Damn 6'5 brehs can't even get dates anymore :Edit this isn't me.

[Space Cowboy]

Lmfao this comment in the Reddit link

You've posted a bajillion posts on this in various subreddits buuuut: you've also posted complaints in r/aspergers and r/socialanxiety. You're in the ADHD women's sub for some reason posting about how you're completely unable to make a decision? And you're in the premature ejaculation sub?

C'mon man

 

[Ohene]

Anyone else feel like dating has gotten unbelievably more difficult in recent years?

I just got stood up on a date.

The two two before this got cold feet and pulled out on the day - at least they had the courtesy to let me know. That's about as much as I can ask for these days.

I'm only managing to get about 1 in 10 women I talk to on dating apps out onto an actual date these days. Which doesn't seem that bad until I tell you that I'm extremely selective and only swipe right on about 3 or 4 women per week who I think I'll be compatible with and who don't look like window shoppers.

I'm also 6'5 fit and classically handsome with a very solid dating profile showcasing my hobbies and travels.

I'm respectful and engaging when I message women, much more so than the average guy from what I've seen and heard. I ask interesting questions, I weave humor into the conversation, I don't waste too much time talking online but I'm not pushy.

There really isn't a whole lot more that I can do to help my chances.

4-5 years ago when I was in my mid 20s my profile was worse, my personality wasn't as interesting, I was obsessed with working out, I had edgy humor, and yet everything was so much easier. Probably 50% of dating app conversations became real dates if I wanted them to.

Women actually pulled their weight and seemed dare I say enthusiastic to meet me. They even asked me questions unprompted from time to time. And they would even suggest meeting up. It feels like a fever dream now

My dating experience recently has been akin to Sisyphus pushing a ball of shyt up an endless hill, and Atlas condemned to carry the weight of the entire fukking conversation.

I refuse to drop my standards so if these means I only have a date or two per year then so be it.

It's also one of the reasons I've resorted to approaching women in person - no more paying to be ignored by women who had no intention of even meeting you.

Although offline dating seems to have gotten harder as well. I have had a few dates with women I met this way (at least you can be sure that you're actually attracted to them before you have a date)

**Disposable dating culture has been devouring itself** \- when everyone is cutting each other off at the slightest potential fumble fault flaw or foible in the interest of protecting their time and energy, it's no wonder that they're struggling to make meaningful connections. It also seems that ghosting and flaking has become so normalized that it's stranger when people actually communicate with you.

I've had women disappear when I take more than a few hours to reply, when I don't try to fukk them on the 2nd date... and these are women who claim they're looking for long term relationships, in their late 20s who should be more mature than the women I was meeting up with 5 years ago.

(then it seems like some guys can get away with murder once they're in a relationship but that's another topic)

If women have gotten collectively burned out with dating apps then where are they opting to meet guys, because it sure as shyt doesn't feel like things are any easier in real life.

In fact it feels harder than ever to connect with women at bars or festivals these days - I remember 10 years back walking up and chatting to anyone about anything, that just doesn't really fly these days. I hardly even see guys approaching women anymore either.

If they're deciding to do their dating purely through mutual friends then I guess I'm out of the running.

Anyway as I said, I'm a tall, good looking, charismatic guy so If I'm struggling I can't imagine how tough things must be for under average guys, unless they're willing to drop their standards entirely.

I haven't dropped my standards but I have dropped my expectations to nothing so I'm pleasantly surprised by anything. It's a bit sad that it's come to this but there are only so many times you can be disappointed after getting your hopes up before you adapt accordingly.

I'm actually considering waving the white flag and giving up for a while. I don't think I'll meet anyone when I stop looking for it - I ran that experiment and I didn't have a single date for several years, but it's taking a heavy toll on my mental health now. It's just not fun anymore

Have I just had bad luck or have you noticed a shift in the dynamics as well?

What happened?

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMenAdvice/s/mePnErIT2S

Bro you gotta read my book

 

[Ohene]

You’re clearly not what you think you are champ.

I know exactly what op in the Reddit means

I believe him

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Lmfao this comment in the Reddit link

 

[Roger king]

One would like to believe that finding a true companion or spouse is beyond the vane and things like how you get along, personality, character etc takes its precedence over that as well.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

If he can dunk a basketball then there is no way he’s not getting no superficial bytches cheekage.


I had a friend like that, a 6’5 viking looking motherfukker but he was smart af. Told me he sometimes hated that THAT was the reason that people become interested in him.

I seen it in person too… interesting dude. We also was on a few TV shows to bullshyt on the weekends

 

[Neuromancer]

Bro you gotta read my book

It's not me breh.

 

[TheKongoEmpire]

Ugly gang is an army

Better yet the navy

 

[Child_Of_God]

Being tall doesn’t guarantee that you’ll succeed in dating.

 

[CoCKy GeNiuS]

First and foremost what you see and feel about yourself may not equate to what the next person evaluates you as.

Second, stop chasing dates. Dating is watered down and dare I say "goofy" now. It's become a trendy lifestyle that people do just to say they're doing it.

Tell her you'll get up with her when you're free. Or that if you ever reach out to chill with her she better be ready. You gotta treat these bobble head ducks like you have more going on in life than you really do. Be smooth but at the same time play your hand like you're important and have shyt to do. Never let em feel like you're always free to hang out or go on a date. If she wants a real role in ya life the bytch will invest something more valuable than puzzy.

 

[Da King]

You’re clearly not what you think you are champ.

Damn one and done

 

[The Realist Perspective]

He is being too respectful. When I was out there I kept 3. Any more, any less, I was in peril as a man.
Typical Reddit soyboy spouting nonsense told to him by women and actually believing in and following through with it.
Please believe every woman he's respectfully approaching, respectfully has a slew of men she can sort through.
You absolutely have to keep the same energy.
Even if you have to have a few undesirables on the team just to knock the desperation off you, do that.
But don't be out here trying to be the upstanding gentlemen only entertaining one woman at a time. You'd be a fool.

 

[Neuromancer]

Damn one and done

He should respond to the person on the reddit. I'm not the poster.

 

[Vandelay]

Dude probably has some weird energy that he doesn't realize. He has all the other cheat codes.

 

[GreenGhxst]

Futher browsing his profile, being 6'5 might be the only thing he got going for him.. he works retail, addicted to porn, etc.


He might also be ugly gang and is delusional thinking he is handsome gang, he claims women ignore him in public. Being 6'5 doesn't mean shyt if you are ugly and work retail.

Dude probably has some weird energy that he doesn't realize. He has all the other cheat codes.

porn will fukk up your vibe if you get addicted