‘Preglimony’ Would Make Men Financially Responsible for Pregnancies or Abortions

[Nintendough]

These types of ideas cause bitterness instead of solutions.

 

[Sharp]

There's no reason a man should be saying he forced to take care of his seed. Imagine if your father felt he was forced to take care of you. I'm not seeing how this feeling is supported unless you grew up that way.

I feel what you're saying, but it's not that simple. I'm digressing, but I feel I should hare this as it is relevant. I'm personally going thru it right now. I'm going through a wild ass divorce as we speak so I'm talking from real life experience, not textbook theory.

Taking care of your kid is much different than being forced to give a woman money to take care of your seed in anyway that she sees fit. It's not like she's telling you that she needs this and that and you're giving her the money for it. No breh, you're just giving her money. You have no idea or no control over how it is being allocated.

Most men would love to be in their kids life, being active in the decisions financially, not just giving her money. I give my wife approximately $900 a month in child support and on top of that, I keep him for a week out of every month and still have to support him with my own money when he's with me. When you're with the woman you still have a say over these financial situations. You spend how you see fit and you are aware of how your child is being taken care of. I've noticed that since we separated, she doesn't keep him in Polo, Jordans, and other name brand stuff like she used to yet, yet she is still receiving a comparable amount of money from me. I can't tell her what to do with that money. I can't tell her to take better care of my kid because she provides what is necessary in the eyes of the court.

So in essence, you are just a sponsor. Just because you give a female money to take care of your kid does not mean that you have any say on what she does. When you and that woman split and child support is issued by the court, say goodbye to your say in how your finances that you give to her are spent.

And some women go straight for child support regardless or not if you are there and taking care of your kid. They want that financial control over your money. It's real talk.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Did you just type up a diatribe about child support to try and prove something about "preglimony"?

You nikkas need journals. I need that 5 minutes of my life back

 

[Schmoove]

Even if a man is keeping up his end of the bargain, I bet the courts won't track how the mother is spending HER money.

 

[jab343irk]

another reason why you wont find me without a condom

 

[The ADD]

I just read 4 pages and I'm confused at the uproar:

Knowing if its your kid or not before birth is great, it should be mandatory

I don't get being mad having to assist with paying for prenatal when its your kid. If the argument is that you don't want the kid, why are you sleeping unprotected with women you don't want to mother your kids or you don't agree with on abortion rights?

Just like child support, if the man and woman are on good terms she likely isn't filing so the prenatal stuff will like be a true cost basis and not a government mandated amount.

 

[Mowgli]

I just read 4 pages and I'm confused at the uproar:

Knowing if its your kid or not before birth is great, it should be mandatory

I don't get being mad having to assist with paying for prenatal when its your kid. If the argument is that you don't want the kid, why are you sleeping unprotected with women you don't want to mother your kids or you don't agree with on abortion rights?

Just like child support, if the man and woman are on good terms she isn't filing so the prenatal stuff will like be a true cost basis and not a government mandated amount.

These dudes are demons bruh. Think about it like that and you realize they want no part of responsibility.

 

[-G$-]

I just read 4 pages and I'm confused at the uproar:

Knowing if its your kid or not before birth is great, it should be mandatory

I don't get being mad having to assist with paying for prenatal when its your kid. If the argument is that you don't want the kid, why are you sleeping unprotected with women you don't want to mother your kids or you don't agree with on abortion rights?

Just like child support, if the man and woman are on good terms she isn't filing so the prenatal stuff will like be a true cost basis and not a government mandated amount.

that's the problem w 99% of these threads. they start off w a very particular topic/premise (this one being prenatal) then end up w a bunch of posters bringing in their bitter perspectives on very broad aspects of relationships and children. i understand that sharp is going through a shytty situation w his kid's mom, but none of that shyt he typed had anything to do w the initial article.

 

[KnowledgeIsQueen]

For guys who claim to have all this knowledge about picking the right women and being a man, you all seem pretty scared about things that should never concern you. I don't know if it's because of fear of the female or what but it seems odd.

I think it's great that they will mandate DNA testing beforehand, saving a lot of men time and drama. But after that, men also have to realize that you don't have control over another person's body. A woman's burden is pregnancy and harsh labor, a man's burden is not having jurisdiction over her body. We all know this when we lay down, so why get mad about it when consequence time comes around.

There's no reason a man should be saying he forced to take care of his seed. Imagine if your father felt he was forced to take care of you. I'm not seeing how this feeling is supported unless you grew up that way.

My sentiments exactly!

 

[Sharp]

that's the problem w 99% of these threads. they start off w a very particular topic/premise (this one being prenatal) then end up w a bunch of posters bringing in their bitter perspectives on very broad aspects of relationships and children. i understand that sharp is going through a shytty situation w his kid's mom, but none of that shyt he typed had anything to do w the initial article.

It didn't have anything to do with the initial article. I knew I was digressing and I mentioned that. I just wanted to address that one point a poster made.

As far as the actual topic, I mean, yeah... establishing paternity early on is a great thing. I really didn't speak on the original topic because I felt it was self explanatory. You get a female pregnant, you take responsibility.

 

[Julius Skrrvin]

Celibacy

 

[Sharp]

Did you just type up a diatribe about child support to try and prove something about "preglimony"?

You nikkas need journals. I need that 5 minutes of my life back

Not all, just showing you the difference between posters with real life experiences and dude who just post theoretical things behind a keyboard.

 

[Amy Traphouse]

Has anyone mentioned tax payers having to foot the bill for the b*stard kids yet?

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Not all, just showing you the difference between posters with real life experiences and dude who just post theoretical things behind a keyboard.

What does any of what you typed have to do with "preglimony" or any relation to that topic? Nothing.

You can type up all the experience you have anytime you want, but that doesn't mean it's applicable to any and every situation or relevant.

 

[BedRoomI'z]

What a demonic culture of men we have that treat babies like gnats that need to be swatted out of existence. I cant imagine what the next level of this brand of stupidity is going to be.

Real talk