Older brehs of the Coli... Do you still have "crushes"?

[987654321]

Breh I still fantasize about rawnopullout’ing Sharon Warren in one of the old timey pauper dresses she wore in “Ray”… HELL YEAH I still have crushes! I collect them!

 

[MajesticLion]

Rather than ruin her life I'ma just let it be cute lol

Very, very few will grasp just how much this is terrifyingly accurate.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Aboslutely.

There's a younger girl that be chosing at the store I shop at. She's so fukking pretty, brown skin, dimples, and she's so sweet, has the best vibe. It's a crush because even though I like how I feel around her and I can tell she likes how it feels around me, I'm not sure it's a good idea to engage.

Rather than ruin her life I'ma just let it be cute lol

ol' YOU ass nikka

 

[BuckFilly]

nikka we grown. I either wanna fukk the bish or I don’t

 

[MischievousMonkey]

ol' YOU ass nikka

I think breh meant he'd grow uninterested and would leave her infatuated or something, or nah? @SunZoo

 

[Justin Nitsuj]

Grown ass men with "crushes"

 

[Diondon]

Nah just targets

 

[CrushedGroove]

I hit 20 years last year and have moments where I fall in love with my wife all over again. Whether it's an appreciation for what we've endured or imagining the time we'd get to spend together in the future, it's like a tidal wave of unexplainable emotions that envelop your entire being.

Crazy how you can be blessed to feel something like that with a thought, touch, sound, or word. It doesn't happen often enough to saddle me, but enough to let you know that you have a life outside of what you've conditioned in your mind

 

[Reality]

Don’t let the magic go

Your soul needs it

I'm not saying there's no magic, it's just that as you get older, you know how much work relationships are.

When you're younger, a crush means falling hard with no or little evidence of what your life with this person will actually be like. You crush on a girl because she's pretty and you have this assumption of what she could be in your life.

Once you get older, you realize the foolishness of making that assumption without getting to know some one or dating them. You break up with people you think you'd be great with because they won't grow, won't communicate well, don't want kids while you do, whatever. And if you've dated someone long enough, you also know people change & you have to grow with & love different versions of the same individual. And hope your timing lines up as you both evolve.

Basically, having a crush is at odds with understanding these things. Because ultimately, it's exceedingly difficult to find a person that you can love & grow with while negotiating different expectations and needs.

I've fallen hard for women I never had crushes on BECAUSE my expectations started to grow and become more positive as we've gotten to know each other & date.

 

[daemonova]

Crushes as an adult? Nah

Ask her out and if she says no, move on. Not gonna sit around fantasizing about the image of her I have in my head like a schoolboy lmao

This.

 

[Carl Tethers]

Yeah - there's an older lady in my culinary class who I gotta ask out

 

[SunZoo]

ol' YOU ass nikka

I think breh meant he'd grow uninterested and would leave her infatuated or something, or nah? @SunZoo

Not nececerily uninterested but I can already tell she's the type to get attached just from our little interactions. Despite being beautiful you can peep the low self esteem/puppy girl disposition.

Already been through being idealized and seeing someone in pain because they can only have so much of something they can't get elsewhere.

 

[Doctor Wily]

Nessa Preppy.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

@Gloxina

 

[Gloxina]

@Gloxina

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