let's talk about one sided love

[#1 pick]

Till you meet the one, most relationships are one sided

 

[CinnaSlim]

Imagine that you have a magical kitchen in your home. In that magical kitchen, you can have any food you want from any place in the world in any quantity. You never worry about what to eat; whatever you wish for, you can have at your table. You are very generous with your food; you give your food unconditionally to others, not because you want something in return from them. Whoever comes to your home, you feed just for the pleasure of sharing your food, and your house is always full of people who come to eat the food from your magical kitchen.
Then one day someone knocks at your door, and it’s a person with a pizza. You open the door, and the person looks at you and says, “Hey, do you see this pizza? I’ll give you this pizza if you let me control your life, if you just do whatever I want you to do. You are never going to starve because I can bring pizza every day. You just have to be good to me.”

Can you imagine your reaction? In your kitchen you can have the same pizza – even better. Yet this person comes to you and offers you food, if you just do whatever he wants you to do. You are going to laugh and say, “No, thank you! I don’t need your food; I have plenty of food. You can come into my house and eat whatever you want, and you don’t have to do anything. Don’t believe I’m going to do whatever you want me to do. No one will manipulate me with food.”

Now imagine exactly the opposite. Several weeks have gone by, and you haven’t eaten. You are starving, and you have no money in your pocket to buy food. The person comes with the pizza and says, “Hey, there’s food here. You can have this food if you just do what I want you to do.” You can smell the food, and you are starving. You decide to accept the food and do whatever that person asks of you. You eat some food, and he says, “If you want more, you can have more, but you have to keep doing what I want you to do.”

You have food today, but tomorrow you may not have food, so you agree to do whatever you can for food. You can become a slave because of food, because you need food, because you don’t have it. Then after a certain time you have doubts. You say, “What am I going to do without my pizza? I cannot live without my pizza. What if my partner decides to give the pizza to someone else – my pizza?”

Now imagine that instead of food, we are talking about love. You have an abundance of love in your heart. You have love not just for yourself, but for the whole world. You love so much that you don’t need anyone’s love. You share your love without condition; you don’t love if. You are a millionaire in love, and someone knocks on your door and says, “Hey, I have love for you here. You can have my love, if you just do whatever I want you to do.”

When you are full of love, what is going to be your reaction? You will laugh and say, “Thank you, but I don’t need your love. I have the same love here in my heart, even bigger and better, and I share my love without condition.”

But what is going to happen if you are starving for love, if you don’t have that love in your heart, and someone comes and says, “You want a little love? You can have my love if you just do what I want you to do.” If you are starving for love, and you taste that love, you are going to do whatever you can for that love. You can even be so needy that you give your whole soul just for a little attention.

Your heart is like that magical kitchen. If you open your heart, you already have all the love you need. There’s no need to go around the world begging for love: “Please, someone love me, to prove that I’m worthy of love.” We have love right here inside us, but we don’t see this love.


--- from The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

 

[Uitomy]

I'm going through it right now. There was a brief spark but she half-assedly tried to shut it down, now the tension is thick in the air every time we hang out. We make dirty jokes and there's touching n shyt but she say she just wanna be friends. She's not super social so I'm one of her only real friends. She's legit smart, witty as fukk, sharp, not religious, looks genuinely beautiful, don't care about money, got a cute lil ass and isn't a thot or superprude.
SMH I might've found a good girl in an ocean of ultrathots and it's one sided

nikka same situation with me, and then she had the Gaul to tell me after her last relationship she wasn't trying to fukk with no one like that so I figured I'd let her have her time alone while marinating in her oool, she was supposed to come down here this summer I was gonna make my move then I literally would've had days with her but of course her lonely hormonal ass ended up caving and she got a rebound nikka, I can't even respect it cause he's a college drop out with a baby and a deep body count who BEGGED to date her and now ivebjust been on no contact but it's so hard, her guts getting rearranged and I'm here listening to sad rock songs. She's like the girl you described and she stimulates my fraternal instincts so I wanna provide protect and support her, and idk when my feelings will wane I feel fukked

 

[BlackStarLine]

Yes they are. I've been in a couple of one sided relationships. My last one being one of them

But eventually you get over it. The time passes like a prison sentence though. But it passes.

