Hmmm, i get what you're saying, i.e. being independent and ambitiously driven since a young age, making something of yourself, being an accomplished super star in life,. et cetera, v.v.
But by you using your experiences/achievements/accolades as a barometer of success and comparing it to your contemporaries/younger generations isn't very realistic. You are not the common gene in this societal helix; you're a high value woman, and that's great and all...
And I'm sure there are a ton of women like you out there but everyone's upbringing and circumstances, coddled or not, regardless of social standing, but at the end of the rolling credits...
...some people just never get that break in life or have the mental acuity/motivational propensity to seek out great opportunities for themselves.
Yeah, complacency and mediocrity is a bytch, but not everyone is cut from the same polyester strands.
And quite frankly, if it weren't for the unenterprising and apathetic... there'd be no balance in this world.
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To be honest, I was just the product of a lot of great government sponsored community programs that have been gutted in recent years or phased out.
Sure I’m smart. But there are legit geniuses dead in the streets whose potential goes untapped.
In comparison with peers from my graduating class, I’m actually average. I had a 4.1 gpa but I was still like 13 or 14 in my graduating class b/c some blk kids TOOK ALL AP CLASSES, and got As for the entire duration of their high school career. We had like three people with 5.0s
My parents thot I was a POS.
Hell they called me lazy growing up.
My classmates are like superintendents, started businesses, principals, doctors, engineers…all kinds of shyt.
It’s not that we were magical beings. It was our school systems and a HOST of government community programs that all but ensured we were TRAINED to be successful.
From damn near BIRTH.
In middle school, there was Talent Search and a whole host of other programs that provided professional development services for grades 6-8 to determine strengths and identify careers and researching them.
In high school, there was Upward Bound. So I was living in a college campus for 6 weeks every summer taking those classes since the 9th grade.
In college I was in Opportunity Scholars Program to subsidize cost of tuition and provide smaller classes and tutoring for tough courses and community for poor, at-risk, first generation students to minimize risk of drop out.
In grad. I was a McNair Scholar which prepped me for doctoral level work and research YEARS B4 I got into a PhD program.
Our school made it MANDATORY that we had to take the ACT/SAT and score the minimum score for admission to 4 year universities. And we had to apply for scholarships weekly. That shyt was apart of our Senior year portfolio.
So when I sit here telling ya’ll what I did, it’s not that I was special.
My community/education just made it harder for us to fail. That’s my common refrain. That’s why I blame our shytty education systems for a lot. Even tho my parents were great, they were working most of my life. Without these programs I could have easily fallen by the wayside even with their care.
But many of these programs have been phased out or underfunded or cut. No social skills training or psychology classes. No job shadowing or job training. Watered down curriculum. No real life experience.
Community programs have been GUTTED by conservatives. No business owner forums or career fairs…
Not unless you pay for private school.
And the shytty education system is DIRECTLY tied to generations of young kids 18+ who come out of high school with zero job skills, social skills, and enter an even shyttier economy. And they weren’t taught grit, resilience, how to save or ect., from any educational experiences they had in 13 years of school.
I’ll say it again.
13 years your child is away from you for 180 days. For 8 hours a day. 5 days a week.
And…AND it’s even WORSE for boys. School is horrible for boys these days.
So when you squander the key developmental years of a nation’s learners, you damn right, you are gonna have generations of young men who are lost, disgruntled, insecure, anxious, afraid and economically dependent on parents. And while their hormones are crying out for p*ssy, they haven’t gotten any real training social or otherwise, to attain the rites of passage that are usually precursors to them getting that p*ssy like a personality, a job, a car, a home of their own.
Girls may
seem like they are doing better but that’s only b/c they are participating in the work force at higher rates than previous generations.
But they still broke AND socially awkward too.
And when they DO make money…them chicks don’t know shyt about financial planning. They went to the same shytty schools as the boys did.
They are barely holding on, AND poorly managing the outrageous reproductive responsibility they have as females.
As a nation, we fail to train our youth. And they now they are failing us.
Solutions:
Educational reform
Quality early childhood programs
Quality life skills training curriculum
Social skills training
Professional development from grades 6-12.
And every student leaves school with skills and training needed to enter the workforce or a university with a CLEAR plan and funding source.
For whites this would be good.
For blks, this shyt is essential. I’m only who I am today b/c I was damn near systematically conditioned and trained for success.
because I don’t have a wife and kids 
