My friends wife wants him to stop skyping his ex

[Blown Moon]

who's paralyzed from the waist down.

He found out his ex was in a car accident early last year and has been crippled ever since. Around December he got in contact with her to show love and give support, they've been skyping ever since. His wife was cool with it at first but now is accusing him of having an "emotional affair" and wants him to cut her off. The drama started when the wife found out that ole girl could actually walk again some day and is doing things like moving her toes. She thinks if ole girl gets back to normal she's not going to want to be with anyone but my friend and that if he rides this out he'll be back in love with her and leave. Dude is really fukked up about this; he's become a major part of her support system because a lot of people have slowly stopped fukking with her over the past year. He wants to meet up at a bar later today and I'm his advice guy, so I already know he's gonna ask my opinion but right now all I can tell him is I don't know. So I'm coming to the coli to get your thoughts.





I'm just going to veer off for a second. I swear that rich men and beautiful women must have the hardest time finding true friends. This girl is gorgeous; I've seen men jock her and women claim to be cooler with her than they really were. Now most of her main crew ignores her calls and the dudes sweating her have disappeared. If she was a bytch I could understand it but this girl is sweet and she's still getting shytted on by most of the people that were supposed to be her friends. People accuse me of being misanthropic at times but I just know that deep down most people ain't shyt and I'm always being proved right. /rant

 

[SuikodenII]

Simply ask him what's more important, his wife or his ex? Don't guide him one way or the other.

Let him answer that on his own and find his way...what's good for him may or may not be what you would do, so just help find the questions that hold the vital answers to solving his dilemma

 

[DaChampIsHere]

He should respect his wife's wishes.

@ Him even contemplating choosing to please his ex over his wife.

 

[NoMoreWhiteWoman2020]

My man just being a good samaritan


fukk the wife she prolly will leave him anyway

 

[john goodman]

Shes crippled... no brainer she needs the friends

Could you imagine being crippled

 

[cleanface coney]

im interested in seeing the responses in this thread

 

[Blown Moon]

Simply ask him what's more important, his wife or his ex? Don't guide him one way or the other.

Let him answer that on his own and find his way...what's good for him may or may not be what you would do, so just help find the questions that hold the vital answers to solving his dilemma

I like that, this way I can't be blamed. I might tell him some ancient chinese proverb and just walk off.

He should respect his wife's wishes.

@ Him even contemplating choosing to please his ex over his wife.

I think he just doesn't want to drop a friend when their this fragile. I'd be lost too. I know you're supposed to ride with your wife but is skyping really that serious?

 

[Fur Elise]

If he values his marriage, he should follow his wife's wishes. It honestly sounds like the start to an emotional affair, which is cheating.

 

[flea]

id consider that pretty selfish on her part. i mean, she's cripplied... she might not be able to fukk but she might wanna blow the guy. how dare his wife take that away from her?

 

[Clapsteel O'Neal]

He should respect his wife's wishes.

@ Him even contemplating choosing to please his ex over his wife.

I don't believe its that black and white. If T/S's man is not looking at ole girl that way then he shouldn't give in to his wives paranoia and insecurity






buuuuuuuuut on the other hand...I'd be pissed off if my girl was doing that with the next man



so I guess I'm back to square one



If dude has got plans in the back of his head tell that scumbag to cut his ex off but I'd suggest dude should gradually start including his wife in supporting this ex (like giving her a girl to talk to I don't know) IF he is genuinely only trying to support his ex


that's probs the worst advice ever but

 

[DaChampIsHere]

I think he just doesn't want to drop a friend when their this fragile. I'd be lost too. I know you're supposed to ride with your wife but is skyping really that serious?

He needs to ween her off or something. Sounds like he's already emotionally straddled in.

If she's a bad bytch and she starts back walkin' too...

Vagina ain't handicapped
[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UwNgsEkgBa4"]My Vagina Aint Handicapped Freestyle - YouTube[/ame]

 

[SuikodenII]

I like that, this way I can't be blamed. I might tell him some ancient chinese proverb and just walk off.

It's always best to avoid giving relationship advice as much as possible...they're both two adults, you can only guide them to find the right answers for them and their relationship, not provide them

Even if you were to provide your opinion on the matter, you can never be blamed, since you

A: Never forced him to make a decision either way, and
B: It was him who asked the question of advice. If you're not ready to receive consequence, do not ask for action

 

[Coco Loco]

Good friend/ samaritan whatever if she was skyping with her ex he'd probably feel the same way so he needs to consider how she feels. He can still support his ex in her recovery without causing drama in his marriage.

 

[Blown Moon]

If he values his marriage, he should follow his wife's wishes. It honestly sounds like the start to an emotional affair, which is cheating.

I would have agreed with you but because of the circumstances of this situation it's not a cut and dry "emotional affair".

I don't believe its that black and white. If T/S's man is not looking at ole girl that way then he shouldn't give in to his wives paranoia and insecurity






buuuuuuuuut on the other hand...I'd be pissed off if my girl was doing that with the next man



so I guess I'm back to square one



If dude has got plans in the back of his head tell that scumbag to cut his ex off but I'd suggest dude should gradually start including his wife in supporting this ex (like giving her a girl to talk to I don't know) IF he is genuinely only trying to support his ex


that's probs the worst advice ever but

I really believe he's just trying to support her and help her get through this rough time. However she is very attractive and if she starts walking again and throws that p at him The wife might have a point.

He needs to ween her off or something. Sounds like he's already emotionally straddled in.

If she's a bad bytch and she starts back walkin' too...

Vagina ain't handicapped
My Vagina Aint Handicapped Freestyle - YouTube

I hope his wife doesn't see that video.

 

[rapdonttweet]

If dude has got plans in the back of his head tell that scumbag to cut his ex off but I'd suggest dude should gradually start including his wife in supporting this ex (like giving her a girl to talk to I don't know) IF he is genuinely only trying to support his ex

I agree with this. If dude has no bad intentions then why doesn't he include his wife in his support? It will get rid of her suspicions.