MenOfTheColi: Do You Usually Pick The First Date, Or Do You Ask Her To Pick? & What Does It Mean?

[Giselle]

When you ask a girl out on the first date, do you tell her where you 2 are going, or do you ask her where she wants to go?

If you tell her where you 2 are going, what does that mean? Does it mean you like her more? When you pick the place, is it usually a place that you have taken other women?

If you let her pick, what does that mean? Does it mean that you care less about her? You are too lazy to plan a date?


This thread was inspired by a thread I read on lsa. I have my opinion, but I won't post it in the op. I think some women are confused though.

Answer my questions please

 

[I AM WE ARE]

i try and take them somewhere different than the usual movies and dinner
i go for bowling or shooting pool where we can have fun and have a conversation
if she chooses to go somewhere else i don't mind not everything is a power struggle

 

[At30wecashout]

When you ask a girl out on the first date, do you tell her where you 2 are going, or do you ask her where she wants to go?


I get a feel for stuff she likes, but unless there is a good reason (tight schedule or something) I make the plans.

If you tell her where you 2 are going, what does that mean? Does it mean you like her more? When you pick the place, is it usually a place that you have taken other women?


I tell her where we are going so she can mentally prep herself for the type of atmosphere we gonna be talking in. No, it doesn't mean I like her more, its just a case-by-case thing.

Yes, I have re-used places for girls for first dates. I get more creative when I see what type of goofiness she will let me get away with.

If you let her pick, what does that mean? Does it mean that you care less about her? You are too lazy to plan a date?

I rarely have a woman pick a place, but a woman who can suggest a spot score points...it just sucks sometimes cause usually I already had an idea.

No, I don't care less, but if a chick is planning, she better be able to carry thingsAnd im never lazy to plan. I have some ideas in the tube for a special lady assuming

she doesn't push for the same-old

 

[eufemism]

I do the basic coffee/walk in the park or around campus


Cheap and let's you focus on the convo

 

[#SOG_soldier]

Go on dates in 2016, brehs




You betta tell that thot you wanna chill at her crib and bring over some thot juice (ciroc)

 

[EpicStoryTeller]

I don't ask women out on dates, I tell them if they want to meet up we can grab some lunch and a smoothie.

-I let it be known that I'm not looking for a romantic date
-Bring your own money
-I'm not picking you up
-I'm not interested in talking about relationships
-I'll be busy afterwards so don't ask for more time
-And depending on if you say some stupid shyt will depend on if we meet up again


Only way I'm agreeing to any of the above is if we previously had talks about moving forward in a relationship. And if she ask me out on a date then I don't care where she picks as long as it's close by.

 

[Giselle]

Here is the lsa thread that inspired this one. They are ridiculous sometimes. lol
Guys don't plan for dates anymore

In my opinion, it's best for the woman to pick the first date. You won't be taking me to your usual date spot that you to your last 12 dates to. & I'll be sure to have a good time even if I don't like you.

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Go on dates in 2016, brehs




You betta tell that thot you wanna chill at her crib and bring over some thot juice (ciroc)

 

[ZoeGod]

I pick the date,I plan everything because I was taught by my pops that as a man you must lead. I plan dates that are fun and not the typical movie/dinner.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Women want a man that can lead, so I tell them where were going.

No it doesn't necessarily mean I like her more. It could as the guy is going out of his way to find a place (if it isn't a place he uses as first dates frequently).

Haven't dated enough where I took a chick to a place where I took someone else on a date. It's kind of awkward when I think about it.

I wouldn't mind if a chick chose where we went on the first date as long as it's not expensive. But there's the idea that a woman will perceive you as weak

if she chose where y'all went on the first date. Women are attracted to men who lead.

Her picking where we go can or cannot mean the man cares less about her.

 

[At30wecashout]

Here is the lsa thread that inspired this one. They are ridiculous sometimes. lol
Guys don't plan for dates anymore

In my opinion, it's best for the woman to pick the first date. You won't be taking me to your usual date spot that you to your last 12 dates to. & I'll be sure to have a good time even if I don't like you.

I might bother to click the link, but from what I have seen, some of this is true. Guys end up not planning dates.

However, blame the women who still entertain that shyt. Men do what it takes to get women, not the other way around. Once half-assed dates became acceptable, it was

a rap for doing much more. AND cheaper.

 

[Phitz]

I pick where to take them and ask if they want to go to _________

Sometimes they make suggestions and if I agree then we go.

 

[EpicStoryTeller]

I might bother to click the link, but from what I have seen, some of this is true. Guys end up not planning dates.

However, blame the women who still entertain that shyt. Men do what it takes to get women, not the other way around. Once half-assed dates became acceptable, it was

a rap for doing much more. AND cheaper.

I clicked it and had the face the whole time. A few women came in and tried to explain that a man letting the woman choose where the date will be isn't a big deal and does not mean he is any less interested. Those same women were getting ripped to shreds by other women smh I can tell who came over from lsa and onto the coli just by how they talk over there

 

[Kenny West]

no i pick.

and the spots I choose are usually a block or two away from the crib

 

[At30wecashout]

I clicked it and had the face the whole time. A few women came in and tried to explain that a man letting the woman choose where the date will be isn't a big deal and does not mean he is any less interested. Those same women were getting ripped to shreds by other women smh I can tell who came over from lsa and onto the coli just by how they talk over there

Yea, I went through a couple pages and saw the same thing. These chicks don't seem to understand: As long as men do the asking and chasing, we only adapt to what women do and say.

Don't get mad at us when our approach isn't what you want. One girl wants us to plan it all, the next is going to shyt on ideas and complain. Maybe by the time I run into the next chick,
me asking if she wants any input might have her assume I am weak, when im merely making the fukking effort to include her opinion.

Again, don't listen to shyt women say. Just follow a plan, cause as evidenced by LSA girls, doing something they don't agree with makes you a fukkboy, when the chick before LITERALLY wanted
the exact opposite.