Let's Discuss Violence Against Black Women

[bcrusaderw]

I feel people don't look at underlying issues that some women have that find themselves in these positions. I honestly feel black women are the least protected. We are expected to be strong and take everything. Even in situations of abuse I feel some of us, still try to be strong and handle it ourselves.

Lack of examples of healthy relationships and what love really is. Looking for love they don't receive or think they are receiving. I have seen that even when their is a father present but its more rare in those cases. They aren't taught to love themselves or think they deserve better. Some women don't think they can be alone. Then there is no support system, especially when there are generations of no positive male figures in their life.

Another very important factor I haven't seen is the economic factor. Abuse is more prevalent in impoverished areas that also plays a role in what I mentioned above. Poverty or the hood doesn't = everything negative but it is more likely in those circumstances.

Like other problems in our community, it has to be fixed at a community level. Support systems, programs for young men and women to educate them and show them what love and self love is. So even if you come from a bad situation you have some examples. You wouldn't know how long some people go in some areas and never hear anything positive. There are already programs like that but we need more Some of these men have no examples themselves and are trying to be a man in a system designed to emasculate them. Not excusing behavior at all. I am just looking at all the causes.

Anyone saying choose better without holding the men accountable is trash. That's another people it use to be people didn't respect men like that. But now people look the other way. A lot of negative behaviors we as a community have allowed to flourish unchecked. It is a break down.

Not only that, but completely moronic. Your post was golden. Do you think something like therapy centers in impoverished communities might work, or perhaps getting to the young children?

 

[Raava]

Not only that, but completely moronic. Your post was golden. Do you think something like therapy centers in impoverished communities might work, or perhaps getting to the young children?

Thank you. I think both. There are a lot of issues in low income communities that can be helped with therapy/counseling. And yes a large portion of effort should go to younger children. If you can instill things in them early it will be easier to keep them on a certain path.

 

[wet landscapes]

These conversations are never fruitful or helpful.

I was trying

 

[Vilified not verified]

Do black woman even want the type of guy who would never hit a woman? Probably think he's "square" or "lame".

 

[bcrusaderw]

Do black woman even want the type of guy who would never hit a woman? Probably think he's "square" or "lame".

Perhaps there's just a higher instance of black men who would hit a woman as evidenced by our elevated rates of domestic violence.

Thank you. I think both. There are a lot of issues in low income communities that can be helped with therapy/counseling. And yes a large portion of effort should go to younger children. If you can instill things in them early it will be easier to keep them on a certain path.

It's so hard to entice health care professionals to come to impoverished areas because of low pay. I wonder what would be a good incentive.

 

[Raava]

It's so hard to entice health care professionals to come to impoverished areas because of low pay. I wonder what would be a good incentive.

I honestly don't know. I do know those that are willing to help certain people. You see them go on missions to other countries all the time when conditions in some cities are just as bad. But they don't see our communities over here as being in need and that is sad. It's acceptable over here.

I do think a good idea would be for healthcare systems to rotate doctors out to different clinics, they could get grants or tax breaks. I know that some do that already. But I think the issue with that, is making sure they actually care about the patients and it being enough health care workers. Being in that enviornment can burn a person out.

 

[Chill]

It's the way black women are viewed amongst black men. In a lot of individuals women are still viewed as inferior even being a part of the same community (hence black women and the double minority argument). We also have to redefine what exactly is considered being a man since a lot of reckless abusive shyt when it comes to handling women and relationships is attributed to "letting the man be a man". Once we can instill the mindset in kids that black women are equal and have strength and capability in themselves as well as black boys I feel a lot of the potential for domestic violence would go away.

 

[Vilified not verified]

If nice guys weren't looked down upon in our communities this wouldn't be such a widespread issue.

 

[Vilified not verified]

stop cavorting with aggressive negros

"That thug dikk though "

 

[bcrusaderw]

If nice guys weren't looked down upon in our communities this wouldn't be such a widespread issue.

Perhaps there aren't that many "nice guys" in our community. That would explain your violent stats. Not only that, but to pretend as if only thugs can be abusive is ridiculous AND false.

 

[Vilified not verified]

Perhaps there aren't that many "nice guys" in our community. That would explain your violent stats. Not only that, but to pretend as if only thugs can be abusive is ridiculous AND false.

Theirs not many nice guys because nice guys eventually learn the average black woman doesn't respect their none aggressive ways so they are forced to adapt and act like something they're are not.

 

[wet landscapes]

If nice guys weren't looked down upon in our communities this wouldn't be such a widespread issue.

please go make a thread in tlr about that instead of posting vague statements in a thread about women who are beaten by men
it's very frustrating to see an actual physical and psychological problem be reduced to attempts at a gendered slapfight
if you feel like women are responsible for domestic violence, that's fine, but you should have enough empathy to not come in a thread for women to discuss it without saying insulting things like "thug dikk".

 

[Vilified not verified]

please go make a thread in tlr about that instead of posting vague statements in a thread about women who are beaten by men
it's very frustrating to see an actual physical and psychological problem be reduced to attempts at a gendered slapfight
if you feel like women are responsible for domestic violence, that's fine, but you should have enough empathy to not come in a thread for women to discuss it without saying insulting things like "thug dikk".

You mean a thread like this? http://www.thecoli.com/threads/i-fi...never-shot-anybody-and-dont-hit-women.172811/

 

[wet landscapes]

You mean a thread like this? http://www.thecoli.com/threads/i-fi...never-shot-anybody-and-dont-hit-women.172811/

exactly, that's where statements like that belong

 

[Raava]

Not a nice guy = man who hits women? Nice = man who doens't beat women? I have known plenty of a$$holes who didn't beat women. That is so stupid.