In the black community being educated isn’t as valuable as in other communities. I know for me I didn’t apply myself as much growing up because I was focused on girls and sports. It wasn’t a priority for me to get good grades. And I was influenced by my friends also to not take school serious but to hang out, party and bullsh*t. By the time I got to college and matured, I discovered I was actually a good student and could’ve went alot further in a lot less time if I had focused in high school like I did in college. White kids don’t have the same sort of problems. From what I remember in high school, even the popular white kids were in AP and Honors courses, had good grades, and all went to college right after high school whereas a lot of popular black kids were undecided at graduation and ended up not going to college/trade school and took years before they set out on a path (like I did). On average, these white kids come from families that are wealthier. Their parents are doctors, lawyers, engineers, business owners, financiers, nurses, professors etc. So they know off rip if they want to replicate their parents lifestyle and be successful like them, they need to go to college or at the very least have a high paying trade. So that’s why smart kids aren’t mocked as much (they’re still mocked, just a lot less) in other communities. Because they know flunking school and not having a real career path is more lame.
Your "friends" were crabs in the barrel. A "friend" isn't going to discourage another friend from fulfilling their goals/dreams/potential even if their paths diverge. You viewed them as friends they viewed you as a pawn.
It comes down to people not being able to read other people well and underestimating how willfully and proactively evil people are deep down
Like I mentioned earlier this is why people like groups, it's easier to pressure other people as a crab in the barrel to keep them on the level you want them to be, aka easier to make pawns/jump starts for their self esteem out of people "loser", "what you going to be alone like a loser?", other manipulative phrases to keep you on the level they want. Pawns to me.
Those type of people NEED other people to live because they are nothing without them. Self esteem parasites. Energetically I don't know how someone doesn't pick up on that and get tired of it. Bunch of low self esteem parasitic people out there I'm not responsible for your low self esteem
I also had "friends" who tried to discourage me from going to college or doing as I willed. Luckily I KNEW exactly what they were doing. Once someone reveals themselves as one of "those", a crab in the barrel or a Nietzche manipulator, I learn to play the game and treat them like pawns, getting what I need out of the "friendship" while they laugh thinking I'm following any of their manipulation. Classic crab in the barrel move.
Those friends ain't doing shyt with their lives now on than reliving middle school/high school everyday in their minds. Literally. That's depressing. I can see the sadness and hopelessness in their lives now they have to live life after school.
The highlight of someone's life shouldn't be something as temporary as school. Sad thing is a lot of those people didn't even try or try to improve, they just gave up and try to make middle/high school the best time of their lives knowing or not knowing what was waiting for them once it was over.
1st question anyone always ask me is what am I doing how much does it make,etc. basically I see right through it it's annoying when people assume you're dumb. Dumb people thrive in groups.
Plenty of people with "friends", I know a lot of people, I'm known, I'm popular, etc. when in reality they are surrounded by a bunch of crabs in the barrel.