Is It Worth It For A Man Over The Age Of 35 To Date New Prospective Lovers?

[Deuterion]

Okay but what’s the point in being with a man that doesn’t meet your standards? Isn’t it better to be single than settle for a short ugly broke single dad that has no time for you? Especially if that’s not what you want? Or are you the type of person that thinks women should just take any man to avoid being single?

You’re living in extremes...there’s nuance here e.g. he might be tall, handsome, nice car but has a kid....or short, handome, ok car, and a kid. If you ain’t willing to compromise you will be alone at 37, 47, and 57. To me, a woman that is 37 and has never been married or had an LTR and has no kids most likely ain’t shyt. Probably delusional, picky, stubborn and is unable to keep a man. Lastly, I don’t think a Woman needs a Man but if she wants one then she needs to be realistic.

If you want 50 Cent you gotta accept that the ride in the Rolls Royce Cullinan to the finest restaurant in Lagos ain’t gonna be every night. He’s gotta travel and earn the money that affords you those nights plus take care of his kids and etc. A lot of career women want a dude they can tuck under their armpit and if you as a man accept that position they lose respect for you but if you don’t accept it they don’t wanna date you.

 

[King of Creampies]

I'm 39. Will be 40 in summer of '19

I just signed up for Match.com because my coworker swears that he eats on there. I see his logic. If women are actually paying money to be a part of a site, they are less likely to waste your time or play games in hopes of seeing a return on their financial investment

How wrong I was in that line of thinking

I'll back up a little. Since I'm 39, as a general dating rule, I only date 5 years down or up. My age range is 34-44.

When women are that age and still single, there is just a certain bitterness and jaded outlook on men that has come and developed over time from the result of failed relationship after failed relationship, multiple b*stard kids from multiple dudes, and a bitterness and envy towards younger, hotter, more vibrant women.

Trying to talk to and communicate with these women seems vain and futile. And it's not even worth putting up with a little of their bullshyt to hit like you would've did with the 23 year old version of the very same woman. Cottage cheese thighs, saggy titties, splotchy skin and crowsfeet are not exactly "I can catch an attitude and still keep around" attributes. But the other alternative is loneliness or become Trick Daddy status

Drop your opinions brehs. Are women past 35 worth getting to know and pursuing, or are they pretty much a monolithic lost cause?

No. You are a black man of means and I can tell in your words how serious you are.

I been here before too after getting divorced and for a very short time had teh same feelings you had....but I met someone.

My female is 48 and I am 40.

Met her 2 months shy of being 40.

I dated quite a bit and plenty of lackluster females more so the ones you mentioned.

Bought back a lot of fukkery for me just going on dates....

But....she gave me eye contact at a BB and we spoke.

She is professional and just as strong as me. We took our time and really set up boundaries as we both had some awful marriges.

The thing is once I got divorced I didn't go in hating females or this wild MGTOW shyt I went in with love and I was thankful for that.

I do not hate women because of bad experiences on my end...I chose to be married to find out what kind of man I was...and I do not regret that at all....

but I love women too much to deny them based on a few bad ones so I left the bullshyt at home and found someone I am happy with.

It will happen.

Let go of the bias and just step as you have always done with these females.

 

[The Radiant One]

That's the thing. I'm college educated, own my home, settled into my career. All of that. Not looking to let some bytch leech off of me or date a woman who's not bringing to the table what I'm bringing to the table. That lessens my options and makes it harder to find my equal in dating, hence the thread...

There are more woman like that than men. You should go to Atlanta you have women practically giving dowries to men.

 

[born of fire]

you must be the most physically fit unaging 39 year old man on the planet talking about women’s “cottage cheese thighs and crows feet”. you must have a lot of old ass looking women around you, you’re 40 not 80.

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

you must be the most physically fit unaging 39 year old man on the planet talking about women’s “cottage cheese thighs and crows feet”. you must have a lot of old ass looking women around you, you’re 40 not 80.

I'm actually very in shape. 6'2", 220 lbs of lean muscle, since you're inquiring. I take great care to keep myself in shape. I take care of my skin, don't drink alcohol or smoke, don't party excessively, and eat copious amounts of vegetables and fruit. Plus I'm Black. Get mistaken for 31 years of age or younger frequently.

And yes. I've seen many women who DON'T take care of themselves physically because these desperate, lying nikkas created the term "thick" to make fat bytches not feel bad and self conscious about being FAT. If the shoe doesn't fit you, then don't try it on. But, as my grandmother used to always tell me: "throw a rock at a pack of dogs, and the hit one will always holler". Wise woman my granny was

 

[SheWantTheD]

I was not looking for stability in my twenties or thirties. Who said i wasnt getting chose? Can you nikkas read?

Aaaand that's your fault!

I'm 24 and I will not waste no time looking for wifey within a few years, think im tryna build a family with a woman with kids, got hella baggage and issues? Hell nah son.

Plus you don't get to enjoy your partner when they are young and look their best physically.

 

[born of fire]

I'm actually very in shape. 6'2", 220 lbs of lean muscle, since you're inquiring. I take great care to keep myself in shape. I take care of my skin, don't drink alcohol or smoke, don't party excessively, and eat copious amounts of vegetables and fruit. Plus I'm Black. Get mistaken for 31 years of age or younger frequently.

And yes. I've seen many women who DON'T take care of themselves physically because these desperate, lying nikkas created the term "thick" to make fat bytches not feel bad and self conscious about being FAT. If the shoe doesn't fit you, then don't try it on. But, as my grandmother used to always tell me: "throw a rock at a pack of dogs, and the hit one will always holler". Wise woman my granny was

alright dude damn. i hope you find your wife.

