkin it? We got hella shyt in common
I'm legit just interested in being her friend at this current time cause I don't know her that well.
Also she might be a come up for me when it comes to career connections. I've never really made friends with a woman so I don't even know where to start.
Can anyone help me make sense of this.
Shorty I'm talking to is on some bs right now
Left me on read after a few messages but watches my snapchats
Posted a snap of her elsewhere with a few drinks
Hmu last minute to chillll last weekend when I been asking her when she's down to hangout
I ask where she was and why she couldn't respond to me lately said she was hanging out with her dad
Has been posting snaps of her dubbing dudes, she didn't used to post that before
Does the same thing this week
Not sure if it's my response to her asking what she we do this week told her I'm trying to break her back (jokingly) then I followed quickly and told her I'll figure something out. Leaves me in read
My friends say its because she feels that I'm treating her like a jump off but I feel like there's another guy she's messing with that she doesn't want to come clean about
Shorty I'm talking to is on some bs right now
Left me on read after a few messages but watches my snapchats
Posted a snap of her elsewhere with a few drinks
Hmu last minute to chillll last weekend when I been asking her when she's down to hangout
I ask where she was and why she couldn't respond to me lately said she was hanging out with her dad
Has been posting snaps of her dubbing dudes, she didn't used to post that before
Does the same thing this week
Not sure if it's my response to her asking what she we do this week told her I'm trying to break her back (jokingly) then I followed quickly and told her I'll figure something out. Leaves me in read
My friends say its because she feels that I'm treating her like a jump off but I feel like there's another guy she's messing with that she doesn't want to come clean about
Man
Ther is a girl that i knw we used to talk just as friends nothing more
Then i went to another city for holiday
I came back but lost her number
Somebody gave me her number
What wuld be the best approcach if i want to text her
I really dnt knw wher to start ?
@Pclarkrsa @Rice'N Beckford @TRUEST
Ther is a girl that i knw we used to talk just as friends nothing more
Then i went to another city for holiday
I came back but lost her number
Somebody gave me her number
What wuld be the best approcach if i want to text her
I really dnt knw wher to start ?
@Pclarkrsa @Rice'N Beckford @TRUEST
The only way I know of to successfully get out of the friend zone is to put distance between you for a long enough time for you to come back as an improved version of yourself. "On holiday" doesn't sound like it's been long enough for you to acquire more money, lose 30 pounds/gain 30 pounds on your bench, learn a new skill, NOTHING worth giving a second look to. Because basically she knows you as a friend, and if you haven't changed anything worth mentioning, you're still that same dude she thinks she knows. That being the case, you got 2 options, neither of them really optimal: throw a Hail Mary and let her know that you're trying to get closer, or stay away until you have made a big enough change that it changes her view of you. IF you do the Hail Mary, remember that it's a last ditch effort. If you tell her you trying to get on the radar for a physical relationship and she's dismissive, talking the"you're a good friend, I don't want to ruin this" bullshyt, you have to be ready to
her ass like she doesn't exist, cause if you accept the friend zone option, you will NEVER escape.The only way I know of to successfully get out of the friend zone is to put distance between you for a long enough time for you to come back as an improved version of yourself. "On holiday" doesn't sound like it's been long enough for you to acquire more money, lose 30 pounds/gain 30 pounds on your bench, learn a new skill, NOTHING worth giving a second look to. Because basically she knows you as a friend, and if you haven't changed anything worth mentioning, you're still that same dude she thinks she knows. That being the case, you got 2 options, neither of them really optimal: throw a Hail Mary and let her know that you're trying to get closer, or stay away until you have made a big enough change that it changes her view of you. IF you do the Hail Mary, remember that it's a last ditch effort. If you tell her you trying to get on the radar for a physical relationship and she's dismissive, talking the"you're a good friend, I don't want to ruin this" bullshyt, you have to be ready to
Yes but its nt friendzone
We were cool n all
I just dnt knw hw to answer when the person ask me wher u got my number from
Mind u dat i had her number before n lost it