People don't really value connections anymore and that's sad to me brehs.

[OnlyOneBoss]

It deadass wasn't this bad 5-10 years ago and im a young(er) breh than most on here fr.

I mean when I started college 2016 we were in group chats planning game nights, potlucks/snacks, movie nights, etc. Just random people too. Random ass pranks, late night walking around campus doing shyt, etc. My lil cuz in the same dorm building I lived in and he says them mfs barely even talk to each other outside of class. He said they don't even collab in the study rooms anymore, its one or 2 people max. We had groups in there stressing over MATH 110.


And my early 20s even, folks genuinely wanted to just hangout and connect and enjoy company, I made my closest connections here. Just going to bars and talking to folks, meeting people in thrift stores and shyt. I met my closest friend to this day on the elevator when I was delivering a DoorDash order.

Now, shyt is cooked. It's like nobody wants to just do some casual outing anymore man. People see no value in genuinely connecting with people if money or sex isn't involved. I'm one of those people that loves being social and just hanging around people, I'll always try and initiate shyt but people really want nothing to do with each other nowadays.

How do people expect to live joyous lives if talking to their neighbor or walking with a stranger for a few minutes is asking too much of them?

 

[JLova]

people get married and have kids and get wrapped up in that world.

Also feel like COVID really out a strain on many friendships.

 

[RickyDiBiase]

I blame this whole "introvert" bullshyt and social media encouraging it

motherfukkers think they too good to say hi and bye, or stop by for a minute.

even for family!

Meanwhile ain't busy to do shyt but be glued to that damn phone or in front of the TV playing fukking video games

but don't know how to cook (male or female)

don't have no sense of get up and go

and money hungry to the point it's borderline creepy

dry ass or no personalities

shyt really sucks.

 

[Ahadi]

people get married and have kids and get wrapped up in that world.

Also feel like COVID really out a strain on many friendships.

Covid def changed social dynamics + social media / overstimulation

 

[010101]

poor programing*

 

[seymour cake]

Sign of the times.. people will be lovers of them selves ect...... Its in da bible

 

[Contrarian]

Its because of social media and how entertainment is so easily accessible and at our finger tips.

People are more virtually connected, but simultaneously more socially inept.

What needs to be done is more social outlets and gatherings that are phone free, and dare I say no alcohol or drugs. People just vibing and connecting over good food, music, and actual conversation.

 

[Standing on business]

Covid- self explanatory

Social media- brought us closer together but further apart.

Hustle culture- self explanatory

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Ya'll are not going to like this but wanting to constantly hang out with people is a bit childish.

The point of the journey is to get right with one's self. There is nothing wrong with socializing but as you get older you SHOULD be spending more time alone.

People are needy and require attention. The more attention you give them the less you give yourself.

The majority of adults are caught in arrested development because they never spend time with themselves or are constantly caught up in the drama of socializing.

Most people aren't about anything.

Do people need to improve their social skills? Absolutely. But people back in the day aren't any better than the people who exist now

 

[hitmonlee]

Talked to one of my home girls friend who is a 8th grade teacher for almost 20 years and she said guys and girls don’t even interact anymore at school. And it’s all because of phones and social media…twitch, snap, IG, tik tok especially

 

[boogers]

people get married and have kids and get wrapped up in that world.

one of my best friends was a lawyer in town. he had four kids and a wife. owned his house. he put me up for awhile while i was homeless. i got close with the kids and would grill out on the weekends

one of my best friends through my 20s. always there if you needed him. would give you the shirt off his back. did a lot of pro bono legal work for local fukkups in the community who caught drug charges

did a line of yay at a party, collapsed five minutes later and died on the floor. fentanyl

cherish anybody you have close to you, cause you might not have them for long

Ya'll are not going to like this but wanting to constantly hang out with people is a bit childish.

i feel what youre saying, but community is a human need. its why we succeeded as a species. we need each other. maybe not on a parasocial level like today, but i got friends i trust more than family.... blood only goes so far

 

[AllHolosEve]

Talked to one of my home girls friend who is a 8th grade teacher for almost 20 years and she said guys and girls don’t even interact anymore at school. And it’s all because of phones and social media…twitch, snap, IG, tik tok especially

-I can't speak for everywhere else but in my experience this isn't true. I work for the school district & I've worked in a couple schools, currently a highschool. The kids definitely interact with each other other in & out of school with & without social media.

.....The point of the journey is to get right with one's self. There is nothing wrong with socializing but as you get older you SHOULD be spending more time alone.....
Most people aren't about anything.

-I don't think there's a singular point to this journey, we each have our own experience. I can't agree at all with the idea you SHOULD be spending more time alone as you get older, that's a personal choice. I didn't work hard, save money, get a woman, form a circle & start a family to spend time alone. I plan on spending my time enjoying life doing shyt with my loved ones & only being alone when required.

 

[Jalether]

I agree with everything that's been said here

Another major factor, this concerns the adults, is the cost of living and damn rent prices have made overworking a neccessity

adults are simply overworked i.e too busy and too tired to hang out or do shyt. you have folks with 2 or 3 jobs, people pulling overtime like crazy just to survive where will they have time or energy to socialize. it's sad. thank capitalism

 

[Umoja]

I blame this whole "introvert" bullshyt and social media encouraging it

motherfukkers think they too good to say hi and bye, or stop by for a minute.

even for family!

Meanwhile ain't busy to do shyt but be glued to that damn phone or in front of the TV playing fukking video games

but don't know how to cook (male or female)

don't have no sense of get up and go

and money hungry to the point it's borderline creepy

dry ass or no personalities

shyt really sucks.

Yeah.

I find it irksome when people go on their little "I'm an introvert, stop...." screeds. I'm an introvert but my head isn't so far up my own ass that I refuse to exchange pleasantries and socialise.

I think the internet has allowed the worst set of people to steer interaction. People see crappy think pieces and it makes them apprehensive about approaching others.

 

[Cryptocurrency Scarface]

It deadass wasn't this bad 5-10 years ago and im a young(er) breh than most on here fr.

I mean when I started college 2016 we were in group chats planning game nights, potlucks/snacks, movie nights, etc. Just random people too. Random ass pranks, late night walking around campus doing shyt, etc. My lil cuz in the same dorm building I lived in and he says them mfs barely even talk to each other outside of class. He said they don't even collab in the study rooms anymore, its one or 2 people max. We had groups in there stressing over MATH 110.


And my early 20s even, folks genuinely wanted to just hangout and connect and enjoy company, I made my closest connections here. Just going to bars and talking to folks, meeting people in thrift stores and shyt. I met my closest friend to this day on the elevator when I was delivering a DoorDash order.

Now, shyt is cooked. It's like nobody wants to just do some casual outing anymore man. People see no value in genuinely connecting with people if money or sex isn't involved. I'm one of those people that loves being social and just hanging around people, I'll always try and initiate shyt but people really want nothing to do with each other nowadays.

How do people expect to live joyous lives if talking to their neighbor or walking with a stranger for a few minutes is asking too much of them?

People are suspicious about one another especially those outside of their original circles because everything seems to be transactional

I think the pandemic played a role in people’s psyche