No diss to parents in here but "Kids are a blessing" is a ..

[Sierra Mist]

"Having babies is a blessing, but anything that happens afterwards might not be." That mentality is why black people won't ever be shyt. You justify and glorify having babies just for the sake of having babies and experiencing the "miracle" of child birth. You could give less than a fukk about the quality of life that your kids have. Black people treat having babies like everyone else treats marriage. It's not the fruitfulness of the marriage itself that matters. It's just the wedding DAY that matters to some people. Same thing with black people and having babies. It's not the fruitfulness of the child's life that matters. It's just the DAY the child was born. You have babies so that YOU can feel some type of validation. And then you wonder why the kids out of wedlock rate is so high in your community. Black people in America are so mentally fukked up it's not even fukking funny. People in here STILL posted up in the ghetto saying "well imma jus have a baby anyway because it's a blessing. who cares if the baby gets hungry? that's AFTER the fact! All that matters is I give birth and get the title of an honorary strong black woman/good black man." Black people don't give two shyts about their kids. If you guys did you wouldn't be having kids out of wedlock and while you're poor. The deficiency mindset in the black community is disgusting.

If you have babies out of wedlock you failed your children. If you have children and you still live in the ghetto you FAILED your children. You failed them. Accept that shyt. I'm tired of these dumb nikkas coming on here and justifying bullshyt!

 

[msims]

"Having babies is a blessing, but anything that happens afterwards might not be." That mentality is why black people won't ever be shyt. You justify and glorify having babies just for the sake of having babies and experiencing the "miracle" of child birth. You could give less than a fukk about the quality of life that your kids have. Black people treat having babies like everyone else treats marriage. It's not the fruitfulness of the marriage itself that matters. It's just the wedding DAY that matters to some people. Same thing with black people and having babies. It's not the fruitfulness of the child's life that matters. It's just the DAY the child was born. You have babies so that YOU can feel some type of validation. And then you wonder why the kids out of wedlock rate is so high in your community. Black people in America are so mentally fukked up it's not even fukking funny. People in here STILL posted up in the ghetto saying "well imma jus have a baby anyway because it's a blessing. who cares if the baby gets hungry? that's AFTER the fact! All that matters is I give birth and get the title of an honorary strong black woman/good black man." Black people don't give two shyts about their kids. If you guys did you wouldn't be having kids out of wedlock and while you're poor. The deficiency mindset in the black community is disgusting.

If you have babies out of wedlock you failed your children. If you have children and you still live in the ghetto you FAILED your children. You failed them. Accept that shyt. I'm tired of these dumb nikkas coming on here and justifying bullshyt!

Yes. We get it.

Unplanned children are accidents.

Accidents are / cannot be considered blessings.

HOWEVER, children make most parents feel warm / good.

And for that feeling, they are blessed.

That is why children are / can be considered a blessing.

/THREAD

What do you want them to say?

"Sorry that we made a mistake....forgive me, please, Sierra Mist! "



You know the facts. They know the facts. What do you want from them?

EDIT: I'mma guess your answer:

What do you want from them?

Sierra Mist's Answer: To stop making the same stupid mistakes.

I guessed right? People will be people. It's bad, but not much you can do about it without upsetting yourself. Might as well drop it.

 

[Sierra Mist]

What do you want them to say?

"Sorry that we made a mistake....forgive me, please, Sierra Mist! "



You know the facts. They know the facts. What do you want from them?

Own up to your mistakes. I don't get why instead of people admitting to a problem they try to justify it and glorify it. Ask anyone why they were fukked up and they will say shyt like "my father wasn't there" or "my parents had me too young" or "I grew up poor". Well you are admitting that those are problems so why do people glorify it and admire the problem? I'm not saying to beat yourself up about it for the rest of eternity but stop glorifying it. There are young kids right now who think having children before you can afford them is "cool" because of adults who have that same ass backwards mentality. In order to fix a problem you have to acknowledge it. Or you can not do it. Just don't get surprised 10 years from now when the out of wedlock rate of kids being born as well as children being born in the ghetto is 95%. Then people will be like "nah the media made those numbers up!"

 

[Hiphoplives4eva]

I wish the TS's was aborted. Could have saved my brain from reading this crap.

Anyways, the TS is probably black im sure. Unfortunately, this mentality of kids being a curse is too pervasive in the black community. If people learned to love and raise their kids as families, instead of treating kids as liabilities we as a community would progress so much faster. Instead, we have morons like the TS treating kids like fukking accidents, interfering with their drugging and clubbing activities.

This entire thread is fukking demonic.

 

[msims]

Own up to your mistakes. I don't get why instead of people admitting to a problem they try to justify it and glorify it. Ask anyone why they were fukked up and they will say shyt like "my father wasn't there" or "my parents had me too young" or "I grew up poor". Well you are admitting that those are problems so why do people glorify it and admire the problem? I'm not saying to beat yourself up about it for the rest of eternity but stop glorifying it. There are young kids right now who think having children before you can afford them is "cool" because of adults who have that same ass backwards mentality. In order to fix a problem you have to acknowledge it. Or you can not do it. Just don't get surprised 10 years from now when the out of wedlock rate of kids being born as well as children being born in the ghetto is 95%. Then people will be like "nah the media made those numbers up!"

