Look, You're going to be afraid. Do it anyway! getting chewed out/embarrased feels better than succumbing to your fear. That's the magic in cold approaching. 99% of the time, you're never going to see that person again and the 1% you do is because the chick liked you. Just do it. Say some dumb shyt to get your feet wet. Fear of rejection is mostly imagination fukking with you.
This is what dudes need to learn. If your rejected its not like you'll drop dead on the spot or shyt, just keep it movin you'll most likely never see that girl again so
If you overcame that fear just one time and approached a girl you'll see that nothing bad happens and you'll be like and from there on just do it whenever you see a fine girl. There are too many wasted chances with NOT approaching dimes at the mall for example.
Usually before I go in i spend a few minutes vaping outside the entrance....(the gym here is in a strip mall area right next door to a women's clothing store, nail spa and beauty supply store... A treasure trove of coming and going females
So anyway.. I'm doing my pre-pre-workout thing vaping outside as usual... Car pulls up and parks bumping some techno crap. I'm expecting some geek to hop out or some lil size zero pawg... No Out hold this THICK redbone. Never seen her there before (I was there at an time I'm usually not)... But I'm talking BAD
Long story short I thought about folding her... Said good morning, let her pass me and go in...that view from behind ...
I'm still plotting... Assess it. Notice she has a band on left hand... She's really focused on her workout not too much eye contact, no smiles whatsoever....
I had a plethora of lines I could've used on her. im the typical "boy you know you fine as hell" so my ego and confidence are legit. Plus it wasnt crowded. At one moment it was just me and her in the whole area of the gym so I didn't have to worry about nikkaz seeing me get shot down (yes I'm self conscious, I'm human)
I decided not to..
1. Wasn't in the mood for rejection, which was highly possible considering the things I mentioned...
2. I like to keep my thirst level balanced.
3. That's somebody wife.. Nothing wrong with being a good guy for a chance and lay off that homewrecking shyt.
I did read that. You wrote a whole damn thesis on your approach and your odds of success. As soon as you saw that rock you should have kept it moving and not write a god damned dissertation on your jelly bath.
There's been numerous threads on this site about the pros and cons to "cold approaching" women. Sadly, the threads end up mostly focusing on the supposed "cons", and get overrun by dudes with little to no experience with cold approaching in the first place.
Cold approaching is basically defined as when you holla at a female without her previously showing any signs of interest. It also includes when you holla at a chick from behind, or some other sort of scenario in which she doesn't even see you until you're right there in her face talking to her(such as the chick in the following example).
9 out of 10 females that I slay, were cold approached.
And whether it was in the club, outside of the club, or at a grocery store, I did not wait around for the prey to show signs of interest before I engaged them.
And earlier tonight as I was finalizing plans to kick it with the young lady below I couldn't help but think to myself, "damn, yet another chick that I'm probably going to smash who, if I hadn't approached her, I'd never have this opportunity.."
And I thought to myself, "well them n!ggas on the Coli are always denying that this sh!t works, so why not show em one example that it does "
Exhibit A:
As you can see from the conversation:
A. I clearly cold-approached her
B. She never laid eyes on me until I startled her as she was peering down at the egg cartons
C. She never gave off any signs of interest in me(see B.)
Do not pass up an opportunity to holla at a woman just because she hasn't shown signs of interest in you. This is just ONE of MANY examples I could share that would attest to the success rate of cold approaching.
Please, brehs, take heed, and do not let little trivial myths being shared on the internet by half-virgins deprive you of potentially being in some guts.
You have a similar build to myself, to put in all that work in the gym I would of needed a women with a better shape (more @ss), when my physique went up my standard went all the way up, I couldn't just smash anyone......but have fun
Assessed the surroundings.. No mate or partner with her... Minimal eye contact here and there... Approached her in between her set... Hit her with one my lethal ones in the arsenal ....She bit.. Been hitting her up since
Haven't hit it yet.. Just brief text convo off and on.. I initiate most of it.. I don't know if its a boyfriend she's trying hard to be faithful to or whatever but I won't overplay my hand... I'm patient. I can sit back until she's ready to go or just charge it to the game...
The difference between this scenario and the other one was I didn't notice a band on her left hand, eye contact, she wasn't as serious about her workout as the other chick she was kinda lazy with it AND in the other scenario I forgot to leave out I had just got some ass prior to coming to the gym that day so my thirst levels were a bit lower...
Assessed the surroundings.. No mate or partner with her... Minimal eye contact here and there... Approached her in between her set... Hit her with one my lethal ones in the arsenal ....She bit.. Been hitting her up since
Haven't hit it yet.. Just brief text convo off and on.. I initiate most of it.. I don't know if its a boyfriend she's trying hard to be faithful to or whatever but I won't overplay my hand... I'm patient. I can sit back until she's ready to go or just charge it to the game...
The difference between this scenario and the other one was I didn't notice a band on her left hand, eye contact, she wasn't as serious about her workout as the other chick she was kinda lazy with it AND in the other scenario I forgot to leave out I had just got some ass prior to coming to the gym that day so my thirst levels were a bit lower...
Do you self a favor..
DON'T FU#K GIRLS AT YOUR MAIN GYM..........
If it goes bad it'll be extremely weird and hard for you to have a decent workout...and She"ll hate on you to the rest of the female in the gym.
Assessed the surroundings.. No mate or partner with her... Minimal eye contact here and there... Approached her in between her set... Hit her with one my lethal ones in the arsenal ....She bit.. Been hitting her up since
Haven't hit it yet.. Just brief text convo off and on.. I initiate most of it.. I don't know if its a boyfriend she's trying hard to be faithful to or whatever but I won't overplay my hand... I'm patient. I can sit back until she's ready to go or just charge it to the game...
The difference between this scenario and the other one was I didn't notice a band on her left hand, eye contact, she wasn't as serious about her workout as the other chick she was kinda lazy with it AND in the other scenario I forgot to leave out I had just got some ass prior to coming to the gym that day so my thirst levels were a bit lower...
Thick as hell and got that thigh tattoo, shyt is popular over here with the sorority chicks
Her head game probably immaculate
All you gotta do is invite her over to smoke/drink/netflix or some shyt, then you in there like swimwear
When I was getting to know my Woman I kept texting to a minimum and save the chit chat for face to face
As stated in another thread for the brehs my age in their early 30s we don't got time for all this bullshyt. So if you single and over 30 ignore OPs technique.
This shyt is for kids in their early 20's with loads of time on their hands and want to play games and listen to nikkas like "Real Social Dynamics" on YouTube or whatever
I used to be in that shyt in college. But grown Men should not be on that non-sense for the most part.
Focus on females who are already displaying a high level of attraction and interest towards you. Then weed them out from there.
There will be a handful you'll want to go for anyway - But those will be few and far inbetween.
At work you are in a position of power and authority usually and when a guest comes in you know more than they do and appear comfortable, relaxed and in your element.
Do you self a favor..
DON'T FU#K GIRLS AT YOUR MAIN GYM..........
If it goes bad it'll be extremely weird and hard for you to have a decent workout...and She"ll hate on you to the rest of the female in the gym.
I've had a few from that one (my main gym) and they don't effect me and I don't effect them... Just a hi head nod and keep it moving or nothing at all, especially if they're there with the new boo and shyt...
And I aim worried about them running they mouth either... If she wanna throw salt that's cool..
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