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

Aaaand that's your fault!

I'm 24 and I will not waste no time looking for wifey within a few years, think im tryna build a family with a woman with kids, got hella baggage and issues? Hell nah son.

Plus you don't get to enjoy your partner when they are young and look their best physically.

man fukk that. I enjoyed myself, fukked women, stacked bread, and got my degree in my youth. I'm not no simp nikka who wants to waste my youth fukking on the same vagina. I was in shape, had money, and options. I took advantage. So what? You're no better than me because you wanna lockdown and handcuff the first bytch that was nice to you because you didn't want another nikka to get her. I know your type homie. And then, when that bytch inevitably flips on you and starts acting different, you turn into the old nikka in the club, trying to relive the youth you didn't take advantage of. I got degrees, own my home, settled in my career. A cool bytch is a plus at this point, not a necessity. If one comes along, I'm good. If one doesn't, I'm good. See how that works??

 

[Phitz]

you must be the most physically fit unaging 39 year old man on the planet talking about women’s “cottage cheese thighs and crows feet”. you must have a lot of old ass looking women around you, you’re 40 not 80.

People on here act like as soon as you hit 35 you become out of shape. People MAKE themselves out of shape, it doesn't just happen

 

[SheWantTheD]

man fukk that. I enjoyed myself, fukked women, stacked bread, and got my degree in my youth. I'm not no simp nikka who wants to waste my youth fukking on the same vagina. I was in shape, had money, and options. I took advantage. So what? You're no better than me because you wanna lockdown and handcuff the first bytch that was nice to you because you didn't want another nikka to get her. I know your type homie. And then, when that bytch inevitably flips on you and starts acting different, you turn into the old nikka in the club, trying to relive the youth you didn't take advantage of. I got degrees, own my home, settled in my career. A cool bytch is a plus at this point, not a necessity. If one comes along, I'm good. If one doesn't, I'm good. See how that works??

Nah.. I've been getting p*ssy thrown at me from a very young age.

I'm in my last semester of college and have no shortage of women throwing it at me.

I don't need to get two to three decades of hoing out my system to feel as if I didn't miss out.

I'm tryna build a legacy, and I don't wanna still be raising kids in my 60s, and if you choose to start having kids now, you probably will.

Most people are out here fukking anything and everything, that's easy.

What you're saying doesn't even make sense bro. You looking for a diamond in the rough. Only way you gonna be able to find a good, quality woman that's also is attractive if she's considerably younger than you ie 30, or she got divorced but still has kids or maybe she doesn't.

But a fine woman, with a good body, that's of high quality, feminine got cuffed, that got their shyt together, etc in they 20s!

 

[paperbag]

alright dude damn. i hope you find your wife.

He referred to woman as having "fish tunnels" but we're the bitter ones. If you don't LIKE women just have sex with them and move on don't try to pull someone into a emotional relationship.

You have a college degree, house and a career, nikka I would hope so, you're 40 years old

 

[DJSmooth]

I'm actually very in shape. 6'2", 220 lbs of lean muscle, since you're inquiring. I take great care to keep myself in shape. I take care of my skin, don't drink alcohol or smoke, don't party excessively, and eat copious amounts of vegetables and fruit. Plus I'm Black. Get mistaken for 31 years of age or younger frequently.

And yes. I've seen many women who DON'T take care of themselves physically because these desperate, lying nikkas created the term "thick" to make fat bytches not feel bad and self conscious about being FAT. If the shoe doesn't fit you, then don't try it on. But, as my grandmother used to always tell me: "throw a rock at a pack of dogs, and the hit one will always holler". Wise woman my granny was

Where are you meeting women? I'd recommend going to places like Essence Festival.

 

[badtguy]

It depends on what you can attract.

If a chick is fat with 2 kids, it will be tougher for her to have the same requirements that a chick with a banging body and no kids can have.

And having that height requirement fu**s a lot of women up.

At the same time, I'm not mad at women for going for what they want. Just have to know the potential drawbacks of being stringent in certain categories.

facts- women dont reason like men- most men identify a woman as "dateable" she might not have the phat ass or big titties but maybe shes toned and goes to the gym, she may not have long flowing hair but she looks good with a short cut. men are able to get pass certain physical attributes if the women checks all other boxes. many women cannot.

its not just a height thing but also whether a man is light or dark, hairline, dressing, penis size, type of car.... how deep a mans voice is, whether he can grow a beard, income.

they box themselves in-

 

[badtguy]

Nah.. I've been getting p*ssy thrown at me from a very young age.

I'm in my last semester of college and have no shortage of women throwing it at me.

I don't need to get two to three decades of hoing out my system to feel as if I didn't miss out.

I'm tryna build a legacy, and I don't wanna still be raising kids in my 60s, and if you choose to start having kids now, you probably will.

Most people are out here fukking anything and everything, that's easy.

What you're saying doesn't even make sense bro. You looking for a diamond in the rough. Only way you gonna be able to find a good, quality woman that's also is attractive if she's considerably younger than you ie 30, or she got divorced but still has kids or maybe she doesn't.

But a fine woman, with a good body, that's of high quality, feminine got cuffed, that got their shyt together, etc in they 20s!

Fact! i tell my nephews and younger cuzzos look for the wife type around mid-late 20's
make sure shes around 23-28
only exception is long term relationships or women who haven't dated
after that its a wrap

 

[Bushmaster69]

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