I understand what you're saying, but admitting it shouldn't be for you. It's for the people who made the mistake and are in denial about said mistake. It shouldn't please YOU for someone to admit they are wrong (about a situation that has nothing to do with you), when they know they are wrong and are just in denial.

What do YOU want from them??

To stop glorying it, is a good idea, BUT (on topic) calling your children a blessings isn't glorifying the fact that they were born unplanned/out of wedlock/ accidently.

It's simply a way of saying that you enjoy them.

No more, no less.

Children can give any parent a feeling of enjoyment. Parents often tend to feel blessed to feel that feeling, regardless of their social status.

Like I said before, everyone DEEP DOWN knows that unplanned children are the wrong way to do things, but what do you want them to do about it? Say sorry?

 

[Sierra Mist]

I understand what you're saying, but admitting it shouldn't be for you. It's for the people who made the mistake and are in denial about said mistake. It shouldn't please YOU for someone to admit they are wrong (about a situation that has nothing to do with you), when they know they are wrong and are just in denial.

What do YOU want from them??

To stop glorying it, is a good idea, BUT (on topic) calling your children a blessings isn't glorifying the fact that they were born unplanned/out of wedlock/ accidently.

It's simply a way of saying that you enjoy them.

No more, no less.

Children can give any parent a feeling of enjoyment. Parents often tend to feel blessed to feel that feeling.

Like I said before, everyone DEEP DOWN knows that unplanned children are the wrong way to do things, but what do you want them to do about it? Say sorry?

People owning up to their mistakes would please me. What does it do for me? It stops me from having to take care for all these welfare babies. I'll break down what I want people to say and it's simple.

"Yeah I had kids without the resources to support them. I made my mistakes. Kids, don't be like me. Don't make the same mistake I did. If you do you will suffer and ultimately your children will suffer. Don't have babies until you can afford them."

Instead of "I had a baby but it's a miracle and my babies are blessings. so what if we are broke live in the ghetto and my kids eat sleep for dinner? I experienced the miracle of having a baby and at least I'm RAISING these kids."

There really is no rebuttal because ultimately everyone knows what I'm saying is right.

 

[msims]

People owning up to their mistakes would please me. What does it do for me? It stops me from having to take care for all these welfare babies. I'll break down what I want people to say and it's simple.

"Yeah I had kids without the resources to support them. I made my mistakes. Kids, don't be like me. Don't make the same mistake I did. If you do you will suffer and ultimately your children will suffer. Don't have babies until you can afford them."

Instead of "I had a baby but it's a miracle and my babies are blessings. so what if we are broke live in the ghetto and my kids eat sleep for dinner? I experienced the miracle of having a baby and at least I'm RAISING these kids."

There really is no rebuttal because ultimately everyone knows what I'm saying is right.

I wouldn't go that far as to say there is no rebuttal.

The reason these argument suck is because there are too many variables to classify all unplanned children under the same roof.

So, with that said. Yes, Sierra, as I've been saying for the last 3 post; you logic are is right.

We all know unplanned children are not the best way to have children. It's the logical choice.

However, you asking people to say a sentence, only to make you feel better is....sad. And I like you as a "font", too.

 

[Sierra Mist]

I wouldn't go that far as to say there is no rebuttal.

The reason these argument suck is because there are too many variables to classify all unplanned children under the same roof.

So, with that said. Yes, Sierra, as I've been saying for the last 3 post; you logic are is right.

We all know unplanned children are not the best way to have children. It's the logical choice.

However, you asking people to say a sentence, only to make you feel better is....sad. And I like you as a "font", too.

If you have unplanned children but have the resources to support them then that is the only valid excuse. We have people in the ghetto mad at the whole world about what their situation is. They blame everyone for their problems, like "uppity ass nikkas that leave the ghetto", "the police", "lame teachers", and even intangible things like slavery, but the people they NEVER stop and look at as the cause to their situation are their own parents. They're looking at every body else.

Unplanned pregnancies are only ok when you have the resources to support them. I'm sorry, but you can never justify people having children when they don't have the resources to take care of THEMSELVES, let alone children. But they bring them into the world nonetheless.
That sentence isn't to make me happy. That sentence would ultimately benefit the entire community, but people would rather hold on to their pride and not own up to their own mistakes, even at the cost of babies being born with next to nothing. And THAT is sad.

If you are bringing babies into the world with nothing and you or your children fail, I don't want to hear shyt about the "oppressive white man" or "slavery" or any of those other factors that people LOVE to blame for all their problems. If you have kids without the resources to back them up I don't want to hear ANY fukking excuses as to why you or your child's situation in life is fukked up. ULTIMATELY you chose that lifestyle for yourself AND your child. Why? Because you had too much pride to admit that it's not the way to be. (Not you personally, but I'm saying in general.) The white man isn't making your child suffer. YOU are. Slavery isn't making your child suffer. YOU are. The uppity ass nikkas that left the hood aren't making your child suffer. YOU are. People need to own up to that shyt. I'm tired of this shyt. There is a huge problem and instead of people addressing it, and executing a plan to annihilate such problems they decide to sing "Kum Ba Yah", let's hold hands, and glorfiy it with all this airy fairy Tyler Perry bullshyt. I'm tired of that shyt.

