I'm going thru this with my husband now. Going on married for 3 years and buddy done everything possible to break me emotionally. He says it's not his intentions but for some reason, it happens on his end. Now, for the past year, we've been in this hot & cold relationship where I have one foot out the door but.. because he's my husband and I keep it ingrained in my head that I need to work thru things, marriage is a series of challenges, its got me stuck. I have been doing what I can to fix but I feel so defeated, so tired. He says it's because I keep overreacting on everything when it's him not taking what he's done seriously. Now, in that year that it's been hot & cold, his personality changed drastically.
He's more considerate, he thinks before he speaks, he stopped disrespecting me but it's one of those "too late," kind of thing. He's done the changed AFTER I no longer care for it anymore. And still, he thinks because he gave me what I wanted, why do I still feel withdrawn from our relationship.
Recently, I moved out of state and he didn't come along. He's not very open to change. It's been 5 months and it's now he's planning to come up to me but at this point, I don't want him to. I tell him that all the time but he dismiss it as "you're just lonely, you're speaking out of loneliness," when I speak out of realizing I relationship was doomed from the start and I want it to end.
To be completely honest, main reason why I'm sticking my ground on him not to come here, & doing it over the phone, is because.... he's like my kryptonite. I know if he's here in person, I'll just end up falling back on my words and allowing him to join me here.
I've already reached that point which saddens me. It saddens me more that I'm too weak against him to just leave..