 

[Claudex]

Do you want to get banned from the salon again? You never change.

I obviously don't like you
Don't fukk with you
Don't care for you
Don't want to acknowledge your existence but you keep showing up in all my threads
Why is that?

I fukks with @Poitier. But I get it that you don't, so why don't you just put him in ignore? Honest question.

 

[EARFQUAKE]

I fukks with @Poitier. But I get it that you don't, so why don't you just put him in ignore? Honest question.

I already ignore him, his problem is that he doesn't know how to ignore me

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

I fukks with @Poitier. But I get it that you don't, so why don't you just put him in ignore? Honest question.

Don't put that in her head this beef too entertaining

 

[Claudex]

I already ignore him, his problem is that he doesn't know how to ignore me

A'ight ma. Back to the thread subject though...unrequited love taught me how to love, so I've got mixed feelings about it.

 

[m0rninggl0ry]

I'm very picky with whom I decide to open up to; if I feel like someone isn't reciprocating my feelings, I cut them off. I love hard (in regard to family, friendship and romantic relationships) but I'm also quick to let them go if the relationship isn't mutually satisfying; I'm trying to enjoy life to the best of my ability with people who love and care about me... I don't have time to waste on lopsided relationships.

I am the same way but don't you hate when you start to open up and the other person starts to fall back? Ugh. Worst fukking feeling. And men wonder why I'm a bytch.

 

[joeychizzle]

nikka same situation with me, and then she had the Gaul to tell me after her last relationship she wasn't trying to fukk with no one like that so I figured I'd let her have her time alone while marinating in her oool, she was supposed to come down here this summer I was gonna make my move then I literally would've had days with her but of course her lonely hormonal ass ended up caving and she got a rebound nikka, I can't even respect it cause he's a college drop out with a baby and a deep body count who BEGGED to date her and now ivebjust been on no contact but it's so hard, her guts getting rearranged and I'm here listening to sad rock songs. She's like the girl you described and she stimulates my fraternal instincts so I wanna provide protect and support her, and idk when my feelings will wane I feel fukked

ahh damn breh. a good one fell outta your grip

it's always the scumbag ass dirty dudes that get good chicks :bishopeddiemayne:
you gotta let her go my breh. when your feelings for her eventually do wane, distract the hell outta yourself and keep busy so that you don't let your mind wander into thinking about her :goddamnisaygoddamnmayne:

 

[Uitomy]

ahh damn breh. a good one fell outta your grip

it's always the scumbag ass dirty dudes that get good chicks :bishopeddiemayne:
you gotta let her go my breh. when your feelings for her eventually do wane, distract the hell outta yourself and keep busy so that you don't let your mind wander into thinking about her :goddamnisaygoddamnmayne:

I'm doing what I can, working, working out, playing video games again, bout to graduate college, I take solace in the fact the nikka got a kid and decided to drop (his excuse was tuition and to get a car but his lisence suspended, he's that dumb)


But I gotta keep my mind sharp cause she wlll come back after they inevitably end from cheating, I can't fall into the hole again hopefully I find someone before then, or at least be on my silent anime character shyt

 

[joeychizzle]

I'm doing what I can, working, working out, playing video games again, bout to graduate college, I take solace in the fact the nikka got a kid and decided to drop (his excuse was tuition and to get a car but his lisence suspended, he's that dumb)


But I gotta keep my mind sharp cause she wlll come back after they inevitably end from cheating, I can't fall into the hole again hopefully I find someone before then, or at least be on my silent anime character shyt

that dude is certified retarded that chick lost breh. DO NOT let her into your arms
it's easy to let that shyt slide and even justify it, don't get caught up. not saying #gmb but watch yaself breh

 

[ORDER_66]

Get a life....

 

[Uitomy]

that dude is certified retarded that chick lost breh. DO NOT let her into your arms
it's easy to let that shyt slide and even justify it, don't get caught up. not saying #gmb but watch yaself breh

I know, can't save em, she wants the thrill I want the chill, maybe in a few years she might grow up but I gotta charge it, it just pains me to see another black woman head down that path, and another brother who won't get his shyt straight, god bless us all