 

[msims]

If you have unplanned children but have the resources to support them then that is the only valid excuse.

Unplanned pregnancies are only ok when you have the resources to support them.

That was one of the variables I was tlaking about.

If you have unplanned children but have the resources to support them then that is the only valid excuse. We have people in the ghetto mad at the whole world about what their situation is. They blame everyone for their problems, like "uppity ass nikkas that leave the ghetto", "the police", "lame teachers", and even intangible things like slavery, but the people they NEVER stop and look at as the cause to their situation are their own parents. They're looking at every body else.

Unplanned pregnancies are only ok when you have the resources to support them. I'm sorry, but you can never justify people having children when they don't have the resources to take care of THEMSELVES, let alone children. But they bring them into the world nonetheless.
That sentence isn't to make me happy. That sentence would ultimately benefit the entire community, but people would rather hold on to their pride and not own up to their own mistakes, even at the cost of babies being born with next to nothing. And THAT is sad.

This thread was about why parents call their children a blessing. You're on topic, yet so very off it.

So, lets nip this in a bud.

FACTS THAT HAVE BEEN SAID 100000000000x times (that we can all, basically agree on):

• If unplanned parents call giving birth a blessing when they cannot support their child then they are wrong, and making excuses.
  
  
• If the unplanned parents (ones who cannot support their child properly) love their kid for giving them a "special feeling" and then consider them a blessing, it is valid.
  
  
• We all should be aware of how less superior unplanned pregnancy is compared to planned pregnancy.
  
  
• Furthermore, ALL parents should teach their children, more often, that unplanned pregnancy are bad. This will lessen the problem.

Your words have great aspirations. They'd like to touch the ears of whole world one day, but their owner is just aiming them at the ears of The-Coli. Sadly, the whole world can't hear them. Whats even more tragic is their owner doesn't even realize that he's aiming at JUST The-Coli. He must have the whole world confused with The-Coli. In doing so, he waste precious energy. I feel bad for his words.

In short: You have to remember, when arguing here that this is the Coli, and not the entire world. No one has admitted to not being able to support their child when having them (unplanned), so asking them to say "sorry" or "admit" anything is pointless. They've done nothing wrong. They are not under THAT roof of unplanned parents.

 

[Urbanmiracle]

Urbanmiracle is for the children

 

[Swiggy]

Kids are a blessing as to how they effect us in the long run, not how they come to us

 

[winb83]

I often wonder if those same parents got a do over and could delay the child would they?
honestly I'm not a fan of kids they're typically annoying and disrespectful even when their parents make the best effort for them to not turn out that way. Modern kids are just bad.

 

[Sierra Mist]

That was one of the variables I was tlaking about.



This thread was about why parents call their children a blessing. You're on topic, yet so very off it.

So, lets nip this in a bud.

FACTS THAT HAVE BEEN SAID 100000000000x times (that we can all, basically agree on):

• If unplanned parents call giving birth a blessing when they cannot support their child then they are wrong, and making excuses.
  
  
• If the unplanned parents (ones who cannot support their child properly) love their kid for giving them a "special feeling" and then consider them a blessing, it is valid.
  
  
• We all should be aware of how less superior unplanned pregnancy is compared to planned pregnancy.
  
  
• Furthermore, ALL parents should teach their children, more often, that unplanned pregnancy are bad. This will lessen the problem.

Your words have great aspirations. They'd like to touch the ears of whole world one day, but their owner is just aiming them at the ears of The-Coli. Sadly, the whole world can't hear them. Whats even more tragic is their owner doesn't even realize that he's aiming at JUST The-Coli. He must have the whole world confused with The-Coli. In doing so, he waste precious energy. I feel bad for his words.

In short: You have to remember, when arguing here that this is the Coli, and not the entire world. No one has admitted to not being able to support their child when having them (unplanned), so asking them to say "sorry" or "admit" anything is pointless. They've done nothing wrong. They are not under THAT roof of unplanned parents.

Good point. *takes a xanax and goes back to bed*

 

[dj vtg]

my mother got married when she was 25 AFTER COLLEGE

had my older brother when she was 27

had me at 29

i was planned

im black middle class

nowadays im rare i guess

traditional black family unit = replaced by baby mama culture

sad

 

[KnowledgeIsQueen]

where is your b*stard's daddy?

My fiancé (in my uppity negro voice) is asleep in OUR bed. I'm up some food before my am prenatal appointment.

I know, I know.... my ratchett ass still had two chirruns out of wedlock so who cares if I'm actually getting married. I'm still a skank

Hopefully this thread keeps going, I'll be in need of entertainment today at the doctors office ;)