Ok, but without the looks, you’re not getting in the door for her to get to know your personality. And can we stop the praise of average, and below average people? An average looking person is just as capable of using you, cheating on you, and leaving you. An attractive person can be loyal, and have good character. People just want to find both. Men aren’t approaching a woman because she looks like a decent human being, and would make a good wife. We approach women we want to sleep with, and hope they have a good personality.