NIGERIAN mother CRASHES OUT on ADOS/FBA daughter in law - "In OUR CULTURE you are supposed to take your Mother in law's PLATE. RESPECT ME!"

[Bushmaster69]

I'm on the mother's side. When you marry into a culture full of traditions and customs you need to respect it.

I'm Carib and I had to fully embrace my African wife's culture to show respect.

If you can't vibe with that then stick to your own and what you are comfotable with.

Come at me.

 

[perfectblack999]

And here we go!

Yes the MIL is completely in the wrong. But on the flip side Nigerian MILs be flipping out on Nigerian wives ALL THE TIME too

It’s a funny culture

 

[Kasgoinjail]

"I'm not your mate"

Said every aff aunty ever.
Doing the most

 

[Dont@Me]

lowkey. nigerians are pretty petty, the older i get the more that shyt gets on my nerves. i just do my own shyt in general though. i dont care much about ppls perceptions anymore and appeasing these customs for validation points. some of it is unhealthy

As an American, all I see is personality disorder. Possible narcissism or something. I know my view is through the American paradigm, but every single culture still has these kind of personalities which is why it's a valid perspective imo.

 

[Coco Loco]

I saw the first clip the other day. The minute she got loud and aggressive, I'm disengaging. She may yell and act a fool with him but NOT I

Also, did this lady know to take the plate? Did her fiancé tell her that's the rule? Did the ignant ass mama tell her? If the answer to all of those questions is no, we have a problem. I've never picked up an elders plate unless they've asked me, why would I?

She's better than me because I would not marry that man

 

[xXMASHERXx]

Shouldn't that energy be directed at her son for not teaching his wife?

 

[Eternally Jaded]

I'm on the mother's side. When you marry into a culture full of traditions and customs you need to respect it.

I'm Carib and I had to fully embrace my African wife's culture to show respect.

If you can't vibe with that then stick to your own and what you are comfotable with.

Come at me.

A house/couple decides what works best for them.

"You did not sweep the beans five times, before you put them in the soup?"

"YOU DID NOT SWEEP THE BEANS FIVE TIMES BEFORE YOU ADDED THEM INTO THE POT?! IGNORANT BEAST, WHATS WRONG WITH YOU?!"


Me: ""

Yeah you can bend a bit especially if it's only once in a while that they visit but you'd be insane to become a doormat to another's cultural cues.

 

[vino]

I been around a lot of Nigerians and I ain’t never seen anything like this. Like grew up lot pf friends who were Nigerian. I think this a case of Mother in law not rocking with potential daughter in law.

 

[Bushmaster69]

A house/couple decides what works best for them.

"You did not sweep the beans five times, before you put them in the soup?"

"YOU DID NOT SWEEP THE BEANS FIVE TIMES BEFORE YOU ADDED THEM INTO THE POT?! IGNORANT BEAST, WHATS WRONG WITH YOU?!"


Me: ""

Yeah you can bend a bit especially if it's only once in a while that they visit but you'd be insane to become a doormat to another's cultural cues.

Tradition/customs > couple's feeling

If you can't put up with that then marry your own, or a culture that is more like your own.

A lot of you don't realize that traditions/cultures/customs don't bend to you.

 

[Elle Seven]

I have never been to Nigeria so I do not know...Nigerian posters can get me squared away if I'm in error.

I've not studied the country extensively, but I know it was colonized by the British.

I only bring that up because anytime I see some shyt like this - when someone is adamant about making someone else put themselves in a subservient role - I instantly start thinking their culture has Western European influence...cause what the fukk is that even about, especially to this degree?

I could be wrong, and like someone else alluded to here, this could be just for the cameras.

I'll just say if I was ole girl, I'd be out. Can't imagine what that situation would like if she had kids and that was their grandmother.

 

[Wiseborn]

I have faith that TLR isn't gonna have a serious discussion about a scenario that had 4 different cameras, 6 lighting rigs, and a breh yelling "ACTION!" before the cameras started recording

obviously staged but also weird to assume that respect for elders is only a Nigerian thing.

Hard to believe the coli would defend a lazy and entitled wife.

 

[Coco Loco]

I'm on the mother's side. When you marry into a culture full of traditions and customs you need to respect it.

I'm Carib and I had to fully embrace my African wife's culture to show respect.

If you can't vibe with that then stick to your own and what you are comfotable with.

Come at me.

I'm on your side if the fiancé knew to do that. This is where the disconnect is for me. If the mama or the son didn't tell her, how on earth would she know to do that?

Now if she did know and said nah, then I get it but she's not yelling and acting a fool about it with me. Once she calms down we can talk about it until then I'm in my room listening to music

If the DIL needs to learn the culture, the MIL, at her big age, needs to learn how to communicate. If not, he'd have to find his Nigerian queen who knows the rules

 

[UncleTomFord15]

 

[Busted_Toes]

I'm on the mother's side. When you marry into a culture full of traditions and customs you need to respect it.

I'm Carib and I had to fully embrace my African wife's culture to show respect.

If you can't vibe with that then stick to your own and what you are comfotable with.

Come at me.

and when you leave the room they like "he's a good Akata, not like the others"

 

[africngiant]

As an American, all I see is personality disorder. Possible narcissism or something. I know my view is through the American paradigm, but every single culture still has these kind of personalities which is why it's a valid perspective imo.

it might be teetering the line. with africans being big on authority if u dont respect authority they take it as big disrespect but at what point do the rules become too much. acting like she cant take her own dish to the sink is petty imo. using too many rules to display their power begins to read like a micromanaging boss at work with a power complex. my fam has luckily eased up a lot but the extended family still do it sometimes