My friends husband gave me a hug and got hard (UPDATE IN ORIGINAL POST)

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Damn it's like every thread that has to do with some broad on here goes plat off the simp comments alone :heh::russ:



























:sadcam: you niggz pitiful
 

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This that next level victim-blaming!! I'ma definitely have to start using that line:
:sas1: "What are you doing out here all alone sporting this sinful body?" :sas2:
:deadmanny:

Ain't no victim here....

I'm a single woman with 95% of my female friends married. I am fully aware of the fine line that one must walk regardless of attraction. It's all about RESPECT.

I respect my girlfriends enough not to be in or around their home passed past acceptable visiting hours or without them there, I speak when spoken to- to the husbands, I am not facebook friends with nan one of the husbands (had some pokes and requests too-ignored that shyt)... I don't have any of the husbands phone numbers, I have not hugged nan one of my friends husbands, I wave hello. I ask them to make sure that they clear it with their husbands before we go out (and I hang out with my married girlfriends maybe once a month)... If a husband were to motion to me that he wanted a hug, I would've started coughing and saying I have a cold so don't come near. My friends don't ever have to doubt my motives.... It is clear whose team I am on...
My loyalty is to my friends. I ain't got nothing to do with their men. Which is why I don't understand why she didn't put a kibosh to the hug... :sas2:....
unless she wanted it too... :sas1:
 
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Ain't no victim here....

I'm a single woman with 95% of my female friends married. I am fully aware of the fine line that one must walk regardless of attraction. It's all about RESPECT.

I respect my girlfriends enough not to be in or around their home passed acceptable visiting hours or without them there, I speak when spoken to- to the husbands, I am not facebook friends with nan one of the husbands (had some pokes and requests too-ignored that shyt)... I don't have any of the husbands phone numbers, I have not hugged nan one of my friends husbands, I wave hello. I ask them to make sure that they clear it with their husbands before we go out (and I hang out with my married girlfriends maybe once a month)... If a husband were to motion to me that he wanted a hug, I would've started coughing and saying I have a cold so don't come near. My friends don't ever have to doubt my motives.... It is clear whose team I am on...
My loyalty is to my friends. I ain't got nothing to do with their men. Which is why I don't understand why she didn't put a kibosh to the hug... :sas2:....
unless she wanted it too... :sas1:


ok now we're getting somewhere :patrice:
 

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I think what is being lost is that 2/3 people in that room were drunk. Im the king of this right here:
"Lets wait till we have all the facts."
So unless ole girl signs up for the Coli....:sas1:
We have little reason to doubt the version we have been told.:sas2:
 

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I think what is being lost is that 2/3 people in that room were drunk. Im the king of this right here:
"Lets wait till we have all the facts."
So unless ole girl signs up for the Coli....:sas1:
We have little reason to doubt the version we have been told.:sas2:

Yeah... lets blame it on the alcohol...:comeon: A drunk mind speaks a sober tongue...
 

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Yeah... lets blame it on the alcohol...:comeon: A drunk mind speaks a sober tongue...
Im only saying because this does sound a bit like victim blaming. They all might have had that kinda relationship where she could hug her friends man like an old friend.
Mind you, OP said they hadn't seen each other in a while. If the wife and husband's sex life was falling apart, any attractive woman could have set him off that night,
especially if its been weeks/months since he and his wife had meaningful sex. The issue is with the couple, not with the OP, unless of course, she was throwing him
attention/nookie on the side.
 

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Im only saying because this does sound a bit like victim blaming. They all might have had that kinda relationship where she could hug her friends man like an old friend.
Mind you, OP said they hadn't seen each other in a while. If the wife and husband's sex life was falling apart, any attractive woman could have set him off that night,
especially if its been weeks/months since he and his wife had meaningful sex. The issue is with the couple, not with the OP, unless of course, she was throwing him
attention/nookie on the side.

I don't think she was giving him any on the side (at least I hope not) but she did make a friend faux pas...

OP knew how vulnerable her friend was and how the intimacy in their marriage is off... why then go and have an intimate gesture with the husband?

That's just a violation of girl code... the friend opened up, and whether she meant to hurt her or not, she was out of bounds (as a friend) by giving the husband a hug instead of the Heisman.
 

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I don't think she was giving him any on the side (at least I hope not) but she did make a friend faux pas...

OP knew how vulnerable her friend was and how the intimacy in their marriage is off... why then go and have an intimate gesture with the husband?

That's just a violation of girl code... the friend opened up, and whether she meant to hurt her or not, she was out of bounds (as a friend) by giving the husband a hug instead of the Heisman.
Fair enough. I chalk it up to a mistake in a volatile situation. It could have been one spark in a long line of explosions those two had, and anything probably could have resulted in a fight.
 

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I love the idea of everybody fukking everybody. :manny:
Society needs to come off its high horse when it comes to sex. I actually got turned on when my ex told me about her one night stand she had. Turned me the fukk on. We were at a restaurant. Took her to the parking lot and fukker her senseless in the car.

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Fair enough. I chalk it up to a mistake in a volatile situation. It could have been one spark in a long line of explosions those two had, and anything probably could have resulted in a fight.

A few things here fore me....

How long have they been friends compared to how long have husband and wife been together?
How many other line stepping incidents have happened before (OP only mentioned the staring at the booty)?
To be honest, this situation is probably a lot deeper than what has been mentioned.
The wife's insecurity, the husband's attraction to the "friend," the lack of intimacy between husband a wife, the gratification from the sexual tension from the friend.
One, if not both; of these relationships will more than likely come to an end.
 
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I didnt grind on him and our genitals didn't touch at all. They were actually very much a part. It was a friendly hug and it didn't cross my mind that he would get a boner. He came at me wanting a hug and its something we've always done. He'd never got a boner before that i saw.

We were drinking and she and i were both tipsy and she was already emotional. She was more upset at the fact he got hard from a meaningless hug ( our arms touch but my butt was out)and can't get hard for her. She said she felt inadequate. She was embarrased. Her husband did not know she was just telling me about his problem, emotions were very high.

I feel really bad though. None of that was my intention.
 
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