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I get where you are coming from. Unfortunately we live in I wanna test drive before I buy type world. I get that the guy is "being real" about the situation and just letting the ladies know... I want to get to know you but first you gotta give up the goods. But why does it have to be that way.

You notice that I put stimulating conversation in quotation marks and I done that for a reason. Stimulating conversation can be just about anything really. It's what you and the other person find interesting.

I'm not saying all of this generation is lost because of the fact they want to have sex before really getting to know a person... I'm saying that situation wouldn't work for me.

I guess you might as well skip the grunt work and get to down to business....
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It doesn't have it be that way but soo many people are jaded from being online (look at the ad nauseam discussions about this on here) and sometimes even their own bad experiences. It makes you feel defensive where I don't feel a person has to be that way unless they can't trust their own dating judgement. I agree stimulation convo can be anything that's why I was wondering what it was to you. Sometimes people make it some big bad stuff when it could be cats talking about balloons but they both into balloons lol.

I don't think people need to not talk but truth is most times guys don't really want to talk until after they done had sex with you. The boy darkPhoenix is an outlier to me at least in my circle. Now dudes will go out and have a good time but talking just for talking sake fukk no that happens after sex more times than not or its about to happen soon. Last time I talked to a chick I was interested in with stimulating convo was when I was a teenager. I wasn't being real then and most dudes aren't now kicking that. All you need to do to know that stimulating convo across genders is a bunch of bullshyt is be real with yourself. How many of your closest friends are male? After that how many of your other female friends have good/great friends that are males and how many of them have all these stimulating convos with them. That's all you need to know about friendships and stimulating convos between the genders. That's not the norm unless you in the friend zone or y'all like each other and somebody scarred to make a move so y'all both just blabbering to blabber.
 
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philmonroe said:
Its not hard to have a convo but what does a guy that likes you really get out of it? He don't want to talk to you most times before the sex he just doing the necessary evil. Lol. Dudes are being disingenuous oftentimes when they say they want stimulating conversations with women they like. They want something stimulating but not convo. Now if he don't like you yeah but if he like you FOH that's the way of suckers and dudes destined to post on here talking about chicks want thugs.
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He gets a stimulating conversation. (Also sorry, I can't type today apparently. I'm half asleep and my glasses are off)

If you have no problem having a stimulating convo, yhere should be no problem stating your intentions, since communication is already open. People have problems assuming people know how they feel or assuming people like them back. A lot of the time people are just afraid of rejection too.

Here's how I feel, if she's fukking someone else, go find someone else to fukk too. Stop pining over one chick who doesn't claim you.
 
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CinnaSlim said:
He gets a stimulating conversation. (Also sorry, I can't type today apparently. I'm half asleep and my glasses are off)

If you have no problem having a stimulating convo, yhere should be no problem stating your intentions, since communication is already open. People have problems assuming people know how they feel or assuming people like them back. A lot of the time people are just afraid of rejection too.

Here's how I feel, if she's fukking someone else, go find someone else to fukk too. Stop pining over one chick who doesn't claim you.
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That's not what he wants most hence why I said what does he get out of it. If dude really want the p*ssy he not settling for a talk man.

Two different things regarding the stimulating talk and stating your intentions. I don't know you but I think you have base level sense and you know them are two different things. You can do one without fear of rejection while also hoping to win some brownie points too. That's not going to happen necessarily if you put your intentions out there and most people are afraid of rejection on both sides (which we agree with) so they do things that get them close without having to put themselves out there.

While I agree with you its easier said than done for most people this she fukking someone else just go find somebody else flow. If it were that easy nobody would ever have relationship problems ever. It would be pull out of one chick pull right back into the next or vice versa for chicks. We both know it don't work like that. If it did a lot of relationships would be different short and long term.
 
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Watching american horror story...the maid said "cock"...omg i fukking hate that word! D:<
 
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So, there's a rumor at work about me that I'm a virgin...

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Let them think what they want. :yeshrug:
 
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Rawtid said:
I like it. I don't wear make up but I can tell you have it one but it's not over bearing at all. You're serving some fierce red lip as well!!
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Thanks!!! You know that lipstick is like a raspberry color and it photographed red... Funny huh!?!
 
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Rawtid said:
Lol It's looks good either way and I've seen some horrible...clown like red lip. Bye, Ronald!!
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Yeah...:russ: I've seen some makeup so bad that it would even make Rupaul sad.


Oh yeah and thank you! I'm not that photogenic so its nice to get a compliment on a photo.

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