Marriage rates are collapsing for lower income and middle income families

[Mr. Jack Napier]

it’s not real though. You can’t love and respect someone you’re lying to, cheating on, and exposing to life threatening illnesses.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

You preaching to the wrong people. The majority of this site is broke, unmotivated, dusty, socially awkward simps that are constantly looking for a bytch and can’t stand to be alone because their life serves no purpose

oh I agree 1000%

this world is literally jam packed with bytches of all demographics and cats are eager to lock down the first thing coming their way. Meanwhile these dudes could be working on themselves and turning into the kind of person who is worldly, cultured and people naturally want to be around.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

To the brehs who quoted me:

I have to put some things in perspective. When we went on our first date almost a year ago; I was in a relationship that I confessed about on our date.

She currently lives in another city. We’ve been on and off for the better of this courtship. I recently just broke up with another woman a few weeks ago and we just started talking again. We were just on the phone with each other for over 2 hours. I think I’m giving off an impression like I’ve been hounding this one woman for 6 months to a year and she’s giving me the run around. If anything, I keep resetting on us growing into what we are meant to be because I’m impatient and can’t chill. She’s moving back home so we’ll definitely be able to spend more time together then. I hope I cleared that up.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Spiritually has nothing to do with marriages declining though, it's not the reason people aren't getting married. Divorce courts will take your house, retirement 401k, and your business profits. How is it being selfish to protect something you worked so hard for? You want to bring up God, God gave all of that to you and human beings will take it away.

His point is if one discerns and listen to God then one doesn’t have to worry about that.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

That's a selfish way of thinking breh.

The most important part of the relationship is the spiritual part.
If you're worried about losing what you have to the woman YOU chose to marry then you weren't listening to the Lord.




You're going to make it more difficult on yourself if you don't come to terms with you have to listen to God and go the way that He says go.....Nobody is guaranteed that the person they marry is going to be perfect and that relationship won't end at some point.
Your relationship with God is more important. Otherwise, you're more than likely going to go from relationship to relationship trying to find something you only find in God. Getting deeper and deeper in debt and depression.

Message

 

[bnew]

How is a woman gonna be spiritually bonded with a man these days after fukking 10+ men?

what evidence do you have that women in the past where sexually transmitted diseases wasn't as rampant were less "virtuous" than the women of today?

 

[DrBanneker]

Someone could definitely do well providing that service.

It still doesn't solve the problem of women wanting men with a certain economic status they don't meet

I think the conflict lies in that women in general are becoming more educated than men. Universities tend to be majority female .With black women it's even more pronounced.

It's rough

I agree but I think part of the issue with finding men is how spread out everyone is. A lot of BW seem to have this feeling that every Black man of decent economic status has women throwing themselves at him or is dating out. Honestly, unless someone is living like a player in DMV or ATL or such, I have met a lot of educated BM who date BW that are having a hand time finding a good mate. They aren't demanding Sanaa Lathan or something it is just a lot more that goes into an ideal woman besides she is educated and has a job. I won't belabor this point but this is why I think matchmaking will help, just finding someone is hard even if they are out there.

Our most professional and educated members often work in predominantly White spaces. You could have two compatible people in the same building on two floors that never meet. Trust me, I am a high income earning BM that only dated BW my whole life, only about 20% of us are really living that player lifestyle.

Back to the article, every study I have seen shows that BM and BW marriage rates go up with income and education. So education isn't only a liability for BW. All things considered, though people claim women educate themselves to the point no man will want them, a BW that is high earning with a grad degree is much more likely to get hitched than someone with an associates degree or even just college. The affluent Blacks are getting married, though not at the rates of Whites, but the gulf with middle and lower income Black families is even wider.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

So it's all men's fault again.

Nobody is being blamed here... why are you so simple minded

 

[mamba]

Women don’t want Financial equality in a relationship.
That is why you see middle class marriages in decline

Facts. A woman wants a make who makes more, while at the same time calling for parity in pay.

 

[Scott Larock]

It's deeper than your financial situation. If you're unequally yoked spiritually, you will fail. I can guarantee it wasn't just the so-called stress from finances that broke up their previous marriages.

Being spiritually bonded improves your ability to pull through the difficulties of marriage. If everybody is selfish in that situation and looking out for themselves, then there is no chance. Which most people are selfish, so yeah.

I'll make it easier for people to understand your post.

Coming together when it's not about the money or stability, in other words, you put some good dikk on a woman and she literally gives you her life in return.

Most people won't last and look at how many wives aren't attracted to their husbands? A business mindset won't work in today's economy. Only the really blessed will prosper in this environment.

But yes, having a belief outside of money usually will pull the way.

I'm marrying Osama Bin Laden's daughter before I mess with an America sister looking for a man.

 

[Scott Larock]

I was listening to Zo Williams Mansions podcast & he had Djehuty Ma’at Ra on saying the same exact things your describing. Being equally yoked is important as hell.

Having a hobby outside of "getting money", anything two people can find time enjoying to do is a benefit.

I like to grab my rod and go to the pier to fish in the middle of the day, I see young couples there chillin catching fish. Stuff like that goes a long way.

Anything besides the typical... if everything involves money you got the wrong chick/husband.

CHurch, hobbies, whatever.... seeing married chicks in the hood, I respect the breh that was able to pull that off and still be lower income.

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

Just to throw it out there I have wondered if Black people, especially on the higher education and income end, would benefit from formal matchmaking like they did when I lived in Asia. Not online dating but professional (mostly women) that have dossiers and profiles of paying customers that they match up based on compatibility.

Preach!!!

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

I'm marrying Osama Bin Laden's daughter before I mess with an America sister looking for a man.

 

[Entropy Fan]

Facts. A woman wants a man who makes more, while at the same time calling for parity in pay.

Women are retarded. They want society to jump and sit at the same time and get mad when it doesn’t happen

 

[Nigerianwonder]

A lot of chicks these days just ain't wife material to be honest. They bring nothing to the table except a mountain of student loan debt. They are overweight, can't cook or clean and are looking at successful brehs as a come up. Child support and divorce can destroy a breh thats barely clinging to middle class status. Folks are right to be cautious these days.