Essential Official Random Thoughts Thread (Ladies only)

[Rawtid]

Venting:

As each day passes, I get discouraged trying to form bonds of any type with men. It's so difficult to navigate their perspective, while trying to maintain your own, it's frustrating. And it's not about disagreeing, but not even being in the same book about shyt, fukk the same page. I'd settle for the same book, hell even a similar book. Plus I'm already old and done having kids, there is no use. I miss my old job, I saw men, black men specifically, in such a better light. I had so many good conversations.

 

[Jordan>>LeFrozen]

Question sistren

How do I get approved on lipstickalley? its been a couple of days now and can’t get in. Do You know who got a spare name I can use?

 

[Regine Hunter]

if there’s a lacking amount of sisterhood/female friendships in your circle, it must be something you’re doing.

The more I grow, the lesser the chances of finding that, and it scares me. Will I find that good sis to confide in and share experiences and intelligence with? Will my future kids (If I ever have kids) have a play auntie and play cousins to play with? If I ever married, will I even have the opportunity to have a wedding party?

The answer is no the way shyt is going.

 

[Milk N Cookies]

I’ve been stuffing my double ds in a damn 34 d for idk how long but I need new bras!!! I need the stores to open up so I can get at least 2 or 3

 

[Rawtid]

if there’s a lacking amount of sisterhood/female friendships in your circle, it must be something you’re doing.

The more I grow, the lesser the chances of finding that, and it scares me. Will I find that good sis to confide in and share experiences and intelligence with? Will my future kids (If I ever have kids) have a play auntie and play cousins to play with? If I ever married, will I even have the opportunity to have a wedding party?

The answer is no the way shyt is going.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you come off as WAY too sad and to maintain the meaningful connections you desire. You're going to have to get management of that first or else you'll end up clinging to someone with no reciprocity given or the emotional strength to leave a dysfunctional association alone. Not saying at all you have to have it ALL together, but you have to get in a better place to receive everything you want, or else it will be temporary. I have better/more friends in my old age than I did being young. Never had a "best" friend, but I truly have good friends and I've learned to relate to them without coming off a complete suicidal psycho...it's a balance.

 

[Regine Hunter]

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you come off as WAY too sad and to maintain the meaningful connections you desire. You're going to have to get management of that first or else you'll end up clinging to someone with no reciprocity given or the emotional strength to leave a dysfunctional association alone. Not saying at all you have to have it ALL together, but you have to get in a better place to receive everything you want, or else it will be temporary. I have better/more friends in my old age than I did being young. Never had a "best" friend, but I truly have good friends and I've learned to relate to them without coming off a complete suicidal psycho...it's a balance.

Guess that’s why people don’t wanna be around me.

 

[Rawtid]

Guess that’s why people don’t wanna be around me.

It’s ALOT to be friends with someone with low self esteem and poor mental health and if you combine that with them not having a grip on it, it can be overall taxing.

I don’t feel you’re a bad person, but I can see how your perspective of your life can be too much for someone to deal with. You’re still working on yourself, we all are.

 

[Regine Hunter]

It’s ALOT to be friends with someone with low self esteem and poor mental health and if you combine that with them not having a grip on it, it can be overall taxing.

I don’t feel you’re a bad person, but I can see how your perspective of your life can be too much for someone to deal with. You’re still working on yourself, we all are.

I try to keep a handle on it when talking to people, but I don’t know. I guess it’s my aura or my face that repels people. I can be as genuine and friendly, and still people don’t care or reciprocate actions of a friend with me.

It just makes me feel lower. Like damn, am I that horrible to be around?

 

[Rawtid]

I try to keep a handle on it when talking to people, but I don’t know. I guess it’s my aura or my face that repels people. I can be as genuine and friendly, and still people don’t care or reciprocate actions of a friend with me.
It just makes me feel lower. Like damn, am I that horrible to be around?

Without knowing the whole story, I would say that is how you're perceiving the situation and it's not truly like that. I know my perception and overall thought of myself is negative, so I try to keep that in check, when I can. It could be that people have shytty interpretations of being a friend. If you value these friends, have a convo with them and be honest how you're perceiving it and get their feedback.

 

[fckyoupayme]

repeat

 

[Yinny]

I don’t know whether covid is helping me or hurting me at this point, I guess both

Spoiler: O

I’m horny as fugggg, this toy works but like, . I’m not even in a rush to slam butt but hory shiet I miss redacted redacted redacted this ain’t a porno but I’mma wild out when I feel comfortable with next bae

 

[Rawtid]

The older I get, the weirder I get. I'll have to start avoiding people so I don't have to share these crazy ass opinions.

 

[fckyoupayme]

FINALLY got my hair done. I feel so much better about my life.

Also, sitting under the dryer with a face mask on is not the move

 

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[Rawtid]

I feel like the 3 year learning to zip their jacket by themselves. Struggling to get everything aligned, so all I need to do is pull up, but I don’t want any help. Life is the mom rushing me to hurry, suggesting help, but I want to do it on my own. I wish I knew if any of my efforts were worth it. Certainly feels like a series of bad moves. It’s getting more difficult by the day to keep it all up.