Need confirmation I bushed a chick appropriately...

[Umoja]

Bit of an overreaction. If you've been dealing with someone for months and you were willing to take them on a trip for their birthday, it isn't too much to consider the possibility that text messaging doesn't give a clear indication of tone.

Even if you established the tone, blocking is discourteous. Think about how people get bent out of shape over someone ghosting them after a couple of dates. You're doing that after a quasi relationship.

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

The problem here is y'all not reading behind the OPs illusions. He doesn't even mean to do them. But if you look closely, you can see what's really going on. And why I said what I said in the previous post..



Dude really likes this girl. I'm not saying she's wifey.. But they been fukking for months.. Who knows how much longer they been talking. He didn't do this to get any p*ssy, he had it already. He didn't do it cause he got time off. He says flat out, it's for HER birthday. He wants to do something special for HER birthday. If he wanted to trick, he'd have been spending money. Nobody starts tricking after they get p*ssy, months later, for some random hoe he barely want... So lets get that established




He also plans a trip out of the country... B-b-b-b-b-but it's just Mexico... Ok so when's the last time y'all took a broad to Mexico? Was she just some random you'd already been smashing for months? Of course not. Was you buying both tickets, paying for the room AND paying for shyt while there? For a random? You already smashed for months? That wasn't shyt to you but someone you could cut off so easily in a day? Of course not.. He liked this girl




Liked her enough to sit and plan this out, have the money ready, everything ready to go when........ She says the wrong thing. Two sentences. That IMMEDIATELY makes him disappear her forever from his life. Why? Because she MUST be trying to get over on me. He believes this so much he won't even ask for an explanation. Won't even give her a chance to explain her words. This man was ready to spend THOUSANDS a second ago and now won't ever speak words nor allow her to speak to him. Why such a drastic change? For an extra day he wasn't even sure she wasn't going to pay for? Or because he was afraid of being right?




But peep game.. He couldn't go back and ask her to confirm. He was already hurt by his own assumptions. So he came to the coli for the confirmation. Look at the title... NEED CONFIRMATION!! Why are random nikkas online that you never met, confirming how you should dump your girl you been fukking for months and was taking to Mexico.. Shouldn't she confirm that to you?? Shouldn't you already know in your heart you did the right thing? You should be here typing a STORY, instead you are here typing I NEED CONFIRMATION.




Is she somewhere asking for confirmation? Do you know or you guessing? I know who is. I know for 100% fact who is burdened by not getting closure to the situation, because they are here right now, asking us for it. The questions he wants to know the answers to, from his girl, cannot be found cause he closed that door. Now he opening the door to the coli, trying to get it from us. When instead of being a man and saying "excuse me but what the fukk does that mean" and being able to peep finesse from a mile away, no matter what she says.. He now wonders if he truly should have just talked to her... This woman he's chosen to associate with for months, slide up in, risk babies and everything else with, and taking her out the country on trips, for her happiness on her born date...

Now y'all suddenly want us to believe he don't care, he got closure, it's killing her, he's got the power, she was trying to finesse him by asking for one day, and to continue acting like this towards people forever.....


Ok

Bingo, he's hurt like a mofo that this girl treated him like an option while he prioritized her and planned the whole shyt out. Whats probably eating him even more is the fact that she didnt even bother to chase him after getting block and just charged OP to the game and kept it moving. Now he's on thecoli like "what did i do wrong?"

 

[Secure Da Bag]

@Silver Surfer

You were right to bush her. But she's not your girl. So if she wanted to stay until Tuesday, all she had to know was that you're not paying for it. Or even, just cancel the trip with her and go by yourself.

She don't owe you nothing, you don't owe her anything. If you're catching feelings over a girl, you're being casual with, then either you've been casual for too long or you've been with her for too long. Either way one of those has to end.

 

[Mr swag]

I’m a real man. Never blocked a person a day in my life

 

[Guvnor]

Honestly I’m still a little confused. I’d let her stay an extra day if she wanna pay that extra day hotel cost for herself. But I see why you blocked her. If you’re setting and paying everything she should just stfu and go along with the ride.

Big facts! If I was Op I would be like you could stay an extra day if you wanna pay for the hotel and your own return flight but I only have money set aside for these days.

 

[LiveFromLondon]

Just tell the bytch you are not staying till Tuesday. She's not your wife. fukk her brains out and move on to the next.




I don't understand how this is a moral dilemma.

Beats me to

 

[Silver Surfer]

@Silver Surfer



You sparked a convo.

How do you feel about the feedback?

You shared a piece of your life.

None of us will ever know the full story.





If you run into her again, you going to ignore her in person?

Good feedback....I think where most people are in their lives when it comes to certain things shows how they saw it.

