Kevin Samuels Discussion Thread

[TRUEST]

Breh... I also work in IT... I'm a network engineer. So all of your "I can tell..." is unnecessary.

When anyone says moving up in their career, they mean climbing the latter. If you can skip management and go straight to partner, well there you go. If you can skip being an employee and straight to being your own boss, well there you go. But OWNERSHIP would be the ultimate goal. Whether owning your own company that prospers through bigger and bigger contracts... Or working for a company and prospering by gaining an ownership stake in that company. Either way, you're going to run into people. The man who wants his entire company ran by yours, is still going to want to meet you and see what you're about, before trusting you with a multi million dollar contract. Once you ace that, the next man is going to want to meet you, even though you proved you can do it, he needs to see if you're a nice fit with him...

If you aren't looking to go up in money, power, ownership, then you aren't going anywhere but sideways. If I'm still a network engineer in 15 years, I've failed. I haven't used my skill set to get in any better job role. I may have made more money as time went on, but I'm in the same ass job, for 15 years. That's why the title says CAREER. Yes you can prosper FINANCIALLY. No it doesn't have to be management. Although being a CEO is just another form of management, you just manage your own company. At some point, do you want to be in charge or being told what to do?


I do respect that you stand firm in belief though. I'm not at all saying you're wrong for not doing it. I only disagree that it's a better tactic to succeed by not doing it

from this particular post, it appears u do get it. I just happen to believe my way is the best and anything short of that is only permissible if and only if your goal in life is to be the best employee.

in the case of ol girl who says her involvement helped get her husband a promotion, my complete disapproval of that declaration isn't without reason. That statement tells me she's the type of woman where, if her and dude ever got divorced, she would fight tooth and nail to get a larger share of his income, really believing she played a pivotal role in him acquiring it. Never mind that he probably spent years going to school to obtain the skills. Never mind the years he put in on the job to learn the ways of the company. Nevermind that. It is WHEN SHE APPEARED that all of a sudden he became worthy of a promotion.

I mean. i dont think i can stress this enough. It's behaviors like this, and statements like that, when left unchecked, leads to much bolder claims in the future: "you are nothing without me. if it wasn't for me, you wouldn't have gotten that job.". And then you wonder why men get fuccked up in the court systems.

but back to the original basis of this thread. No, i dont believe any job worth having will hold back recognition or advancement of a deserving individual because he lacks a wife.

 

[the bossman]

Breh... I also work in IT... I'm a network engineer. So all of your "I can tell..." is unnecessary.

When anyone says moving up in their career, they mean climbing the latter. If you can skip management and go straight to partner, well there you go. If you can skip being an employee and straight to being your own boss, well there you go. But OWNERSHIP would be the ultimate goal. Whether owning your own company that prospers through bigger and bigger contracts... Or working for a company and prospering by gaining an ownership stake in that company. Either way, you're going to run into people. The man who wants his entire company ran by yours, is still going to want to meet you and see what you're about, before trusting you with a multi million dollar contract. Once you ace that, the next man is going to want to meet you, even though you proved you can do it, he needs to see if you're a nice fit with him...

If you aren't looking to go up in money, power, ownership, then you aren't going anywhere but sideways. If I'm still a network engineer in 15 years, I've failed. I haven't used my skill set to get in any better job role. I may have made more money as time went on, but I'm in the same ass job, for 15 years. That's why the title says CAREER. Yes you can prosper FINANCIALLY. No it doesn't have to be management. Although being a CEO is just another form of management, you just manage your own company. At some point, do you want to be in charge or being told what to do?


I do respect that you stand firm in belief though. I'm not at all saying you're wrong for not doing it. I only disagree that it's a better tactic to succeed by not doing it

I swear you can't tell an in-demand IT nikka shyt . And it's so easy to fall into that trap. You at the top of your game, your skill set is in demand for the time being and so they paying you top dollar. You start to think your God's gift to businesses. You don't need to talk to nobody or play the game. You start thinking your entire career will be this easy forever. Fast forward 15 years. all of a sudden those languages or systems you were so proficient in are outdated, another recession hits. Now companies are downsizing, and they start going after the highest paid nikkas first. Now you sweating, 50 years old sitting in a class with a bunch of cocky 25-year old nikkas younger faster while you struggling to learn the newest coding language

 

[Crude]

Picking the right woman is probably in the single most important top 3-4 things a man can do in his life; however, I don't agree with this statement.

There are plenty of men that do well for themselves and do not have a spouse.

I think having a spouse is important, but I see the other end of the spectrum as well. That is that love takes time and attention. That means less time and attention to devote to whatever your craft or dream might be.

Depending on the man and his level of discipline that ish can make a man lose his edge if he isn't firmly grounded.

 

[ogc163]

The spectrum stereotypes attributed to tech and IT brehs are on full display in this thread...j/k lol.

But the counterarguments to Kev's statement are pretty weak and it shows that a lot of cats are in denial or ignorant about the game they are playing. And just because one acknowledges parts of the game doesn't necessarily mean one agrees with the underlying values, but a cost/benefit analysis usually leads one to conclude that playing the game is the best way forward. Further, corporate life is a competition and meritocracy is pushed on the surface and is what's obvious, but likability is the other part of the game and is usually implicit. And so, I would suggest shifting one's perspective about likability vs. meritocracy in the workplace.

 

[Ahadi]

230K in debt & 2K in credit card debt

 

[Ahadi]

What age they expect you to be married?

I don’t think there’s an expectation. The common range is 28 - 35 tho.

Being young & married is a good look for execs tho. It’s a good talking point, along with sports & stocks.

“How are the kids?”
”Any vacation plans with the family?”

 

[ogc163]

What age they expect you to be married?

Usually before 35

 

[RubioTheCruel]

Never thought of that

It's an old trick a lot of talk radio shows did, canned callers with scripts to work off that the hosts riff off. Same soup, just reheated.

That Radio Show ‘Listener’ Calling In? He May Be an Actor | TIME.com

 

[Adebisi_Said]

They roasting him on the other board

What is Kevin Samuels on? Who listens to this dating "advice"?

 

[Rocket Scientist]

It's an old trick a lot of talk radio shows did, canned callers with scripts to work off that the hosts riff off. Same soup, just reheated.

That Radio Show ‘Listener’ Calling In? He May Be an Actor | TIME.com

yep wouldn't be surprised in his case

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

He should provide more context . I can say ive been approached by a few men's wives before that made more money than I did but wasn't broke. If you ask most people that are married if they partner is the best sex they have ever had the answer most times will be no . That's why you see cases were a women that is married will sleep with the pool boy or the personal trainer . Money is important but it doesn't necessarily get the panties wet . Matter of fact if a chic says you have to take her out or spend a certain amount of money she dont like you like that . Move on to another women. SEX is very important .

That doesn't mean the sex isn't good tho...... if that's what people are looking for, you will always find someone who surpasses a past lover/encounter if you try hard enough.... yall got this shyt twisted.... and it goes both ways btw

 

[Ahadi]

This girl is delusional

 

[JT-Money]

This chick is giving me a headache.

 

[Ahadi]

This chick is giving me a headache.

Tooooo long on her. She’s definitely a Shea butter feminist. Gotta be in control all the time and has a mouth. But she gives the box up to Pookie or another “NFL player”

 

[JT-Money]

Tooooo long on her. She’s definitely a Shea butter feminist. Gotta be in control all the time and has a mouth. But she gives the box up to Pookie

Chick probably been ran through already and just mad. Ain't no high value man gonna put up with her mouth and attitude longer than a few minutes before saying NEXT!!!