I think a lot of "dealing with women" is about knowing what you want first and a lot of dudes either dont know or if they know, they're not keeping real with themselves or with others. Figure out what you want and why you want it. Once you know what you want, choose a girl that wants the same thing. Don't try to convince or convert a girl. Dont try to trick a girl. Don't
want a specific girl. Instead you should want a type of girl. If the girl seems to want the same at first and then switches up, distance yourself without anger. If things seem confused, listen to your gut and distance yourself. Give them space to choose you and choose your directions. They don't owe you anything. Not their pussp not their time. If you choose to give them your time or energy, always remember it was your choice just like you can choose to stop giving her time and energy.
It's hard to not play yourself when you barely know what you want and always compromise