If I ever see her again......most likely keep it moving

Her energy was so low honestly at times....it felt like a drain....and modern women in America got me feeling jaded and no tolerance for the bad vibes

 

[Willie]

It's her birthday and I been fukking her all summer?

this a real answer nikkas don’t be knowing

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I didn't even want to even go through all that....the fact I mentioned what days I was available should have been enough....

To your last point yeah if it was a full blown relationship maybe...

You should have communicated that. Blocking people all of a sudden is childish and emotional.

 

[Admiral Ackbar]

Keep the high vibes. Relationships shouldn't be transactional, she triflin

 

[Silver Surfer]

OP is a simp who at some point wanted to import a hooker from Punta Cana and marry her so take everything he says with a grain of salt. Clearly he was simping that woman but wants to pretend being alpha for the coli.

Who wouldn't want a submissive woman from a foreign country as your stay at home wife?

Now executing and just the idea are two different things

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Coulda been a great moment to assert yourself and essentially give yourself lifetime access to the p*ssy. I woulda just told her if she wanna stay longer that’s on her but I’m going back on Monday and left it at that. She woulda paid her own extra day or acquiesced to your limits…and you’d still be fukking her.

Women get entitled when you let them dictate the terms. If you shut that shyt down EARLY then you never gonna have that problem again and she gonna respect u more for it.

This. Running instead of communicating is also annoying.

 

[Jean Jacket]

I’m a real man. Never blocked a person a day in my life

Tell me what you do when a bytch is dialing you all day leaving threats in your VM?

4 a.m. when you're still asleep. You gonna let it ring and get up and let her know what's up?

I block annoying people. Please tell me your secret other than illegal activity.

 

[Jean Jacket]

Who wouldn't want a submissive woman from a foreign country as your stay at home wife?

Now executing and just the idea are two different things

Emphasis on the second statement.

Foreign women from patriarchal societies play the long game.

Every 1st world Breh is a mark and don't you forget it.

 

[Silver Surfer]

The problem here is y'all not reading behind the OPs illusions. He doesn't even mean to do them. But if you look closely, you can see what's really going on. And why I said what I said in the previous post..



Dude really likes this girl. I'm not saying she's wifey.. But they been fukking for months.. Who knows how much longer they been talking. He didn't do this to get any p*ssy, he had it already. He didn't do it cause he got time off. He says flat out, it's for HER birthday. He wants to do something special for HER birthday. If he wanted to trick, he'd have been spending money. Nobody starts tricking after they get p*ssy, months later, for some random hoe he barely want... So lets get that established




He also plans a trip out of the country... B-b-b-b-b-but it's just Mexico... Ok so when's the last time y'all took a broad to Mexico? Was she just some random you'd already been smashing for months? Of course not. Was you buying both tickets, paying for the room AND paying for shyt while there? For a random? You already smashed for months? That wasn't shyt to you but someone you could cut off so easily in a day? Of course not.. He liked this girl




Liked her enough to sit and plan this out, have the money ready, everything ready to go when........ She says the wrong thing. Two sentences. That IMMEDIATELY makes him disappear her forever from his life. Why? Because she MUST be trying to get over on me. He believes this so much he won't even ask for an explanation. Won't even give her a chance to explain her words. This man was ready to spend THOUSANDS a second ago and now won't ever speak words nor allow her to speak to him. Why such a drastic change? For an extra day he wasn't even sure she wasn't going to pay for? Or because he was afraid of being right?




But peep game.. He couldn't go back and ask her to confirm. He was already hurt by his own assumptions. So he came to the coli for the confirmation. Look at the title... NEED CONFIRMATION!! Why are random nikkas online that you never met, confirming how you should dump your girl you been fukking for months and was taking to Mexico.. Shouldn't she confirm that to you?? Shouldn't you already know in your heart you did the right thing? You should be here typing a STORY, instead you are here typing I NEED CONFIRMATION.




Is she somewhere asking for confirmation? Do you know or you guessing? I know who is. I know for 100% fact who is burdened by not getting closure to the situation, because they are here right now, asking us for it. The questions he wants to know the answers to, from his girl, cannot be found cause he closed that door. Now he opening the door to the coli, trying to get it from us. When instead of being a man and saying "excuse me but what the fukk does that mean" and being able to peep finesse from a mile away, no matter what she says.. He now wonders if he truly should have just talked to her... This woman he's chosen to associate with for months, slide up in, risk babies and everything else with, and taking her out the country on trips, for her happiness on her born date...

Now y'all suddenly want us to believe he don't care, he got closure, it's killing her, he's got the power, she was trying to finesse him by asking for one day, and to continue acting like this towards people forever.....


Ok

One thing about instincts and assumptions....they are there for a reason.

.. I showed you text transcripts.....and her responses where out of pocket compared to mine. Bad behavior is not rewarded