More teens becoming "fake" Christians

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http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/08/27/almost.christian/index.html

(CNN) -- If you're the parent of a Christian teenager, Kenda Creasy Dean has this warning:

Your child is following a "mutant" form of Christianity, and you may be responsible.

Dean says more American teenagers are embracing what she calls "moralistic therapeutic deism." Translation: It's a watered-down faith that portrays God as a "divine therapist" whose chief goal is to boost people's self-esteem.

Dean is a minister, a professor at Princeton Theological Seminary and the author of "Almost Christian," a new book that argues that many parents and pastors are unwittingly passing on this self-serving strain of Christianity.

She says this "imposter'' faith is one reason teenagers abandon churches.

"If this is the God they're seeing in church, they are right to leave us in the dust," Dean says. "Churches don't give them enough to be passionate about."

What traits passionate teens share

Dean drew her conclusions from what she calls one of the most depressing summers of her life. She interviewed teens about their faith after helping conduct research for a controversial study called the National Study of Youth and Religion.

They have a lot to say. They can talk about money, sex and their family relationships with nuance.
--Kenda Creasy Dean, author
The study, which included in-depth interviews with at least 3,300 American teenagers between 13 and 17, found that most American teens who called themselves Christian were indifferent and inarticulate about their faith.


The study included Christians of all stripes -- from Catholics to Protestants of both conservative and liberal denominations. Though three out of four American teenagers claim to be Christian, fewer than half practice their faith, only half deem it important, and most can't talk coherently about their beliefs, the study found.

Many teenagers thought that God simply wanted them to feel good and do good -- what the study's researchers called "moralistic therapeutic deism."

Some critics told Dean that most teenagers can't talk coherently about any deep subject, but Dean says abundant research shows that's not true.

"They have a lot to say," Dean says. "They can talk about money, sex and their family relationships with nuance. Most people who work with teenagers know that they are not naturally inarticulate."

In "Almost Christian," Dean talks to the teens who are articulate about their faith. Most come from Mormon and evangelical churches, which tend to do a better job of instilling religious passion in teens, she says.

No matter their background, Dean says committed Christian teens share four traits: They have a personal story about God they can share, a deep connection to a faith community, a sense of purpose and a sense of hope about their future.


"There are countless studies that show that religious teenagers do better in school, have better relationships with their parents and engage in less high-risk behavior," she says. "They do a lot of things that parents pray for."

Dean, a United Methodist Church minister who says parents are the most important influence on their children's faith, places the ultimate blame for teens' religious apathy on adults.

Some adults don't expect much from youth pastors. They simply want them to keep their children off drugs and away from premarital sex.

Others practice a "gospel of niceness," where faith is simply doing good and not ruffling feathers. The Christian call to take risks, witness and sacrifice for others is muted, she says.

"If teenagers lack an articulate faith, it may be because the faith we show them is too spineless to merit much in the way of conversation," wrote Dean, a professor of youth and church culture at Princeton Theological Seminary.

More teens may be drifting away from conventional Christianity. But their desire to help others has not diminished, another author says.


Barbara A. Lewis, author of "The Teen Guide to Global Action," says Dean is right -- more teens are embracing a nebulous belief in God.

Yet there's been an "explosion" in youth service since 1995 that Lewis attributes to more schools emphasizing community service.

Teens that are less religious aren't automatically less compassionate, she says.

"I see an increase in youth passion to make the world a better place," she says. "I see young people reaching out to solve problems. They're not waiting for adults."
 

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What religious teens say about their peers


Elizabeth Corrie meets some of these idealistic teens every summer. She has taken on the book's central challenge: instilling religious passion in teens.

Corrie, who once taught high school religion, now directs a program called YTI -- the Youth Theological Initiative at Emory University in Georgia.

YTI operates like a theological boot camp for teens. At least 36 rising high school juniors and seniors from across the country gather for three weeks of Christian training. They worship together, take pilgrimages to varying religious communities and participate in community projects.

Corrie says she sees no shortage of teenagers who want to be inspired and make the world better. But the Christianity some are taught doesn't inspire them "to change anything that's broken in the world."

Teens want to be challenged; they want their tough questions taken on, she says.

"We think that they want cake, but they actually want steak and potatoes, and we keep giving them cake," Corrie says.


David Wheaton, an Atlanta high school senior, says many of his peers aren't excited about Christianity because they don't see the payoff.

"If they can't see benefits immediately, they stay away from it," Wheaton says. "They don't want to make sacrifices."

How 'radical' parents instill religious passion in their children

Churches, not just parents, share some of the blame for teens' religious apathy as well, says Corrie, the Emory professor.

She says pastors often preach a safe message that can bring in the largest number of congregants. The result: more people and yawning in the pews.

"If your church can't survive without a certain number of members pledging, you might not want to preach a message that might make people mad," Corrie says. "We can all agree that we should all be good and that God rewards those who are nice."


