Ladies, how'd you get comfortable in your sexuality?

[Rawtid]

I'm still not comfortable which is why I think I won't orgasm. I think about way too much shyt. That's one reason why I want to lose weight, I think it will help with my insecurities.

 

[bcrusaderw]

just being around and open to sexual things helps
I get where you're coming from (I've got a bit of a purity complex myself lol) but when you immerse yourself in sexuality (and not just porn, just people being open about theirs), it turns sex from this big huge important thing to this normal act that is as a part of being human as breathing

don't attach personality attributes to yourself or others for the sexual things they may or may not do

virginity is just not having sex yet, don't let it turn into an identity or a barrier you use to separate yourself from others

I struggle immensely with this.

 

[wet landscapes]

I struggle immensely with this.

release your inner hoe

 

[KinksandCoils]

Seriously don't be embarrassed that you're a virgin. That's a good thing. You don't have to go around announcing it if you don't want to. If it's brought up just be proud that you are. When people see that a person is not ashamed they can't make fun of you. If someone asks you and you look like you're ashamed your giving room for them to run their mouth. You should be very proud you're a virgin. Temptation and peer pressure is tough. My first time I felt pressured.

I got comfortable with my sexuality because I've only slept with people I've loved. I've never just slept with someone who I didn't care about. Also people talk about sex 24/7 so I don't need to be shy about it.


I have no reason to be embarrassed by my sexuality because if someone calls me a hoe I look at it as just something to say when you're mad they have no bases for it. I've only slept with 4 people. I started at 18 and I'm 25 now.

 

[Giselle]

I'm a virgin, and I don't care what people have to say about it. If I was a hoe, I wouldn't care either. People's opinions about that don't matter to me.

I don't go around telling every one though. The only person I would tell I'm a virgin to is the person who I'm going to fck first. Unless someone asks me, then I tell them, but I don't think most people ask people how many people they fcked unless they're dating/in a relationship.

 

[KOOL-AID]

never knew females judge one another for bein virgins like dudes do, seems weird tbh. I wouldn't stress it, just wait until your ready no need to conform to society's retarded standards.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Don't be ashamed op
I was a virgin till 25..not by choice but I couldn't get girls to my bed



Fast forward now I'm a whore

 

[LadySimone]

Get married then divorced.

 

[Mac Brown]

I'm a virgin, and I don't care what people have to say about it. If I was a hoe, I wouldn't care either. People's opinions about that don't matter to me.

I don't go around telling every one though. The only person I would tell I'm a virgin to is the person who I'm going to fck first. Unless someone asks me, then I tell them, but I don't think most people ask people how many people they fcked unless they're dating/in a relationship.

Haven't you admitted to liking anal sex more than vaginal?

 

[Taadow]

This is something that I've struggled with for a while and still kinda do sometimes when negative thoughts creep up in my head. As many of you know I'm a virgin but this is the only place I've been very open about it. When there are a group of girls having girl talk, I kinda shy away from it bc I know the topic is gonna be brought up some way and I'm afraid to be judged. And it doesn't even have to be that, I feel like in every social situation sex gets brought up either directly or a round about way.
For example, I remember my roommates and I were watching the bachelorette and one of their guy friends was their. If you watched the show last season, you'd know that there was a virgin on there.
But anyways, the guy friend goes " she's not a real virgin, she probably suck'd a couple dikks"
then my roommates, who know that I'm a virgin started laughing and saying things like "i know right"
I didn't take it personal but I did find them to be somewhat insensitive bc let's not act like that's not a popular opinion about present day virgins and even though they were not laughing about me, I still felt judged.
Another situation, I remember I made a post about virginity and feminism on my ig and I had it up for a while. I then became acquaintances with a group of girls I was working with ad we exchanged igs but before I followed them I deleted the post for fear of being judged.
It's like a lot of days, I wish I wasn't a virgin not bc of lack of experience but just a fear of not being treated normal.
Add on to the fact that I've had guy friends tell me straight to my face that I'm gonna be single for the rest of my life

No lady, but:

- People are gonna judge you no matter what. Then what? Is the sky gonna fall (no.)?
You scared. Stop being so skerry. You'sa grown ass woman.
If you've been a virgin for this long, you must think it's a good idea. So don't let how somebody else might feel
punk you 'bout yo' Crip (lol).

- I find it queer (pause) that you seem to be more concerned about what women think about your virginity
than men. What da drilly wit' dat doe (rhetorical)?

- What would be so wrong with being single for the rest of your life?

- no one is "normal". We are all different, and I wish more folks would realize this and stop trying to fit their size 8 foot in a size 6 shoe.

 

[Aceofspades404]

No lady, but:

- People are gonna judge you no matter what. Then what? Is the sky gonna fall (no.)?
You scared. Stop being so skerry. You'sa grown ass woman.
If you've been a virgin for this long, you must think it's a good idea. So don't let how somebody else might feel
punk you 'bout yo' Crip (lol).

- I find it queer (pause) that you seem to be more concerned about what women think about your virginity
than men. What da drilly wit' dat doe (rhetorical)?

- What would be so wrong with being single for the rest of your life?

- no one is "normal". We are all different, and I wish more folks would realize this and stop trying to fit their size 8 foot in a size 6 shoe.

I'm not more concerned about women, it's just that I interact with them more on a daily basis and women have the tendency to be more malicious to each other. I've been called every name in the book all bc a guy liked me so you could imagine what them knowing I'm a virgin would do.
and also, I didn't say there was anything wrong with being single for the rest of my life, it's just I've had guy friends use that as a way to taunt and pressure me which I don't think is cool.

 

[Taadow]

I'm not more concerned about women, it's just that I interact with them more on a daily basis and women have the tendency to be more malicious to each other. I've been called every name in the book all bc a guy liked me so you could imagine what them knowing I'm a virgin would do.
and also, I didn't say there was anything wrong with being single for the rest of my life, it's just I've had guy friends use that as a way to taunt and pressure me which I don't think is cool.

Why do you hang with these people? /why are they your "friends"???

 

[Aceofspades404]

Why do you hang with these people? /why are they your "friends"???

lol the first part is from ppl I don't really know and the guys , I don't really talk to that much any more.

 

[Taadow]

lol the first part is from ppl I don't really know and the guys , I don't really talk to that much any more.

So why you trippin' off opinions of ppl you don't really know and people you don't talk to that much anymore?


Do you read your sig, or just skim through it?



I'm not trying to bust on you, i'm just saying...fucc it, i'll let Mary say it:

How can you, love somebody else
if you can't, love yourself enough to know
when it's time - time to let GOOOO-OH-OH-OOOOOOOOO-ooh-woh-oooh-whoa-oooooooooo? Sang.

 

[Aceofspades404]

So why you trippin' off opinions of ppl you don't really know and people you don't talk to that much anymore?


Do you read your sig, or just skim through it?

oh I really don't care what ppl have to say about me, it's when it interferes with my life it becomes a problem and it has so that's why I'm like this.