Essential Quick Lil Gems on Dealing with Women

[kevm3]

my aunt whose visiting just had to talk with me wow brehs

she asked me when im going to get married and im like i dont know, then shes like i was just asking, you have to be very very careful nowadays, many women are not grounded and want to go out here and there and not want to follow their husbands lead i was like

She told me to look not anticipate and then pray about a woman if i have her on my mind

old women who has been married for over 50 years knowledge

Man my problem is that in this day and age, it's always the men who are told how wrong they are and what they need to do to 'step it up', but not a word is ever said to the women. How can the women ever turn into the type of woman that can successfully participate in a long-term relationship if nobody is ever telling them anything? A lot of them have their moms telling them, "Get you a man that makes money!" Then daddy telling them,"You're a princess! You deserve the best!" Then society telling them,"Anything a man can do, you can do just as well if not better! You're an independent woman! You go girl!" Then you have 10,000 simps in their ear telling them, "Girl you are SO beautiful! I will drink your bathwater! I'd do ANYTHING for you!" Then you have television shows like bad girls club and sex and the city pumping them full of images of women wilding out and being rewarded... Is it any surprise women act like they do? Nobody is giving them any real information. Women 'back in the day' didn't have television constantly on and the content allowed on now would NOT be allowed back then. You had the traditional nuclear structure being respected, ie the man is the breadwinner, respect your man, cook, clean and sew, etc. Feminism is pretty much the philosophy that attempts to make dating a woman as unappealing as possible.

 

[Brandeezy]

dude on this shyt again. Didn't you say you were like 5'5 as well?

Not trolling, all this shyt is true

how she work that out breh?

I kept mentioning how I hang out with my cousin or uncle at different spots then she was like "Why don't you go with your friends....don't tell me you don't have any friends, omg you need to go find some"

Online dating sucks for men for the most part, as a man especially if you have low success, low self esteem you will be eaten alive. The only man who succeed for the most part on online dating are those that look great and I mean like model types, and those that have a whitty written profile. Men rarely receive messages if you don't initiate, and even if you do you are battling it ot with hundreds of different other men for replies. You say you hae great photos, and profile well written, and you are still striking out. Maybe your profile is not written good. No homo but post what you wrote on your profile here.

Secondly it could be your area, whats your race? what types of races are you emailing?





You are selling yourself to low,

1. YOu wouldn't want to date a female co-worker anywas
2. first dates are usually awkward especially if you are a introvert, if you don't talk alot come across as mysterious instead of awkard.
3. How did she find out you have no friends? Stop telling women things they don't need to know? honestly I have a few friends at this point in my life but it has never been a hinderance.
4. Read the book No more Mr. Nice guy i've been where you have been
5. bummy dudes with no jobs pull attractive women because they have confidence, that's what you have to work on

I'm a black dude in a majority white/hispanic area so that's pretty much what I see in my searches

 

[MikelArteta]

Not trolling, all this shyt is true



I kept mentioning how I hang out with my cousin or uncle at different spots then she was like "Why don't you go with your friends....don't tell me you don't have any friends, omg you need to go find some"



I'm a black dude in a majority white/hispanic area so that's pretty much what I see in my searches

Could be it
here try this
change your city, and zip to a more diverse area and see if the results are the same. More than likely it could just be the area you are living in.

 

[Odyssey]

http://therationalmale.com/2013/08/21/the-best-of-rational-male-year-two/

 

[MikelArteta]

I was just looking at a list of what I want in a women even to just date exclusivity and I did not even mention looks but it's sad I can't even find the qualities that I want all well

 

[Miah]

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[MikelArteta]

Would you guys stop having sex with a woman you like and you intellectually click with but don't officialy date (because she has kids) because you met someone else on a (ONE) date ?

Did this woman with kids know about your arrangement? ala you don't want a relationship with her because of her kids but she's ok with just getting sex ? Or is she hoping for a relationship?

Do you have a relationship with her kids?

And Just because you had a great first date with soemone doesn't mean you should cut everyone off, you sitll nothing about this person and may not click.

 

[Turbulent]

Did this woman with kids know about your arrangement? ala you don't want a relationship with her because of her kids but she's ok with just getting sex ? Or is she hoping for a relationship?

Do you have a relationship with her kids?

And Just because you had a great first date with soemone doesn't mean you should cut everyone off, you sitll nothing about this person and may not click.

that's a chick if i'm not mistaking. the post you quoted is either the chick who went on first date with dude or the one who has kids.

 

[Miah]

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[MikelArteta]

delete

 

[Miah]

ah got it, my bad.

More than likely he's really feeling this new chick, and more than likely he has been thinking of this for awhile. Are you sure he found you extremely hot? I don't mean to be rude or anything, but many men will have sex with anything.

