It's been six months at UT and I haven't had sex once. My business is succeeding, my mind and body are peaking, and my social life is popping, but I'm no closer to an intimate relationship than I was when I first got here. I know people who achieved far less their freshman year but have succeeded far more with women. There's only one piece of the puzzle I can point to when I think about where I went wrong this school year: talking to women.
Talking to women begets more women. It doesn't matter if their friends, family, children, or strangers. Men who interact with more women on a day to day basis will always succeed more often romantically. It's so simple it's stupid. I was standoffish when I got here. I wanted to focus on myself and my business, and I thought the resulting success would bring women to me. I was wrong. We have to open up. We have to talk to them. We have to put ourselves out there.
I know a man who is a slob. I know another man who works at Chuck E. Cheese. However, both of them had far more sex than I did and there's a distinct reason why. Women are a constant fixture in their lives. They have female (or gay) friends. They are open and forward with female strangers and acquaintances. You can tell girls love being around those two knuckleheads. The only thing I can see that they're doing right is interacting with the opposite sex skillfully and often.
If I can go to a school with 50,000 people and be succeeding by every metric and still go sexless, that must mean I was doing something wrong. I wasn't willing to build those female relationships early, and I was arrogant to think they would gravitate towards me over time. I underestimated how important it was to interact with as many different women (and people) as possible and closed myself off from many opportunities as a result. Romantically, the biggest lesson I could take from this year is that the only way to succeed with women is to talk to an ever increasing amount of them in order to really learn what makes them tick.