This is sad, but it’s the truth.
Man, the more I have conversations with my married father the more grim it starts to become for me. My father recently told me of how she tried to take things in her own hands when it came to my baby brother, and disregard everything he was trying to teach. Went and got him a credit card, and he was trying to shield my brother from that and have him build his credit. What ended up happening was he had to bail the both of them out and pay to fix shyt. He told me how at that moment he just wanted to leave the house and never return. That opened up my eyes a ton, so I felt you when you said sane black men end up getting driven to insanity. Man, I don’t want that, but society has made it to where you can’t tell people anything.
He has protected my mother from all of what this world brings, and she tried to go against it because she felt bad for my brother and wanted him to have some spending money
the biggest thing is seeing how sooooo many Black men have died early working themselves to literal death for folks who forget them once the life insurance check clears. I personally said enough is enough. I rather it all burn down on my terms than to not learn from what the men before me went through. Folks keep thinking this is about getting sex and incels and nah, them cats are non factors. The brehs who have their ish together and who could literally get married within a month are the ones saying it aint even worth it. We dealing with folks tooooo damaged PLUS laws that are insane. I joked about it but we damn near entering the phase where well to do men will just get surrogates like Ronaldo for kids and just maintain girlfriends.