Because you don't want nobody in your business?
Married People: Do You Have Your Own Bank Account?
- Thread starter Poh SIti Dawn
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Why so?
BlvdBrawler
Superstar
Well you're married so you'd probably know better than I, but there's no possible way you can communicate every transaction, every expenditure up-front. And sometimes married partners want different things, so there's gonna be times that she spends money on things that I don't agree with. I feel, though, that if she has a job then she should be allowed to splurge on herself from time to time, as long as it doesn't compromise our overall financial state.
Anothergirl
Goat ™
why NOT have separate accounts tho? we're both responsible and trustworthy adults. as long as household bills are paid and there's at least ONE joint savings\investment account for future endeavors. i don't see what the problem is. not everyone with a separate account is plotting and scheming on how to cheat on or fukk over their S.O. ......my rents have been married for going on 35 years and they've ALWAYS had separate spending money\accounts as well as a joint account. some of y'all sounding like you have serious trust issues in here
I'm not talking about simple everyday purchases. I'm talking about big purchases, financial decisions, investments, ect. If you(not you necessarily) feel the need to hide something your doing with money, then your partner will feel betrayed when/if they find out what you did.
BlvdBrawler
Superstar
Well yea but I mean, you'd have to trust them.
I know it happens a lot in marriage which leads me to believe these people got married young or married idiots but if my wife went out and spent 40k on some bullshyt, I'm cutting her throat.
My neck and my back
All Star
it's so obvious at this point that it's females on here disguising themselves as male posters...bytches know they ain't never gettin married so they create a persona as the neutered married man of their dreams to cope with themselves
why NOT have separate accounts tho? we're both responsible and trustworthy adults. as long as household bills are paid and there's at least ONE joint savings\investment account for future endeavors. i don't see what the problem is. not everyone with a separate account is plotting and scheming on how to cheat on or fukk over their S.O. ......my rents have been married for going on 35 years and they've ALWAYS had separate spending money\accounts as well as a joint account. some of y'all sounding like you have serious trust issues in here
If you read more into the thread. I'm not talking about simple discretionary spending.
I'm talking about savings, investment, big purchases that you would like to keep away from your partner. And it's the ones who want the separate accounts with the trust issues. I don't scrutinize my wife's purchases as she doesn't scrutinize mine, I fully trust her to have access to my finances as she does with me. By keeping access to each others money we keep an open line of communication which is very important in a marriage. It's good to be on the same page and to know what each other are doing. Not from a jealous standpoint but from a standpoint of growing and building together.
Anothergirl
Goat ™
men don't always understand us women and our frivolous purchases here and there and as women we don't always understand their costly purchases regarding sports/car upgrades/electronics/guns and things like that. instead of having to explain and pour over every little thing we spend in a joint account and vice versa ....we just keep monthly spending money separate. as long as he's not spending it on women\cheating i don't care WHAT he chooses to spend it on
get your trust game up folks.
Anothergirl
Goat ™
who said anything about doing that? not me. we don't keep savings\investments or big purchases (anything over $1000) from each other.
You trust them to not hide 40k purchases like that. I'd much rather we talk it out and even if both don't approve at least there are no suprises.
that's what my post was about that you quoted
BlvdBrawler
Superstar
I mean, yea. Trust would be a big part of why I'd (theoretically) marry her. I do understand that a lot of couples have money problems from just these types of instances tho. And I'd wager that all of them would tell you after the fact "I trusted her" but
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ltheghost
Payin Debts.... N40
I know a couple dudes right now dealing with the shared account madness. I have a shared account too but I don't put my serious money in it. Shared account means it's shared and you can't complain about it. If you don't want her all in your money keep it in your personal account.
Playing with money brings out the OJ in nikkas..lol
Playing with money brings out the OJ in nikkas..lol
Anothergirl
Goat ™
No. nowhere in that post did you specify that. you said:
and i called BS.