Corrie, echoing the author of "Almost Christian," says the gospel of niceness can't teach teens how to confront tragedy.

"It can't bear the weight of deeper questions: Why are my parents getting a divorce? Why did my best friend commit suicide? Why, in this economy, can't I get the good job I was promised if I was a good kid?"

What can a parent do then?

Get "radical," Dean says.

She says parents who perform one act of radical faith in front of their children convey more than a multitude of sermons and mission trips.

A parent's radical act of faith could involve something as simple as spending a summer in Bolivia working on an agricultural renewal project or turning down a more lucrative job offer to stay at a struggling church, Dean says.


But it's not enough to be radical -- parents must explain "this is how Christians live," she says.

"If you don't say you're doing it because of your faith, kids are going to say my parents are really nice people," Dean says. "It doesn't register that faith is supposed to make you live differently unless parents help their kids connect the dots."

'They called when all the cards stopped'

Anne Havard, an Atlanta teenager, might be considered radical. She's a teen whose faith appears to be on fire.

Havard, who participated in the Emory program, bubbles over with energy when she talks about possibly teaching theology in the future and quotes heavy-duty scholars such as theologian Karl Barth.

She's so fired up about her faith that after one question, Havard goes on a five-minute tear before stopping and chuckling: "Sorry, I just talked a long time."

Havard says her faith has been nurtured by what Dean, the "Almost Christian" author, would call a significant faith community.

In 2006, Havard lost her father to a rare form of cancer. Then she lost one of her best friends -- a young woman in the prime of life -- to cancer as well. Her church and her pastor stepped in, she says.

"They called when all the cards stopped," she says.

When asked how her faith held up after losing her father and friend, Havard didn't fumble for words like some of the teens in "Almost Christian."


She says God spoke the most to her when she felt alone -- as Jesus must have felt on the cross.

"When Jesus was on the cross crying out, 'My God, why have you forsaken me?' Jesus was part of God,'' she says. "Then God knows what it means to doubt.

"It's OK to be in a storm, to be in a doubt," she says, "because God was there, too."
 

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I always felt like the relation to god should be close and personal and always thought that religions were bad in the way they place the believer in a sheep-like state by giving them THE ways to believe and understand scriptures (because the sheep need a pastor and the pastor is the one who knows). I like the idea of people believing in god their way (even if I think that "God" is man-made) : that's true faith to me because religious faith is faith to the pastor and his words. Faith should have no middle-man.
 
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True Christianity is IMPOSSIBLE...

It goes against EVERYTHING nature has implanted in us for survival..

A true Christian will not even have a savings account, why are you keeping money you don't need right now, when you can help 100's of children in Africa who need that $5 to eat today...?

Especially if you believe that God will provide...

True Christianity is essentially communism...It's an ideal that's not practical...
 
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I agree that we are continually getting a watered down form of Christianity that is more like a self-help seminar.
You are so correct...

The difference between a Pastor and a Motivational speaker is that the Pastor has to mention the holy trinity here and there...

Majority of Christians I have met only know Bible verses they heard their Pastor quote in church...
 

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Dean, a United Methodist Church minister who says parents are the most important influence on their children's faith, places the ultimate blame for teens' religious apathy on adults.
Great observation. Sad but true.
 

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True Christianity is IMPOSSIBLE...
It goes against EVERYTHING nature has implanted in us for survival..
A true Christian will not even have a savings account, why are you keeping money you don't need right now, when you can help 100's of children in Africa who need that $5 to eat today...?
Especially if you believe that God will provide...
True Christianity is essentially communism...It's an ideal that's not practical...
James 1:27 says "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world."

True Christianity is your personal relationship with God. That's possible. Walking out your faith is not easy, but no one said it's going to be a cake walk.
Actually, it is stated it is a hard road. James 1:2-3. My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations;
Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.


Everyone has a different path in life and God loves you whether or not you listen to His calling in your life. Some are called to be preachers, teachers, evangelists, missionaries, managers, cooks, taxi drivers, custodians, CEOs, soldiers, mayors, waitresses, etc. If you look throughout the Bible, there are leaders, servants, prophets, teachers, fisherman, carpenters, kings, soldiers, maids, slaves, farmers, and whatever else. Not everyone has the same job. Communism is getting paid the same for jobs of different difficulty. Christianity is serving and knowing God regardless what your career is.
If God commands you to sell all you have, then it is obedience to do so. Not everyone in the New Testament was called to "sell all they had" like it was asked of the rich young ruler in Luke 18:18-23, which is what I believe you are pointing to. How many people didn't do that or were called to do that? Hmm, why? It's because that isn't what is demanded of everyone.
 

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True Christianity is IMPOSSIBLE...

It goes against EVERYTHING nature has implanted in us for survival..

A true Christian will not even have a savings account, why are you keeping money you don't need right now, when you can help 100's of children in Africa who need that $5 to eat today...?

Especially if you believe that God will provide...

True Christianity is essentially communism...It's an ideal that's not practical...
True christianity IS impossible, being CHRIST is impossible.

