Men I need answers

[vicioustalk]

Wait - what does her man think? Did you listen?
You just glossed over what he thinks like it doesn’t matter…and if she agrees with what her man thinks,
then why are upset?



Covid is a pretty good “excuse”, because it’s some chit we’ve never seen before that has changed
everybody’s lives and people are dying by being in large groups like say, weddings.

“but on Facebook...”

Fucc Facebook. In the ass.
It’s the same muthafuccers on Facebook doing dumb chit like that that has set record numbers of
Covid cases reported since things started opening back up.

What’s the real problem here? You don’t think your friend can keep her man?

Not at all I know she can keep her man. I am just trying to understand why the hold up..and I just want to understand it from a male perspective cuz you know us women will probably be wrong...ok so first excuse was that he just isn't thinking about it right now...second one he diverted the question.... Third one was why rush they are technically married ( cuz to him he gave her a ring ) now it's covid ...she knows she can't plan a big wedding right now but she was thinking city Hall at least.. he doesn't want to hear it...

I didn't really say anything I was kinda shocked that he was dragging his feet...all I said is maybe he's scared of entering in covenent ..what I really wanted to say is I don't think he wants to marry you but I could be wrong and that why I wanted clarity

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

I voted no, but 2 years is pretty long for an engagement. It's just that dude kinda lucked up with his timing because Covid is a valid excuse right now.

I'd say this though. Some type of hard promise should be made to at least start planing it next year, if things end up normalizing in the country. I wouldn't even be saying this part if they were just engaged for a year, but with two years against him, he does seem like a nikka you gotta give an ultimatum too. If he's not willing to at least start planning it next year, he prolly doesn't plan on going through with it or wants to take more time.

shyt can potentially be like when you watch Divorce court and the judge ask the couple how long they been together and they say some shyt like 10 years. Then the judge asks them how long where you married in those 10 years and they say some shyt like 2 years.

 

[Hersh]

come back after u asked her how he asked her to marry him..

 

[vicioustalk]

come back after u asked her how he asked her to marry him..

On Valentine's Day he took her out ..popped the question just them two at dinner ...she my best friend I was the first few ppl she called

 

[Taadow]

Not at all I know she can keep her man. I am just trying to understand why the hold up..and I just want to understand it from a male perspective cuz you know us women will probably be wrong...ok so first excuse was that he just isn't thinking about it right now...second one he diverted the question.... Third one was why rush they are technically married ( cuz to him he gave her a ring ) now it's covid ...she knows she can't plan a big wedding right now but she was thinking city Hall at least.. he doesn't want to hear it...

I didn't really say anything I was kinda shocked that he was dragging his feet...all I said is maybe he's scared of entering in covenent ..what I really wanted to say is I don't think he wants to marry you but I could be wrong and that why I wanted clarity

He wants her, and perhaps wants to be married - but he doesn’t want to do the paperwork.
He doesn’t want to get burned.

 

[vicioustalk]

I voted no, but 2 years is pretty long for an engagement. It's just that dude kinda lucked up with his timing because Covid is a valid excuse right now.

Soo...no city Hall...no virtual wedding....no??? Cuz that's an option..you could do that n plan the wedding when covid clears ( by the way lmao they're expecting normalcy to come back by 2023...whose waiting till 2023 to get married at that point it's gonna be a 5 year wait lmaoo ...I couldn't do it )

 

[vicioustalk]

He wants her, and perhaps wants to be married - but he doesn’t want to do the paperwork.
He doesn’t want to get burned.

Ok I can also accept that answer

 

[vicioustalk]

shyt can potentially be like when you watch Divorce court and the judge ask the couple how long they been together and they say some shyt like 10 years. Then the judge asks them how long where you married in those 10 years and they say some shyt like 2 years.

Those moments are so sad it's like how did you all get to this point ...I mean I don't know...I just want to understand lol

 

[Taadow]

Those moments are so sad it's like how did you all get to this point ...I mean I don't know...I just want to understand lol

All you gotta do is fall back and watch...more than half of marriages end in divorce and it’s
usually initiated by wives. Dudes ain’t trying to catch that L.

 

[Hersh]

On Valentine's Day he took her out ..popped the question just them two at dinner ...she my best friend I was the first few ppl she called

based on this i think he does.. hes just a control freak.. covid obviously through his plans in the bushes.. i think breh jus waiting on n some normalcy..

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

Soo...no city Hall...no virtual wedding....no??? Cuz that's an option..you could do that n plan the wedding when covid clears ( by the way lmao they're expecting normalcy to come back by 2023...whose waiting till 2023 to get married at that point it's gonna be a 5 year wait lmaoo ...I couldn't do it )

i mean if nikkas is trying to do a court house wedding this year on some rush shyt, I guess, but thats like an extra step seeing that they already engaged and he got her a ring. May as well do it the right way one time. Even if normalcy doesn't come back until 2023, rushing to get married right now at the height of this shyt just seems desperate. Planning it next year just seems the safer bet.

I'm just trying to compromise a bit. Hell, they been engaged for 2 years already. whats another 6 months to a year.

 

[vicioustalk]

i mean if nikkas is trying to do a court house wedding this year on some rush shyt, I guess, but thats like an extra step seeing that they already engaged and he got her a ring. May as well do it the right way one time. Even if normalcy doesn't come back until 2023, rushing to get married right now at the height of this shyt just seems desperate. Planning it next year just seems the safer bet.

I'm just trying to compromise a bit. Hell, they been engaged for 2 years already. whats another 6 months to a year.

Ok thanks for the insight! He'll be waiting a long time for kids loll 7 to 8 years if they get married in 2023

 

[Dwolf]

Help me understand cause I don't
My best friend is engaged ...they dated for two years and engaged for two more this past May...I ask her about wedding planning and she saying how her man thinks this..her man thinks that... personally I dont think he wants to marry her cause it's always excuses as to why nothing's planned yet...his latest excuse is covid ..but I'm on FB seeing ppl getting married despite this pandemic...like I said I personally think he's way to comfortable I need a male perspective...why is it constant excuses

Do you know if your friend pressured him into marriage? Like if any ultimatums were given?

 

[vicioustalk]

Do you know if your friend pressured him into marriage? Like if any ultimatums were given?

no ultimatums...but she told me if there wasn't any ring by may she's calling it quits
She did try to break up with him in November ( she just felt that she didn't think they were compatible anymore they had different goals...) but he wanted it to work and told her they'll work on it.in which I thought they worked it out ..cuz by feb there was a proposal

 

[vicioustalk]

Sorry y'all when. I started the thread I was taking care of my sister's kids (my sister's a nurse doing crazy shifts) so I said may cause my neice (she's 13 I let her stay up with me to watch movies and talk lol I'm a cool aunt loll it's not like she has school in the morning) she was talking about her birthday in may etc so i was typing this thread while she was talking to me and typed may

Smh

Anyways he proposed vday two years ago it's been more than two years. Latest updates.. she's told me he's unresponsive with wedding planning saying let's wait till covid ends...( Which we have no idea when this shyt will end smh...just saying tomorrow isn't guaranteed but hey) anyways she just over it she gave herself a mental ultimatum if there no talks by December she's giving him the ring back n moving back in with her parents