Older brehs of the Coli... Do you still have "crushes"?

[Realm-Breaker]

oh yeah!

 

[RaspberryFitted]

?

you ain’t read the title?

 

[Gloxina]

you ain’t read the title?

I thought this was directed to the gents?

 

[BBG]

Don’t let the magic go

Your soul needs it

From one old head in training to a veteran old head, I come to you humble asking genuinely
How do you get the magic back once you've already lost it? I've been ridiculously hard on women since like 20 based on my experiences prior to. In recent years I've seen how detrimental that can be, so I've been working on it. But I seriously feel like I'm just going through the motions of what I should be doing/saying instead of actually genuinely feeling "it". And really it all has to do with trust issues. My trust issues are so deeply rooted I don't even know how to begin to get rid of them.


help

 

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[RaspberryFitted]

I thought this was directed to the gents?

It was. Asked the brehs if they still had crushes… and the way you be typin’ up dem lil paragraphs talking ya shyt… might slip a “do u like me” note in ya locker

 

[Mr. Jack Napier]

I hit 20 years last year and have moments where I fall in love with my wife all over again. Whether it's an appreciation for what we've endured or imagining the time we'd get to spend together in the future, it's like a tidal wave of unexplainable emotions that envelop your entire being.

Crazy how you can be blessed to feel something like that with a thought, touch, sound, or word. It doesn't happen often enough to saddle me, but enough to let you know that you have a life outside of what you've conditioned in your mind

Must be nice, I'll never be blessed to experience this.

 

[Stuntone]

I thought I was done falling in love at 32. This young girl in Louisiana had my nose wide open! At 34 I fell in love with my ex of 6 years. I've been in love or experience the joy she brought to my life. Still not over her and still may get back with her. Now I'm 41, I'm feeling like them days might be over, but you never know.

At this age, I hope for a good moral woman thats good looking and I enjoy her company. That's enough now, I don't necessarily need the magic I've had in past.

 

[International Playa]

I only crush on a phat ass.

Aslong as a woman got good nice positive vibe, good convo & my dikk gets hard around her, I'm down.

 

[CrushedGroove]

Must be nice, I'll never be blessed to experience this.

Not saying this is in all cases, but you have to be willing to sacrifice something in order to allow yourself to give yourself completely to another person, even if it's temporary. Not advocating for becoming those 90 day fiance types though

 

[Your Welcome]

I dont think it's possible for me to feel butterflies at this point in my life. That's something you feel when you believe in the sanctity of these thots and you're still putting them on petal stools.

*pedal

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Of course I still get crushes.
The difference is now that I'm old (and in a relationship), they only last about 10 mins.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

From one old head in training to a veteran old head, I come to you humble asking genuinely
How do you get the magic back once you've already lost it? I've been ridiculously hard on women since like 20 based on my experiences prior to. In recent years I've seen how detrimental that can be, so I've been working on it. But I seriously feel like I'm just going through the motions of what I should be doing/saying instead of actually genuinely feeling "it". And really it all has to do with trust issues. My trust issues are so deeply rooted I don't even know how to begin to get rid of them.


help

One day you cross paths with "her" and it just hits you... .

 

[BaldingSoHard]

I thought I was done falling in love at 32. This young girl in Louisiana had my nose wide open! At 34 I fell in love with my ex of 6 years. I've been in love or experience the joy she brought to my life. Still not over her and still may get back with her. Now I'm 41, I'm feeling like them days might be over, but you never know.

At this age, I hope for a good moral woman thats good looking and I enjoy her company. That's enough now, I don't necessarily need the magic I've had in past.

Brehs are gonna clown you for still not being over her but they don't understand that requited yet unobtainable love is a special flavor of heartbreak.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

From one old head in training to a veteran old head, I come to you humble asking genuinely
How do you get the magic back once you've already lost it? I've been ridiculously hard on women since like 20 based on my experiences prior to. In recent years I've seen how detrimental that can be, so I've been working on it. But I seriously feel like I'm just going through the motions of what I should be doing/saying instead of actually genuinely feeling "it". And really it all has to do with trust issues. My trust issues are so deeply rooted I don't even know how to begin to get rid of them.


help

This is me. One thing that I've been doing lately is being more open and honest about the fact that I don't trust.

What that does is let them know what they're walking into, and let them know that yes, you do have this baggage that you're trying to work on.

It was actually someone I talked to last year who convinced me that I need to start being more open. And it's been somewhat therapeutic to me.

I will admit that I haven't yet found the "magic" again though. I'm the same as you. I feel like I've seen too much, heard too much. And now, as you said, on some level, I just go through the motions. But the first part of solving any problem is admitting that there is a problem, right?