Yeah I think he finds me attractive ,he tells me every single time we meet up even when we don't have sex ..

 

[MikelArteta]

Yeah I think he finds me attractive ,he tells me every single time we meet up even when we don't have sex ..

What do you want out of him though? a relationship? or would you just be fine if he continued to have sex with you?

 

[Shameonyou]

aint no woman gonna love you more than your mom will...so dont look for love in a woman...look for consistency and cooperation if those two arent part of her character, she aint shyt

 

[u mad son?]

How do you know if a chick is lying about her past? My girl always says small things here and there that makes me stop and think "wait, how does she know this/what makes her think that". Like she told me she only ever been with one guy nd that was for three years, outside of that she never fukked around. I mean one example is when we first started getting sexual, she initiated it, i fingered her and then she gave me head, this was like the 3rd time of meeting her, she then got on top of me and I told her i didnt wanna have sex cos it was too early, she was like "wow ur not like other guys" and genuinely couldnt believe it... And shes always saying stuff like that, "other guys would have done this/done that". she says things like "oo im done with my bad boy phase/ive met enough dikkhead boys/etc" and im there thinking what? u only ever been with one dude apparantly??

now fair enough she may just have heard from her other friends the type of shyt 'guys do' and i might just be paranoid, but recently she was drinking and called me up, I cracked a joke and called her a hoe and she kinda took it to heart, and then she said something along the lines of "whatever happened is in the past, your my future now" ... i was like hold up, i thought i knew ur past? she said she isnt lying to me but she wont tell me for shyt what it was she was actually talking about. Its got to the point where she would rather break up with me than tell me. now we talked about this before, we was talking about heaven and hell, she was like "im going to hell, theres alot of bad things i done in my past" .. and when i asked her she didnt tell me for shyt and was like "its none of ur business etc etc". now i dont know whether its to do with her sleeping around or if its something else but im finding it hard to think what that something else could be. i dunno

This shyt is driving me crazy lol

on top of that she had flavoured lube in her cupboard when i first met her, she said she bought it just out of curiosity when she went to a sex store with her friend ... it was pretty much empty. she also had no qualms having sex without a rubber cos she already had pills. they double up as those pills which delay ur period as well though. im just adding up all these things and thinking hmmmm i dunno

Following up on this

i basically told her to spill the beans and that id rather hear the truth about her past and that i wouldnt leave her, in my head i was thinking if she tells me shes fukked a ridiculous number of dudes i was gonna leave her regardless. turns out last year she slept with another dude she assumed she was in a relationship with cos she talked and saw the guy for 3 months, he lead her on and after he got what he wanted he was ghost. she seemed really ashamed about it and was crying, this was the same time she fell into depression so i think shes genuine about it. she also told me the guy she was with for 3 years she was only actually with for 2 years, the first year was a normal relationship and she didnt have sex with him but in after she did, shyt went downhill and she basically got used as his fukk buddy for a few months. she seems like she learned her lesson and she never came across as a slut so imma stay with her

oh and the flavoured lube was given to her at her sisters hen party, and it wasnt empty it was actually the same one she used with me. it was her vibrator that she bought with her friends. i think the reason she got sexual so quickly was that she was afraid id lose interest in her and she knew i was a good dude for relationship from the first month i talked to her before we met up, and i proved numerous times i wasnt like those other dudes thatll smash n dash.

thanks for the advice guys, really appreciate it

 

[Turbulent]

Following up on this

i basically told her to spill the beans and that id rather hear the truth about her past and that i wouldnt leave her, in my head i was thinking if she tells me shes fukked a ridiculous number of dudes i was gonna leave her regardless. turns out last year she slept with another dude she assumed she was in a relationship with cos she talked and saw the guy for 3 months, he lead her on and after he got what he wanted he was ghost. she seemed really ashamed about it and was crying, this was the same time she fell into depression so i think shes genuine about it. she also told me the guy she was with for 3 years she was only actually with for 2 years, the first year was a normal relationship and she didnt have sex with him but in after she did, shyt went downhill and she basically got used as his fukk buddy for a few months. she seems like she learned her lesson and she never came across as a slut so imma stay with her

oh and the flavoured lube was given to her at her sisters hen party, and it wasnt empty it was actually the same one she used with me. it was her vibrator that she bought with her friends. i think the reason she got sexual so quickly was that she was afraid id lose interest in her and she knew i was a good dude for relationship from the first month i talked to her before we met up, and i proved numerous times i wasnt like those other dudes thatll smash n dash.

thanks for the advice guys, really appreciate it

sounds like your mind is made up. hope it works out for you and your girl.