It’s both bad but I’m trying to tell you the double standard between the sexes is real and we all live by it, simple as that. Biologically it’s the women who gets pregnant as well, as the mothers of our society the impetus has always been for them to carry themselves in a different way than men, it may not be right but it’s the reality and you’ll be a fool not to accept relaity.
This has always been the way even in some religious books a women who is promiscuous is looked upon less than a man who is the same, the idea is that the same testerone that drives men to make empires and build civilisations is the same type of raw energy that makes men more susceptible to cheating.
On the flip side there is nothing more strenuous than being a broke black male for the same reason, the impetus is on to build and provide and we get shamed for not doing so, neither ideal is perfect but it what it is, I accept that just as I accept the concept of it being harder for me because of my race as a black male even though race is actually a made up concept, it’s still something we have to abide to because it’s our reality.