TBH it's hard finding someone who is catered specifically to our own interests regardless without coming off like an a$$hole. Men want sex. Women want companionship and security.I agree with you online dating and social media is the worse way to meet people today. A lot of guys my age(even ones on this forum) use social media but unless you have all the physically desirable traits I just doesn't see how beneficial it can be. Online dating I signed up for once but immediately discontinued it because I knew it would be a waste of time at my height(5'5). Yes meeting people in real life is the best way. While some might consider it juvenile I prefer going out in the day to malls, grocery stores ect to try and find women. I know what I want from women I just wonder if I need to change how I communicate my interests or is it just a matter of finding a woman who will down for the same thing. That's my sticking point, I can be honest and direct but I'm still not getting the results I want. In my experience many young women(older women are better) equate honesty with "disrespect" or being "rude". I guess to them if you aren't Idris Elbra then you should walk on eggshells and apologize for wanting to have sex.
Us telling each other that "I just wanna fukk" or "You're dyck isn't getting anywhere near me, I just wanted some company" probably isn't going to work out no matter how good you look.
It's not that you have to walk on eggshells or apologize for ur needs. It's just that you have to have something the other person wants as well because they have to get something out of a person's presence and what we are offering isn't necessarily what they are interested in.
To be real, I've found that I only meet
Have you found it easier with non-blk women? I satirize IR dating because some blks are ridiculous when it comes to non-blks. But do U have more positive experiences? What were they like?