Kids Truly Are a Gift and a Curse

[Hathaway]

I'm not here to bash children but I've seen many threads on here from people questioning whether or not they want to have kids someday. I'm a realistic guy. My opinions are based in reality only and not ignorant optimism. Hear my tale:

I've mentioned on here earlier this week that I've been sick with a bad strain of the flu. I've never had a flu virus riddle my body the way this one has. Diarrhea, insomnia, loss of appetite, dehydration, fevers peaking at 104F, body aches, migraines, chills. Everything. Excruciating.

I got sick from my youngest son who more than likely caught it from another kid at school. The doctor pulled me from work for 5 days. A entire weeks pay gone. That shyt will hurt. I'm on the down end of it now finally and so is my son but here's the other problem. I got 2 sons. And my eldest son is more than likely gonna end up getting sick from his brother which means me and /or my wife will have to miss more days again. Even though we tried to keep them apart, it's impossible with two toddlers.

Its scenerios like these I wish the ogs would've laid out for me back before I had children. They always say kids are a blessing, they enhance your life. And that is true but the opposite is true as well. They are a curse at times and drain you.

Next week, my typical 45 hour work days will likely increase to 50 just so I can catch up. I will have to pull some extra OT because my sons bday is in 2 weeks and I'll be damned if I don't make sure he gets everything he wants.

I was not ready to be a father financially. I fukked up twice. Do not make the same mistakes I made. It really has ruined my life and trapped me on a treadmill of despair and defeat.

2 things can be true at once. Kids are a gift and a curse.

 

[Mowgli]

Who you tellin.

My sons school gives them a lot of classwork and little homework. This boy couldn't do a damn page of math and a reading assignment.

He's now lost gaming priveleges for 2 weeks. And if he still disobeys it will be for a month. Then 2 months then 4 months. then the rest of the year.

Haw man I hope he makes it. Defiance will Not be tolerated.

 

[BlueHeffner]

Kids arent a curse


Its called sacrifice. Its what adults do

 

[RaspberryFitted]

so your children are a curse just cause they got you sick?

 

[maxamusa]

you really on a rollercoaster man I swear...that theraflu got u in your feels

 

[Boujee Bonita Braxton]

I swear I was just thinking something similar last night.

People who don’t have children will never get it. I don’t regret my children and I love them more than anything in this world. I’d die for them without a second thought. However, knowing what I know now I’d probably have made better decisions in my younger years. I’d want the same children…just maybe at a slightly older age and with a lot more preparation.

Parenthood is not for the weak.

Edit: I will say this though. Me getting pregnant at 18 with my first child was definitely a gift and a curse. It was hard as hell and still is sometimes but he’s now a teenager and is a Godsend when it comes to his siblings. He has kept me from pulling my hair out so many days.

 

[ba'al]

#VasectomyGang #NoChitlins

 

[Black Mamba]

My children will rule the world once they’re born and of age.
A song of ice and fire. The night is dark and full of terrors

 

[Kasgoinjail]

No I love my children with all my heart and would gladly give my life for any one of them

Sometimes just take your medication and be grateful you still alive to tuck them in to bed at night

If anything happened to them you would be besides yourself...

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

That’s a messed up reasoning lmao. Adults can get you sick too so it’s like eh that’s bogus to come to this conclusion this way.

But I agree. I’ve seen my pops go through it with my siblings and my uncles and aunts lose their shyt because of my cousins.

Kids can be bad, insecure, and expensive af. I bet that’s mentally taxing no matter how much you love them.

 

[ba'al]

On a somewhat unrelated note. There are forums and social media groups called "regretful parents". And it gives you insight into a viewpoint that's often not expressed in real life because I guess they fear the pushback they would get for it. And I heard that postpartum shyt some women go through be hittting em like a ton of bricks to the dome. Giving them a lot of demonic thoughts.

 

[Billie Jean]

I only want one

 

[YaThreadFloppedB!]

Who you tellin.

My sons school gives them a lot of classwork and little homework. This boy couldn't do a damn page of math and a reading assignment.

He's now lost gaming priveleges for 2 weeks. And if he still disobeys it will be for a month. Then 2 months then 4 months. then the rest of the year.

Haw man I hope he makes it. Defiance will Not be tolerated.

t-t-the p-prince that was p-p-promised

 

[Reflected]

The general populous is just not informed on the weight of bringing children into the world, but the modern nations rely on a workforce in order to thrive, it's why you see countries getting desperate with immigration as their population replacement numbers dwindle. So we need workers to maintain the economy, thus little incentives towards producing an educated population that will, as we note in other developed countries, steer away from manual labor and entry work to move towards entrepreneurship, office jobs, and professional careers.


Just note the difference in rearing between each tax bracket, the rich rear their kids to employ the other kids, or rear them towards professional careers, such as academics, law, medicine, etc, careers that have historically excluded the lower and even middle class due to the underlying requirements both financial and social that are extremely beneficial when pursuing such fields.

So the average worker in America is less likely to pursue education, less likely to be politically active, less likely to be politically informed, less likely to acquire ownership, less likely to be financially responsible. It's a cycle that is seemingly never ending without a significant intervention, don't fall for the outliers that make it out, they are outliers. Social mobility in America is trash, thus, one is more likely to remain in the tax bracket they were born into, as opposed to leaving it and moving upwards.


Simply put, you aren't supposed to think opposite, nations make more sense when you look at everyone participating as numbers or cogs in the machine. The average human is to keep their head down distracted with work and rearing, in survival mode, the pleasantries that you can partake in, consumerism, that's there so you leap from a building or decide to get serious about structural reform.


And I'm not suggesting a cabal of controllers, it's just the way things have fallen into place and what has become normalized, what it would take to change this is the majority recognizing their leverage in the system, but like I said, that same group is also the least, statistically, to do anything about it.

Who you tellin.

My sons school gives them a lot of classwork and little homework. This boy couldn't do a damn page of math and a reading assignment.

He's now lost gaming priveleges for 2 weeks. And if he still disobeys it will be for a month. Then 2 months then 4 months. then the rest of the year.

Haw man I hope he makes it. Defiance will Not be tolerated.

Can you afford a tutor? Unless your kid is going to a private school, the classrooms are big, they only suit kids that were reared to seek knowledge, the rest just float on and eventually graduate lacking an understanding in vital areas.

Ironically this plays into what I was describing above. How many here have kids not doing so well in school? What do you do about it? Go examine the academic approach for rearing between tax brackets, another startling discovery.

 

[maxamusa]

I swear I was just thinking something similar last night.

People who don’t have children will never get it. I don’t regret my children and I love them more than anything in this world. I’d die for them without a second thought. However, knowing what I know now I’d probably have made better decisions in my younger years. I’d want the same children…just maybe at a slightly older age and with a lot more preparation.

Parenthood is not for the weak.

Edit: I will say this though. Me getting pregnant at 18 with my first child was definitely a gift and a curse. It was hard as hell and still is sometimes but he’s now a teenager and is a Godsend when it comes to his siblings. He has kept me from pulling my hair out so many days.

hope your young 1 don't post on here. that shyt would break his heart. I was young when I bred my first one. Manned TF up and got it done AND some