Now that we've gotten the philosophical shyt out of the way, let's talk technique. Like the old saying goes, slow and steady wins the race. As the ladies have commented, that porn shyt is a waste of everyone's time. You need to make love to the p*ssy with your lips and tongue. Don't flick your shyt around, that's... weird... Lick slowly, but firmly. Don't be afraid to penetrate with your tongue. Fingers... that's a personal thing, ask your girl what she likes. Also, USE YOUR VOICE! Yes nikka your voice. Put your lips and tongue on the clit, then say some nasty shyt about how good she tastes in your deepest most booming voice. The vibrations will travel through your lips to her... she'll love it. If you sound like Urkel, skip this step, you need a certain frequency to pull this off. Use your strength to pin her arms or legs for a short time; women love to be taken control of.