All fall short of the glory of God. It's basic christianity 101. The problem I see now is that people aren't being taught THIS one undeniable fact. This leaves you feeling like a fool when you do fuk up. Turns out Christians, like everyone else FUK UP.

In the bible even the apostles fuked up, even after JC TOLD THEM they were going to fuk up. Think about that.

JC said, "Deny me in front of man and I will deny you in front of the father." Peter knew this. JC then tells peter, "you're going to deny me 3 times..." Peter was like, "don't be silly no i'm not"

Peter denied JC 3 times...and he knew about it.

Did peter do wrong? Sure. Was he a bad person? No, but he fell short. He wasn't saved by what he did, he was saved through grace.

The problem with teens is that they are given a black or white version of christianity.

If you sin then you're not CHristian. This sets up a road for failure. Those teens that are luke warm see the "expectations of the church" and don't quite see that while sin is bad, sinning doesn't make you NOT christian.

Talking to the kids I work with once you explain this it's almost easier for them to accept all those rules AND know that when they fuk up it's not the end of the world.

IMHO the church created a lot of that dogma and strictness as a means of control. THe bible isn't about control though, it's about salvation.
 
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True christianity IS impossible, being CHRIST is impossible.
All fall short of the glory of God. It's basic christianity 101. The problem I see now is that people aren't being taught THIS one undeniable fact. This leaves you feeling like a fool when you do fuk up. Turns out Christians, like everyone else FUK UP.
In the bible even the apostles fuked up, even after JC TOLD THEM they were going to fuk up. Think about that.
JC said, "Deny me in front of man and I will deny you in front of the father." Peter knew this. JC then tells peter, "you're going to deny me 3 times..." Peter was like, "don't be silly no i'm not"
Peter denied JC 3 times...and he knew about it.
Did peter do wrong? Sure. Was he a bad person? No, but he fell short. He wasn't saved by what he did, he was saved through grace.
The problem with teens is that they are given a black or white version of christianity.
If you sin then you're not CHristian. This sets up a road for failure. Those teens that are luke warm see the "expectations of the church" and don't quite see that while sin is bad, sinning doesn't make you NOT christian.
Talking to the kids I work with once you explain this it's almost easier for them to accept all those rules AND know that when they fuk up it's not the end of the world.
IMHO the church created a lot of that dogma and strictness as a means of control. THe bible isn't about control though, it's about salvation.
The interesting thing is that church dogma actually makes it easy for anybody to be a Christian without even being a Christian...Because church dogma gives you a bunch of rules and policies you need to follow, and if you break them, you can just confess to your priest or give your pastor an extra $100 on Sunday, and all your sins will be forgiven...

Hence, we end with all these Christians girls that some of the members are mentioning, they will be at your crib Saturday night slurping your penis, and then profess their undying love for the Holy Trinity with the same mouth on Sunday morning...

Bless God for these fine women and their godly ways...:blessed:

Back to a serious note...Having a Christian mentality without the Church Dogma, just goes against everything we are as humans, and I am not even talking about attempting to attain a Christ-like persona...

1) Why should a true Christian have a savings account...? A) Jesus says not to worry about tomorrow, because God will provide B) If you have faith in this promise, why do you save money...? Who would God prefer, a Christian who says, "I will use the talent that God gave me to make lots of money, and use all that money to meet my basic needs, and then redistribute the rest to all other people who do not have my talent and opportunity. Because I believe as long as have a spiritual and physical righteous lifestyle, God will keep me healthy, so I can continue his work, of taking care of the less fortunate." Or will God prefer the Christian who says "you never know what will happen tomorrow. So, I am going to put all my money in the bank and make rich people rich, and it's God job to take care of the least fortunate."

2) How often does the average Christian drive around town in the coldest winters, and uses a spare bedroom in their big spacious houses to provide shelter for a homeless guy, for even just one night...?

I mean these are actions that the New Testament asks from any self-professing Christian, this is NOT dogma, because dogma says you okay for the year if you give a bum $10 during Christmas season..hahaha...And that;s what people do...

Just basic actions that can be done, are really impossible...

To true believe in God is to truly be fearless, you will invite a bum to your house and feed and cloth them, and you wont be scared because you truly believe you are doing the Lords work, and he will direct and protect you...

You will not keep a savings account, instead, you will use all the money you don't need after your needs have been met, to meet other less fortunate people's needs, and you will do this because you truly believe if you do your part a maintain a healthy physical, mental and spiritual lifestyle, God will be your provider, and God will keep you healthy and strong so you can continue with his work...

That's not dogma, and that's doable...But like I stated, it goes against EVERYTHING we are taught about survival...So, it's impossible...

There is no point being a Christian...You will either get killed by somebody you trying to help, or you will end up like Job, sick and miserable, except that there will not be riches at the end of your struggle...

Christianity is not functional, and thus, it's IMPOSSIBLE...For most people...
 
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