Men who go back to a cheater

[Phitz]

It's case by case basis.

To be honest, I'm more and more looking at relationships from a financial perspective first, and then we can get into the emotions of it. If it's financially beneficial for you to stay with someone who cheats, particularly if it was a one-time thing and not an ongoing side relationship, and you don't have another more viable, realistic alternative, then

That advice goes more for women than men in theory, but works both ways really. I've never been in the actual situation though, so I don't know how I'd actually react.

Financial foundation for affairs of the heart is not the way to go. Seems trendy today, but most people are a natural disaster or nationwide catastrophe from money being useless.

You gotta be able to ask yourself "if the world blew up today and I had to survive off the land, would I want to be with this woman?"

 

[Hungerpain]

A nikka that actually LOVES that girl isn't gonna leave. Men talk good shyt around other men. But real talk, once a nikka is SPRUNG they be more clingy then fukkin females!

If you just rockin with a bytch till something better comes along or you the type of person to purposely keep yourself distance in relationships, you wont understand what I'm saying (and most men fall in this category).

When a nikka really fall in love with a girl, and be claiming her heavy, that nikka will take her back just so no one else can have her. Y'all got too much pride and ego.

That's the point of the thread.
No man should ever be love sprung/p*ssy whipped etc enough that he should accept sharing his girl out of "love."
shyt is wild Feminine, weak and goes against nature.
Not even love it's just neediness.

 

[Uncle Kingpin]

I hardly even share my blunt you think I'm sharing my girl?

You don't fight for your shoes when you put them on in the morning. Because they are yours. Same goes for girls, if she is truly yours you don't have to compete. Any girl you have to compete over isn't yours in the first place.

 

[cornercommission2k12]

It's case by case, you have to look at what you stand to lose, the stability of your children, the cost of divorce or what it means to break up with a long time girlfriend etc

I believe if you had years under your belt, and let's say 5 years in she cheats, if she remorseful , it's possible to work it out. If you strong enough to really forgive. Can't take her back but call her a hoe everytime yall argue about who cooking dinner. Selfishly you may want to part ways, but you have to consider what a ugly divorce means for your kids. Putting your kids through that could be why 20 years from now none of your kids want anything real in life, all they do is get in trouble get women pregnant/ get pregnant and can't commit to nothing.

But If she cheat and yall under a year in your relationship, just move on, that person don't have it in them to build a committed relationship, or they just may feel your not the one for them, which is cool. Rather find our early than go years in turmoil and never happy.

I have a friend, his wife mother and brother died on the same day, she hit the bars hard and ended up cheating, after a short separation, he took her back after her healing some and pleading for them to work it out, they been together years since and doing good. Hiccups happen in life, it ain't all roses sometimes gotta roll with the punches.

 

[BBG]

I hardly even share my blunt you think I'm sharing my girl?

You don't fight for your shoes when you put them on in the morning. Because they are yours. Same goes for girls, if she is truly yours you don't have to compete. Any girl you have to compete over isn't yours in the first place.

But what if someone borrows your shoes without asking? they still yours right


Just playing devil's advocate here. I'm on that rah rah shyt y'all on too but I been wit my girl almost 2 years and she the nerdy bookworm type that don't really go out so she got my utmost trust... Which unfortunately means I'd be completely blindsided and ready to kill a motherfukker if something ever was to take place

 

[wickedsm]

Would take back ya man if he cheated on you?

Depending on the particulars?
Yes.

Eta
If there's a break baby it's bushes with no return though.

 

[Draje]

It's worse when a women cheats; that's a scientifically proven fact

Show the science to back it up.

No links just facts

Women go on and on about needing an "emotional" component for an affair. A good many of these women (if not most of them) consider cheating with an emotional component to be cheating of the highest form. They also say that men think with their dikks and not with their heads or their hearts. As such, these women, by their own logic, are committing acts of infidelity worse than the men they belittle. They'll never admit to it, of course, but the fact of the matter remains that they're hoisting themselves with their own petard by spouting that crap and then engaging in infidelity.

Now please stay on topic!!

Bullshyt.

So if a women decided to cheat because she just wanted some new dikk then it's more acceptable? If she told you it was purely physical and she just wanted to get her walls stretched by him because he was sexy, that's ok?

MOST women are not made like that. Their emotions are attached. Men's are not.

Nah, women have typically been shamed into not expressing their sexuality and associating sexuality with love due to societal condition.

Plenty of women like to fukk dudes based off physical desire alone. And not only that, are you saying that you'd take back your cheating girl if she said it was only a physical thing and no feelings were involved? She just wanted a different dikk to stretch her out but it was a one night stand and meant nothing. Because that's what your implying.

 

[wickedsm]

Men with kids would do that because of a bigger picture. Alot of people can understand that logic.


If they don't have children......not so sure

I've seen it both ways but yes I think married /ltr are more likely to try to work it out.

 

[Guru]

Show the science to back it up.



Bullshyt.

So if a women decided to cheat because she just wanted some new dikk then it's more acceptable? If she told you it was purely physical and she just wanted to get her walls stretched by him because he was sexy, that's ok?



Nah, women have typically been shamed into not expressing their sexuality and associating sexuality with love due to societal condition.

Plenty of women like to fukk dudes based off physical desire alone. And not only that, are you saying that you'd take back your cheating girl if she said it was only a physical thing and no feelings were involved? She just wanted a different dikk to stretch her out but it was a one night stand and meant nothing. Because that's what your implying.

A few reasons why it's worse:

1. The vagina has more pulling power than the penis. A woman will always have more options available to her. Women get hit on constantly and are more used to the attention than men are. It shows greater strength of character to say no to an opportunity that doesn't come around very often than it does to reject the same opportunities that come around on a daily basis. If a woman is used to rejecting guys' advances, then it stands to reason that she should be able to say no when it counts. Failure to do so shows weakness on the part of somebody who's supposed to be strong.

2. There is a difference between penetrating and being penetrated. A man penetrating a woman is allowing himself to penetrate her; a woman being penetrated is not only allowing herself to be penetrated but is also allowing her partner to penetrate her. Doubled responsibility means double the fault.

 

[GoPro]

Depending on the particulars?
Yes.

Eta
If there's a break baby it's bushes with no return though.

 

[Guru]

Depending on the particulars?
Yes.

Eta
If there's a break baby it's bushes with no return though.

Interesting... ok but how many times can your man cheat on you until you decided you've had enough?

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

I have and regretted it. Let a ho, be a ho...

 

[Guru]

A nikka that actually LOVES that girl isn't gonna leave. Men talk good shyt around other men. But real talk, once a nikka is SPRUNG they be more clingy then fukkin females!

If you just rockin with a bytch till something better comes along or you the type of person to purposely keep yourself distance in relationships, you wont understand what I'm saying (and most men fall in this category).

When a nikka really fall in love with a girl, and be claiming her heavy, that nikka will take her back just so no one else can have her. Y'all got too much pride and ego.

Well so it is a pride and ego thing

 

[Carlton Banks]

Just don't get in relationships, period

 

[wickedsm]

Interesting... ok but how many times can your man cheat on you until you decided you've had enough?

i cant get that deep into hypotheticals. weve been married since the flood so weve been through alot together, im not gonna throw everything away for a one night stand or a fling. now if hes slinging dikk all over the place every other weekend thats a totally different scenario.