Ladies: So my boy's been dealing with this chik for about 3 months and....

[cleanface coney]

omg this cant be a serious question

 

[Mike Ock]

Whats her backstory??

That determines somewhat the issue....

And is she black,spanish,etc?

She black, west indian.

 

[Lana Kane]

Why should breh get a passive aggressive feminist answer that will end causing his homeboy to even have a worse chance at hitting it

 

[Yinny]

exactly. I think her kid is like 5 or 6, and dude done met her mom and shyt. I just be in my head when he be talking about her.

I wasn't being serious. She actually could be trying to make sure they're compatible and can work at something. She has nerve though, 3 whole months./sarcasm

 

[Rocket Scientist]

He a backup

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Wait she got a kid and wont smash?

that's like a bytch telling u , you cant use her bathroom and tells you to piss in a bucket instead

 

[360dagod]

exactly. I think her kid is like 5 or 6, and dude done met her mom and shyt. I just be in my head when he be talking about her.

 

[tru_m.a.c]

he's 31 and she's 32....She already has a kid, so she's damn sure ready and it's a local thing.

What? How does this make sense. Let's pause this situation for a second and flip this thing.

If she was your sister/cousin, and she was a single mother, would you be asking her, "why ain't you putting out after 3 months of talking to some guy."

Because essentially, thats all your nikka is right now. He's some guy. He's not special. 3 months is a blink. She's a single mother. Stability is more important to her than flash in the pan ass relationships. She has a child to feed.

Your homie still hurt over his ex right? She's a SINGLE.MOTHER. Let that sauté real quick.

She ain't smash after 3 months? Applaud that woman. Wait, what the fukk is up with you nikkas and talking to women with kids. that shyt is so dumb to me. You know you're just in it to smash. Why waste her time and her kids time? One of y'all has to break this down to me. How do you "deal" with a single mother, with 0 intentions of making it a serious relationship?

Disclaimer: I say all of this with the belief your homie ain't pick up some bird.

 

[Mike Ock]

I wasn't being serious. She actually could be trying to make sure they're compatible and can work at something. She has nerve though, 3 whole months./sarcasm

see, I don't buy that. A dude is gonna try and build with a chik if he really likes her regardless how fast he hit.

 

[Astroslik]

depends on how often he saw the chick in between those 3 months

if it was like once every two weeks or some shyt its not an L yet

 

[Yinny]

see, I don't buy that. A dude is gonna try and build with a chik if he really likes her regardless how fast he hit.

Eh, don't get me to explaining how dudes operate. I'm not saying she's making sure he won't hit and run, I'm literally saying she may not feel comfortable sharing herself with him like that just yet- she may have certain expectations (a relationship basically) BEFORE doing the do. She obviously is feeling him out in that way to have met her mom, so his best bet would be to talk to her about it instead of assuming things.

3 months is not a long time at all.

 

[Mike Ock]

What? How does this make sense. Let's pause this situation for a second and flip this thing.

If she was your sister/cousin, and she was a single mother, would you be asking her, "why ain't you putting out after 3 months of talking to some guy."

Because essentially, thats all your nikka is right now. He's some guy. He's not special. 3 months is a blink. She's a single mother. Stability is more important to her than flash in the pan ass relationships. She has a child to feed.

Your homie still hurt over his ex right? She's a SINGLE.MOTHER. Let that sauté real quick.

She ain't smash after 3 months? Applaud that woman. Wait, what the fukk is up with you nikkas and talking to women with kids. that shyt is so dumb to me. You know you're just in it to smash. Why waste her time and her kids time? One of y'all has to break this down to me. How do you "deal" with a single mother, with 0 intentions of making it a serious relationship?

Disclaimer: I say all of this with the belief your homie ain't pick up some bird.

How about we not.

Oh, and I never met her. I just saw a pic and goes by what dude tells me. My other boy met her and said she was acting real funny and was trying to boss my boy(the dude thread is about) around.

 

[AZBeauty]

3 months is a long time?

 

[tru_m.a.c]

How about we not.

Oh, and I never met her. I just saw a pic and goes by what dude tells me. My other boy met her and said she was acting real funny and was trying to boss my boy(the dude thread is about) around.

well I mean save that nikka some time and money and tell him to get a chick without children

seriously, I don't understand the mind state of someone without kids, actively pursuing someone with kids

And you gotta be more specific about "acting real funny" and "bossing your boy."

 

[360dagod]

She black, west indian.

She is black with west Indian and she likes to boss nikkas around..and she has a child...

Symptoms of a strong black woman...

In other words tell that nikka to leave that alone...

That is a domestic violence case waiting to happen..

And he has no kids?

He should just let it go if she looking for long term