Ma dukes wasn’t a nanny but she did have to clean white folks houses for us to get by
And that was in the 80s in Arkansas
As a kid I didn’t understand why she always had to go clean up but as I got older she explained it to me
So many black kids had to grow up with their parents gone majority of the time
(Consider yourself lucky if you had two parents in the household)
So it does leave you with a feeling like sis who got up at the funeral
Having to unpack that in therapy and stop being angry at her for all the missed choir performances, football games, etc
It did make me feel like she didn’t care but it’s the furthest thing from the truth
Then you look at white kids and all the things they are afforded but still come out fukked up because their parents had the choice to be in their lives
But chose money over the connection to their children
That resentment juxtaposition
Chet represented that + the since of belonging
Until lil Chet got spooked
White women are/where the biggest purveyors of bigotry and racism
It was okay for black women to clean your house and watch your kids
But you were too good to actually partake in knowing that persons life
The dad running to rap music
She had a Telfair handbag
Indoctrinated in black culture only on the surface level but can’t relate nor see us as actual human beings
That’s why that family picture day shyt hit so hard
She was the only one there for that boy and the mom knew she wasn’t shyt
And she has all the luxury in the world to raise that child while Sylvia was just trying to make a way for hers
This is the dichotomy/two America’s
And that Chinese nanny shyt should hit different for Asians as well
No matter how much they try to assimilate to white culture
They are still seen as the “help” even though as a group
They are outpacing white folks in wealth
Yea one could say “it’s about business”
But that’s coded language like a mofo