Kids Truly Are a Gift and a Curse

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

I swear I was just thinking something similar last night.

People who don’t have children will never get it. I don’t regret my children and I love them more than anything in this world. I’d die for them without a second thought. However, knowing what I know now I’d probably have made better decisions in my younger years. I’d want the same children…just maybe at a slightly older age and with a lot more preparation.

Parenthood is not for the weak.

Edit: I will say this though. Me getting pregnant at 18 with my first child was definitely a gift and a curse. It was hard as hell and still is sometimes but he’s now a teenager and is a Godsend when it comes to his siblings. He has kept me from pulling my hair out so many days.

Believe me sis I don't have children and I get it. I've never looked at parenting with envy. Got my tubes snipped just to avoid the pleasure. I would have actually preferred to have kids early than middle aged. Like you indeed some benefits in it. I know dudes my age with toddlers and others with teens.

 

[Mowgli]

“priveleges”

Well what do you know. 2 weeks without gaming this boy wrote a book report about his reading assignment and knocked the math out the park.

Why do I have to be the bad guy for results. Being the ok son let's be a model family and do your assignments together every night get you treated like a sucker

 

[BaldingSoHard]

I’m not your mother, Breh. Go work that out with her and a good therapist.




No where in anything that I said did I even infer that I hated being a parent. Literally all I said was that I wish I would have waited a couple more years until I was more mature and financially stable. Point. Blank. Period.

Y’all have some serious Mommy issues. If you don’t want to be a parent that’s well and fine but it has nothing to do with me or anything I said.

It was an intentionally hyperbolic aggregate paraphrasing of the stories I've heard over the years. Keep in mind, you also never said you'd fight a flaming grizzly bear.

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

I could've told you you were gonna get these responses

 

[old pig]

My children will rule the world once they’re born and of age.
A song of ice and fire. The night is dark and full of terrors

gonna be a song of piss and shyt when it’s time to change those diapers

 

[ThaBronxBully]

Having Kids Is No Different Than Going To College, Owning A Home, Getting Married

If You’re Not Prepared To The Best Of Your Ability And Prepared For It, You’re Gonna Pay The Consequences Of Your Actions

Life Lesson, Before Taking On Huge Tasks Like Creating Another Human Being Who Depends On You, Be Ready To The Best Of Your Ability

 

[UpAndComing]

I'm not here to bash children but I've seen many threads on here from people questioning whether or not they want to have kids someday. I'm a realistic guy. My opinions are based in reality only and not ignorant optimism. Hear my tale:

I've mentioned on here earlier this week that I've been sick with a bad strain of the flu. I've never had a flu virus riddle my body the way this one has. Diarrhea, insomnia, loss of appetite, dehydration, fevers peaking at 104F, body aches, migraines, chills. Everything. Excruciating.

I got sick from my youngest son who more than likely caught it from another kid at school. The doctor pulled me from work for 5 days. A entire weeks pay gone. That shyt will hurt. I'm on the down end of it now finally and so is my son but here's the other problem. I got 2 sons. And my eldest son is more than likely gonna end up getting sick from his brother which means me and /or my wife will have to miss more days again. Even though we tried to keep them apart, it's impossible with two toddlers.

Its scenerios like these I wish the ogs would've laid out for me back before I had children. They always say kids are a blessing, they enhance your life. And that is true but the opposite is true as well. They are a curse at times and drain you.

Next week, my typical 45 hour work days will likely increase to 50 just so I can catch up. I will have to pull some extra OT because my sons bday is in 2 weeks and I'll be damned if I don't make sure he gets everything he wants.

I was not ready to be a father financially. I fukked up twice. Do not make the same mistakes I made. It really has ruined my life and trapped me on a treadmill of despair and defeat.

2 things can be true at once. Kids are a gift and a curse.

Well there you go, there's your answer

 

[BunchePark]

Man take them babies out for some ice cream tonight it's Friday

Are they doing trunk or treat at the school?

Do something as a family this weekend and keep that vibe tight

Start to plot your come up...

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

I'm not here to bash children but I've seen many threads on here from people questioning whether or not they want to have kids someday. I'm a realistic guy. My opinions are based in reality only and not ignorant optimism. Hear my tale:

I've mentioned on here earlier this week that I've been sick with a bad strain of the flu. I've never had a flu virus riddle my body the way this one has. Diarrhea, insomnia, loss of appetite, dehydration, fevers peaking at 104F, body aches, migraines, chills. Everything. Excruciating.

I got sick from my youngest son who more than likely caught it from another kid at school. The doctor pulled me from work for 5 days. A entire weeks pay gone. That shyt will hurt. I'm on the down end of it now finally and so is my son but here's the other problem. I got 2 sons. And my eldest son is more than likely gonna end up getting sick from his brother which means me and /or my wife will have to miss more days again. Even though we tried to keep them apart, it's impossible with two toddlers.

Its scenerios like these I wish the ogs would've laid out for me back before I had children. They always say kids are a blessing, they enhance your life. And that is true but the opposite is true as well. They are a curse at times and drain you.

Next week, my typical 45 hour work days will likely increase to 50 just so I can catch up. I will have to pull some extra OT because my sons bday is in 2 weeks and I'll be damned if I don't make sure he gets everything he wants.

I was not ready to be a father financially. I fukked up twice. Do not make the same mistakes I made. It really has ruined my life and trapped me on a treadmill of despair and defeat.

2 things can be true at once. Kids are a gift and a curse.

Damn my nikka. This shyt is crucial. My thing in life is sometimes nikkax could get by with one but it’s the multiple kids that bury you. You have a wife and y’all battling with just two…imagine being dolo with like 4-5 like some people! I’ve always felt like “kids” are the undoing of so many nikkax

 

[maxamusa]

I’m not your mother, Breh. Go work that out with her and a good therapist.




No where in anything that I said did I even infer that I hated being a parent. Literally all I said was that I wish I would have waited a couple more years until I was more mature and financially stable. Point. Blank. Period.

Y’all have some serious Mommy issues. If you don’t want to be a parent that’s well and fine but it has nothing to do with me or anything I said.

nah I'm good....tried to share something to give you insight and allow you to make a choice to use your words with idk...more empathy?


ignore free game from a perspective you don't understand if u want....good luck with you and yours.